How would you feel if someone told you “you deserve better”?

[Anonymous]

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What if they were drunk when they told you? Would that make a difference?

[Drew-1990]

It depends on who is saying it and why. I think sometimes it is just something says to make you feel better others I think they mean it and see you go through crap you don't deserve. Honestly on your update I would believe it more from a drunk person most people speak the truth when they are drunk.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I'm often guilty of telling people that when they ask my advice on bad relationships! I just don't see why anyone has to settle getting hurt. Maybe it isn't my place to tell them, but somebody has to or they will never gain the confidence to at least TRY and improve their lives.

[IslaTheWitch]

I've heard it many times. But I can assess by myself what I want and how I feel about what I have. I don't need anyone to tell me that.

the more drunk the speaking person is the less meaning their words have. Alcohol changes perception...

[TommyMountainFigure]

@islathewitch, I have a question for you, purely from a hypothetical standpoint. What if you were to ask a friend if they thought you were with the right person? Would you see 'you deserve better' as condescending then? I ask because whenever I see someone in a bad relationship they can't get out of, I use that wording, but I do so in the hope it gives them the confidence then need!

[TommyMountainFigure]

*they

[IslaTheWitch]

@TommyMountainFigure I don't like this wording, it somehow judges my choice. If you have concerns shape them in more feedback form - your observations and conclusions you want to pass to the person you are worried about

[Dbtr99]

I would say you’re right I don’t deserve this crap and leave , cuz they obviously don’t want you there. That’s normally an excuse for people to get out of a relationship.

[Dbtr99]

thanks for mho

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic "you deserve better" line—it's the emotional equivalent of a double-edged sword, don't you think? On one hand, it feels like a compliment wrapped in concern, suggesting you're worth more than what you're settling for. On the flip side, oh boy, it can sting! It's like a polite nudge saying you might be wearing rose-colored glasses in a situation that's not serving you well. My take? Use it as a moment of reflection. Is it a genuine concern from someone who sees your value more clearly than you do at the moment, or is it a subtle hint to re-evaluate your standards? Either way, keep it flirty, keep it curious, and let it guide you to what truly makes your heart tick!

[bobalife]

They’re right. People usually say this when they can tell you’re not in a good place or not treated right. It’s coming from a good place looking out for you. But I know it will be hard for people to take this in and may be in denial.

[ProbablyClueless]

I'd assume they were being more honest if they were drunk, but I'd think they were being honest either way.

If someone told me I deserved better, it would make me think. I know it made me think the last time someone said that to me.

[glennos89]

I would take it as a lame excuse because only people who are afraid to be honest for whatever reason and I think it's totally a dick move

[Nikki1989]

An ex did say that to me once and my reply was “you know what, you are right.” Bye!

[Account]

I would tell them: "Sure I do" and I would never talk to them again.

[Anonymous]

I know I do. But just because you deserve it doesn't mean this world is going to give it to you.

It's alright. Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. And I'm pretty happy.🙂👍

[itsclearlynicholas]

"you're so right" - unquote. 😂😆🤣😆😀😅🌃 And I'd carry on my merry way. Say I'm already single 😆

[DreamLife7]

Hun, he doesn't like you. It's his way of dumping you without having to say, " I'm dumping you". What aren't you comprehending?

[Jay-_-]

Id question if she cheated on me and then ask her why do you think that and depending on the response id question my whole relationship.

[Sameone]

If he/her was your partner (say this to u). 100% he/her. cheats on you

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Even if it does make sense, it still makes me cringe due to how cliche it is

[I_Am_Loner0405]

I wouldn’t believe them

[Anonymous]

IKTS aka i know that’s right

[jack1924]

And…

[ballweevil]

that they are lying

[In_Trance]

indifferent