What does being on a break mean?

[firefly008]

Are we still in a relationship? Will he contact me after the new year?

[comebackbrighter]

I would interpret that as time out to see if you miss each other or not. There has obviously been a problem in the relationship to cause this. Whether you are remaining faithful to each other in the meantime depends on what you agreed. If you hadn't mentioned being faithful I would assume that you both have the freedom to date other people, but out of decency I would say that no one would start a new relationship without finalising the 'break' first. Carry on with your life as if it's not going to continue and begin enjoying your freedom. If it's meant to be, it will happen in the New Year, but I would say that Christmas and New Year is the time to be with those you choose, sorry, it sounds like he doesn't choose you. Please don't feel upset, there is never a truer saying as plenty more fish in the sea. Like I say, feel enpowered by your new found freedom and relish doing the things you couldn't do in a relationship.If he does come back, he will find this attractive.

[confused415]

I think it is ridiculous. If you love someone, you will work through your problems. To go on a break is just strange to me. It's like others have said, you either take it or leave it. It's a game to put a relationship on hold. At that point, it's confusing. It's like a ticket to date other people, guilt free, and a backup plan when things backfire. So is he supposed to come back to you once he leaves another girl? What happens when they work out? He's supposed to leave you? It's just such a mind game that it's not worth it, especially when you are left to wait in the dust. I'd rather have the ultimatum and let them choose. You take it, or you leave it. At that point, you know their feelings.

[Anonymous]

I have no idea what it means. It means different things to different people. I thought it meant that a couple would be on a break to do things separately for a bit, but are still in a relationship, meaning nothing with the opposite sex would happen.

Unfortunately, when I went on a break with my ex, he decided to meet a new girl. Which eventually led to our break-up.

After a couple month "break", we met up and he said he met someone else.

What a waste of time.

I don't believe in breaks. Either you are in a relationship, or you're not. Nothing in between. Don't have any gray areas, or else you'll be really confused, like I was.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the guy and what his intentions are during the break. Could give him time to f*** around,could be what he is doing before he dumps you officially :( or just needs time. Sometimes people take a step back and realize that they want to be in the relationship and it could be the best thing to ever happen and on the other hand it could be just they are unsure of the relationship and want to be single. It's usually a make it or break it situation,just give it time and let him be. If he is f***ing around with you there's no point in hanging around as he's not worth it. Good luck and whatever happens you'll be OK :)

[jeandarc]

It means that you're taking a break from each other. Technically, you'd both have the freedom to date and, if you so desire, sleep with other people. However the possibility of you two getting back together in the future can still be possible. If you're comfortable with that, then you know what to expect. If it makes you uncomfortable, then just end the relationship for good.

[Anonymous]

in my experience it means "I want to see if I can go have sex with someone else guilt free"

[PrivateGirl]

You should say well your either with me or your not, and let him decide and if he chooses not then he was an idiot of a guy and wasn't worth it x