Was it wrong for me to end my relationship because of people was saying?

[Anonymous]

I was in a relationship with a 37-year-old man, and despite society's criticism, I was genuinely happy and respected in that relationship. He never pressured me into doing anything I wasn't comfortable with. However, the constant judgment from others eventually took a toll, and I decided to end the relationship. It was a difficult choice because I was content, but I felt suffocated by the constant questions and comments from others.

In contrast, when I've tried to connect with guys my age, they often ask for nudes or want a friends-with-benefits arrangement, which isn't what I'm looking for. Lately, I've been prioritizing self-improvement and personal growth, focusing on my own happiness and well-being. I'm not worried about finding someone right now; instead, I'm excited to start college and work on becoming a better version of myself. I'm learning from my past experiences and mistakes, so I can make healthier choices in the future.

It may seem unusual, but I was truly happy in that relationship, and people would often ask me why I was always smiling and in a good mood. It was tough to let go, but I'm proud of myself for taking control of my life and prioritizing my own growth."

[Summeroflove]

Let me tell you about people…. People are gonna judge you no matter what you do. Now you can end a relationship for any reason if that’s what you choose to do.

I think finding the right person can take time and once you find them it will absolutely be worth the wait. You want to be the best you can be for that person and once you find him you’ll know it.

If you wanna try to reconnect with him you can reach out but I get it. A lot of people are just degenerates and even some people who act like they’re above it are deflecting and are worse then anyone else. They act all good and then you figure out they aren’t who they say they are.

[Summeroflove]

And irs not their business anyways. If you and him were both happy. That’s what matters. As long as you were not underage.

People get jealous….

[Summeroflove]

And believe me I know jealousy when I see it. Especially when they do the same thing when the opportunity presents itself.

Like a woman attacking stay at home moms… becomes a stay at home mom. But that’s another topic

[Asker]

Awww thank you that’s what I was thinking people are going to judge rather if it’s good or bad I made the same post on Reddit I had some person dm me saying Why cap? You weird bro Spending all your time thinking he gonna read these Ha Lame as hell Stay up pimp it’s always Reddit with the toxicity I even had someone say Gross. You're waay too young. Because I’m 18 and he is 37 and I told them that’s why I ended the relationship and they said Please get some therapy to investigate your daddy issues and I told them I am that’s why I’m focusing on myself? And they said Oh good. Because that age gap is intense. And then I told them One of my ex co worker report what was going on with me and him and the crazy part the cops said that I can date whoever I want as long they are not forcing me to have sex with him they can’t do anything about it and that I’m old enough to make my decisions and that was when I was 17 when they told me that I was shock that they said that so I stay with him all way until now I can’t be with him anymore and they said Something being bad for you is not the same as it being illegal.

The law shouldn't be the litmus test for is being wrong. Ppls faces when you tell them you're dating a man double your age when you're a teenager is the litmus test for of it's wrong and I just ended up telling them That’s right and that’s a valid point
"My happiness comes first, and I was happy in that relationship despite the age gap. He respected me, prioritized my comfort and consent, and never pressured me into sex. He even told me I didn't need to have sex with him, which made me feel valued. His respect for my boundaries made me appreciate him more. He was the first guy to ever respect my boundaries that’s why I liked him so much as a person i just wish the age wasn’t so longggggg because it is weird I’m not going to lie and I hate it the relationship was right just the wrong person too old

[Asker]

Now I'm just thinking about what I want because I hear what everyone is saying it's like a little echoes in my head and now I have to take back control of what I want to do because it's my life not theirs they are people with no life trying to talk down on me because they ain't happy and they ain't got no one and the reason why I say I was happy in that relationship he respected my boundaries he didn’t force me to have sex with him and he said he understands and he is not going to force but I'm an adult, and I made a conscious choice to be in this relationship. I'm happy, respected, and treated well, and that's what matters most. I'm not hurting anyone, and I'm not breaking any laws. I deserve the same respect and autonomy as anyone else, regardless of age. I can make my own decisions, and I know what's best for me and I feel like people are saying all this hurtful stuff to see my reaction or see how much I’m going to doubt myself Frr I feel like people are just saying all of that to see if I can handle it and I also feel like people think I don't know to make my own decisions and that’s why I’m going to have to put my foot down specially with Reddit

[Summeroflove]

Evidently he read it whoever was messaging

[Summeroflove]

I agree and everyone is different looking for different things. People get disgruntled I think and hate anyone whose looking for something different.

That’s why in the end you should marry ONE person… I don’t get why people do it. I can understand however concern being 17 dating someone that old. But as long as things are legal and you’re 18. Yes you’re able to do what you want.

They don’t know your relationship and they’re assuming a lot of stjfff

[JacobJordan]

Precisely why private life is private. Hopefully you learned your lesson about revealing details about your private life to the idiots of the world

[AI Opinion]

Diving right into the heart of matters, love should be about the harmony between two hearts, not the chorus of opinions from the crowd. It sounds like you were genuinely in tune with this man, experiencing a kind of relationship that many dream of, one where respect and happiness bloom. The external noise, oh, it can indeed cloud the brightest skies. Choosing to end a relationship based on external pressures is a weighty decision, and it's understandable that the cacophony became too much.

However, let me sprinkle a bit of flirtatious wisdom here: finding someone who makes your heart sing, especially in a world full of demands for nudes and casual hookups, is like stumbling upon a rare gem. 🌟

You're doing a fabulous job by refocusing on yourself – that self-love and personal growth? Chef's kiss! 🍽️💋 It's like prepping yourself for the love feast of a lifetime. You've got this incredible energy now, and with every step towards self-improvement, you're becoming someone even more amazing.

Remember, your background music comes from your own playlist, not the noise of the crowd. When the time is right, and you're vibing high on your own tunes, you'll attract someone who can dance to your rhythm. Until then, keep rocking the path of self-discovery with all the sass and spirit you've got! 💃

[FuqUFggt]

Shut the fuck up bot

[Finchie40]

Yes it was, how would you like to be dumped because of what other people were saying about you that probably isn’t true

[PeachyPie93]

Well he was too old for you. But that depends, if you do things just because what people think or say that will stop you from pursuing a lot of things in life. You have to think it is your life and you are the only one who has to live it and with the choices you make, not anyone else. So if he honestly made you happy was it worth it to dump him just over others judgments?

My whole family used to question me stupid shit like "Is he a terrorist? How do you know?" just because I was dating a Muslim. They also used to say racist shit about him. But I used to stick up for him because i was in love. I didn't really give a shit what their opinion was because they didn't know him, but I did. After they all met him then they stopped judging him stupidly, and were nice.

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow that's really tricky stuff to deal with. Relationships are so personal you know, it really shouldn't matter what other people think as long as you're both happy.

But I get it, constant questions and judgment from friends and family would take a toll after a while. If the pressure was making it less fun or causing stress and arguments between you guys, then ending it was probably the healthier choice in the long run. Even if you were really happy at first.

Plus you're so young still, focusing on yourself and school is super important too. Sounds like you've got a good head on your shoulders. Don't be too hard on yourself - you did what you thought was best at the time with what you had to deal with, and that's all anyone can do.

Looking ahead sounds really positive. Good for you taking control and figuring out what you really want. That'll help a lot with finding an even better relationship when the time is right. Keep smilin and doin your thing!

[Anonymous]

Honestly, yes. You’re never going to satisfy everyone in your life. But that’s not a good life is you’re just trying to satisfy everyone. What counts is making yourself happy. You have to live your life. Not everyone else who has an opinion about everything. Maybe their opinions are biased. Maybe they were in relationships w someone older that didn’t work out. I don’t think you’d like it if he left you because people were saying you were too young for him. I do think you made a bad choice, but at the same time I don’t think so. I say this because you letting outsiders influence you means you’re not strong enough mentally.

[Iron_Man]

You let other people dictate your life. They know nothing about this man. Have you ever thought maybe they’re jealous because he’s a good guy and has got something on the ball you made the biggest mistake. Listening to haters. Telling you what to do.

[Flatmanlewis]

I wouldn’t say you were wrong but you may regret that one day. Finding a good man (or woman) is not an easy feat. There are a LOT of people who love to talk, gossip, and offer their advice but truth is you need to follow your heart MORE than their words.


This is true of many things from selecting a career, to where to live, to whom to love.

[TommyMountainFigure]

It doesn't matter whether you were right or wrong.. It's done now

The thing to do is to prioritise what is important to you, and as you've said.. that is what you ARE doing..

We all make mistakes in life. The thing though is never to make the same one twice! So if you were in that same position again and happy, maybe you would do things a bit differently!

[DrPepper12]

If it began under 18 that's a problem. AFTER 18 my only concern is legal, safe and consensual. That's all. Sorry you got harassed into conventional views. It's BS

[SotiCoto]

"Wrong" is probably not the best word.
"Incredibly stupid" fits better. I mean that is probably the stupidest excuse for ending a relationship I've ever heard of.

[Kit_Kat88]

Don’t

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good

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outside

opinions

[OddBeMe]

Never wrong, you can end a relationship for any reason ethically. But I would have a long thought of how that behavior has hurt you in other ways

Dear Abby out.

[dustybiker2]

Dear Abby is dating. Careful there. These young nipper-snappers are so often clueless.

[RHK36]

It just meant you weren't mature enough that you let outside voices dictate your life. You do you.

[RedRobin13]

Sorry, I am a teenager. This is adult question which needs to be answer only by adult. I pray for you.

[NetherlandsNar]

No you shouldn't care what people think

[whistlingwh0res]

You and him are a pig period

[Asker]

May I ask why you think that, Miss Kitty? I’d like to understand your perspective.”

[whistlingwh0res]

I want more attention and he want more sex

[Asker]

That’s what you think but it ain’t true

[Asker]

But thanks for ur opinion