Need honest advice pls?

[Anonymous]

So I’ve been in an abusive relationship for 8years now and we have no sexual relationship or relationship whatsoever for years but yet I’m still here I don't know why according to my therapist I’m in a trauma bond but anyone so no sex, kissing nothing with this person in maybe 7yrs which is weird to me but anyway I met a person unexpectedly that wants to meet me and I’m not a cheater and I don’t sleep around but this person has expressed interest in me and tells me I don’t deserve what I’m going through etc would meeting up with this guy be a bad idea? Thoughts pls honest advice

[Anonymous]

Yes it would be a bad idea. First of all get out of the relationship you’re in. Second get professional help because you’re going to fuck up your next relationship. You’re so used to being in this type of situation that even if you found a man who gave you a “normal” relationship, you would t like it because to you that isn’t “normal.” You need that chaos in your life to feel normal, needed. If you think this new man is a a nice, descent person, then don’t drag him through your emotional damage.

[Asker]

I agree fully thank you

[Jay-_-]

Honest advice, first make it known you don't want to be with this person. Clearly something clicked for you to make this post and you clearly don't have any reason for being with this person, secondly take time for yourself to be alone, find comfort in thriving with yourself for a while, after a while look for someone if it interests you.

[PeachyPie93]

If you two aren't even having sex how is it a romantic relationship? Aren't you two basically just living together and he is abusive so shouldn't you just leave. I wouldn't recommend getting in another relationship but you should defo sneak away from the guy you are with and move away.

[Asker]

I always think about this but I never do I always stay and give chance after chance after chance and I’m so tired

[PeachyPie93]

Stop doing that. He is wasting your life away and taking any chance of happiness from you, just leave. It's not helping either one of you, to stay together.

[Iron_Man]

if you’re in a relationship, you don’t date in the middle of the relationship you have to have it officially over he has to know about it. It has to be official,

[Asker]

Yeah I see what you mean I’ve been so hesitant about the whole situation they say they just wanna meet me but I don't know

[Iron_Man]

Where did you meet this person? You have to be careful of new guys. Some guys want to cut and Run wants sex only

[Asker]

Gaming 😂 talking as friends off and on for about 4months

[Iron_Man]

I don’t recommend dating

[Asker]

But yeah I was worried about that too

[Asker]

He says he just wants to meet me but I don't know

[Iron_Man]

I don’t think so

[Daniela1982]

@Iron_Man Does this question seem more like a troll question than truth?

[Iron_Man]

@Daniela1982 not sure 100%

[Asker]

Not a troll?

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Pack your bags & leave it’s time to move on.

[gorydetails]

Why the fuck are you still in the abusive relationship?

[Asker]

I ask myself this all the time was told I’m in a trauma bond to why I stay

[gorydetails]

Wait, so you just were told some bullshit catchphrase and were like “oh well, that’s where I’m staying, it’s got a diagnosis”

[Asker]

No it’s just been hard to leave it’s hard to explain

[gorydetails]

Not as hard as living with abuse.

[Marriedandavailable]

Good to meet for you. First kiss him. If you feel better to love, you can leave from your certain darling.

[Daniela1982]

@Marriedandavailable You can't give good advice just because you cheat on your wife now, can you? I'm assuming that because of your user name. 😯🙄

[Marriedandavailable]

@Daniela1982 This my individual decision. I do not give a promise anybody I will love. Fuckbuddy relations I need. Because I like sex more than my wife.

[Marriedandavailable]

If you are in Madrid, I can make you and me happy as well.

[In_Trance]

You need to be on your own for a while

[Asker]

Yeah I’m just feeling so lost right now I’ve never been in a relationship like this and we basically have 0 relationship everyone says my partner is my roommate who abuses me and now I have this random guy expressing interest in me and I don't know how to handle it or what to say to him he wants to meet and I’m just at a loss cause I’m not someone who cheats I been with my boyfriend for 8yrs with no sex and haven’t cheated once

[Daniela1982]

What exactly do you define as abuse?

[Asker]

He’s very narcissistic and emotionally and mentally abusive