How can a girl avoid being used?

[Anonymous]

My friend was in love with this guy. She was so happy with him that she even moved in with him. She got him expensive gifts and was looking forward to marrying him. Now after 1 year he wants her to move out. He says he met someone that is more adventurous in bed and hotter outside. My friend is devastated. She is feeling like a cheap hooker. How can I help her? Why men behave this way?

[Unit1]

There is no surefire way to avoid being used. There is reducing the risk of being used. Remember, the highly deceptive ones know their art to get what they want. Be it for money, sex, green card...

Always keep your wits up.

[laly520]

sadly, she went for the wrong guy

he wasn't worth of all her love n care

I would spend time with her n help her move on

[elizamichale1]

I don't understand what's there to be feeling like a cheap hooker huhh

[JaneDee5]

It's when a guy makes us his girlfriend, there is romance, love making, lives with us and stays for a year or so but won't give us the damn proposal, won't marry us. Most of us don't date just for sex se romance and staying as a girlfriend or to then get dumped. Most of us want to be proposed to.

[JaneDee5]

Well I'm already married but several others feel so cheap and awful when she's good enough to be his girlfriend but not his wife.

[elizamichale1]

@JaneDee5 well I understand tht honey... ofcourse all if us want tht but it happens... things sometimes don't work out...

[elizamichale1]

How about when we dump the guts huhh

[JaneDee5]

If we dump the man it's usually for good reasons. A man not wanting marriage would be a deal-breaker to many women.

[elizamichale1]

@JaneDee5 nah that's not always true honey... we also sometimes find someone more compatible n loving

[JaneDee5]

Yes it's not always true. I'm just pointing out that if a woman wants marriage, she doesn't want to get string along and spend too much time as a girlfriend.

[elizamichale1]

@JaneDee5 oh yes that's true

[elizamichale1]

Thanks for the mho honey

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the stormy seas of love and relationships, it's heartbreaking to hear about your friend's ship hitting such a rough patch. To help her heal and move forward, remind her that her worth isn't defined by another's inability to see her value. Love isn’t about how much we spend or bend; it's about mutual respect, deep connection, and shared values. Encouraging her to focus on self-love and rediscovering her solo passions can be incredibly empowering. Also, exploring why she felt the need to express love through expensive gifts might reveal deeper patterns worth addressing.

As for the question of why some men behave this way, it's a biggie, tying back to individual values, maturity levels, and sometimes, a splash of commitment phobia. It's crucial to remember, though, not all men sail this way. The real MVPs of the dating world value heart over heat, depth over dazzle.

In the meantime, be her lighthouse, shining a light on her strengths and the brighter horizon ahead. Encourage her to view this not as a storm to weather alone but as a plot twist in her epic love story, with the next chapter promising new adventures and genuine connections. Let’s navigate together through the rocky relationships and find the treasure of true love and self-worth. 🚀💔➡️💖