Does she have feelings and why is she hiding them if so and going to such extremes and what happened?

[Anonymous]

She me and her have been best friends since we met. Once we did have a talk about us both having feelings and it didn’t work out bc she had to much of a fear of us losing each other if it didn’t.

but months later she picked up talking and she wanted to hangout every day, call each other every night and through the day while sending flirty messages to check in on each other, getting me to stay at her place often, taking pictures together like we were a couple, meetings each other’s inner circle that we never did before, she would also tell me how she wanted me to kiss her and make a move on her which all of this to me is clear as day she has feelings…HOWEVER she plays this friendship card so often and hard or she’ll make it to were I can’t make a move when I try so I never make a move bc of it and she’ll later on go back to saying how I should’ve made a move even though she made it clear not to from my perspective and I mentioned it one day and she said it wasn’t true, then she does it again all over again.

then recently she got mad at me for not starting a conversation on a car ride home, i didn’t ignore her we still talked I told her i didn’t feel well and she got mad, later in the week after she was done ignoring me she said that I was on the shit list for it…. then followed by a couple days that were normal with her asking to hangout and her making plans then she hits me with a whole were just friends and I’m being clingy when she was the one initiating everything but goes on how everything we did and everything that was said was just our friendship

so I slowed down talking to almost a complete stop bc I feel like I made her uncomfortable when i didn’t do anything except accepting her invites. Now she just gets mad at me for not talking which I still reply when she reaches out but she gets mad over stuff she shouldn’t if she didn’t have feelings like im supposed to have her centered and im not allowed to talk anyone else or she is mad now.

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah dude that's intense. It really seems like she has some feelings for you but is scared to actually commit to anything. The hot and cold acts she's pulling would be super confusing. It's like she wants to be more than friends but then gets freaked out and pulls away. The mixed signals are not cool.

It might help to have an honest talk with her about how her actions are making you feel. Let her know the flirty stuff and then sudden friendzone stuff is messing with your head. Ask her what she really wants - is it just friendship or could it be more? Maybe she needs to sort out her own feelings before dragging you around.

You don't deserve to be someone's back-up plan or only option when they’re bored. You need to think about what you want and what's best for you too. If nothing is resolved after talking, you may need to take a real step back for your own sake. Having feelings for a friend can make things messy, but open communication is the only way to clear things up. Hope it all works out for you man!

[Fanfare690]

I've read this like 6 times to get a good understanding. Like the guys said at first I believed she was scared and the other comment that she was playing games. I do think it could be both or she's playing games. She sounds extremely entitled and confusing

[spartan55]

Dude... fuck that. She is playing you like a piano.