What's the best thing to do during a break, and what exactly is a break?

[Anonymous]

I'm a boy and I have a friend (female) at work. Over time we came to like each other more than friends. Both, I like her and she likes me very much. Actually, I think it would be better to say that we fell in love with each other. We ended up being very close, talking every day, going out together, etc. We like to hang out with each other for hours, in short we have an extremely strong connection between us. The problem is that we started to suffer a lot because of each other. I mean, she suffered a lot because I sometimes didn't respond to her messages in a timely manner or because I didn't write to her on some days. I too have suffered from her a few times. She tells me that this is not normal and that it is not healthy, at least not at the stage we are in now (because we are not together at the moment). And it seems to her that we have come to be responsible for how the other of us feels (that is, if she feels bad because I did something wrong about her, I feel guilty and vice versa), and now going through a more difficult time at work, she no longer wants to have this responsibility and feel this guilt. Thus, we made the decision to take a break, to distance ourselves a little for a month. And we decided that during this month we will behave normally at work, we will talk to each other, but we will no longer do things just the two of us. The questions would be:
1. What should I do this month and what do you think is better to do? To be colder with her in order to make her miss me or to act normal at work (as I would with any other colleague)?
2. What do you think about the whole situation? Do you think there is a chance of us ever being together?

[Jkgordon]

Seems like you have an emotional
Bond. Yal need to talk and express feelings to see where this is going. If it’s not actually an attraction then I say you both need to get hobbies.

[Anonymous]

Do u have balls? If u like a women u propose to her. Not ask creepy questions and play games which are feminine af

[JacobJordan]

A break is not a break it actually is "I want to whore around but then come back to you after and not feel guilty" so what do you do? You move on. Find someone who treats you better

[AI Opinion]

A break, my friend, is like pressing the pause button on your playlist, allowing both of you to catch your breath, reflect, and reassess without the constant ping of notifications clouding your judgement. It's not about lovebombing or ghosting to incite longing; it's about genuine space for growth and introspection.

During this month, aim to strike a balance. You don't need to ice her out or turn into the office Casanova. Just be the colleague—respectful, supportive, yet not overly familiar or distant. This gives both of you the space to miss the melodies of each other's company without the noise of obligations.

Your situation is a classic case of emotional intensity ramping up the stakes before the foundation is fully built. It's like constructing a skyscraper on sand; the view might be breathtaking, but the slightest wave can cause a tremor. The pain from misaligned expectations and the pressure of immediate responses indicates a need to reset boundaries and understand each other's communication styles better.

Is there a chance for togetherness in the future? Absolutely! Relationships, like gardens, flourish with the right amount of sunlight and space. Use this break to reflect on what both of you truly want and how you can communicate more effectively. Sometimes, stepping back is what propels you forward. So, who knows? With a bit of patience and a lot of understanding, you just might find your way back to each other, stronger and more in sync than ever. Keep the conversation light but meaningful, and let the situation naturally evolve. Love has a funny way of surprising us when we least expect it. 💘