If you are cheated on, will you cheat too?

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you learn that your partner is cheating on you, instead of telling them that you found out that they're cheating on you, you decide to cheat too as revenge?

blueonblack22 · Accepted Answer

Two wrongs don’t make a right.

This all falls into “hurt people hurt people” psychosis. It’s understandable but not acceptable. Huge difference there.

Also you are NOT getting “revenge” on the person who hurt you by screwing over an unrelated innocent man. No. If anything you are contributing to a vicious cycle. You are contributing to “race to the bottom” phenomenon going in society and it’s only getting worse.

Instead take all your pain and past hurt as example why you should NOT cheat on someone else. You know how it feels. So do you really want an innocent person feeling the same way you did? That’s how need you look at.

I swear women are more prone to harming innocent men to get “revenge” on an unrelated man than vice versa. You don’t see men using the excuse that it’s “okay” to mistreat a woman because an unrelated women harmed them in the past.

It’s also like how women automatically believe that an accused man is “guilty” in a sexual assault criminal case despite their maybe strong evidence to the contrary. They think they are getting “revenge by proxy” on an unrelated man who assaulted them by throwing an unrelated man under the bus.

In fact this pretty much the entire crux of modern feminism and many leftist movements in general. Collective revenge and punishment on entire groups of people to “even the score”. The individual doesn’t matter. Only the person’s immutable characteristics (race, gender, etc) make them “culpable”.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No. I got cheated on in college. I didn't dump her but I continued to date her with no intention of anything long term or commitmentwise just for sex until I was ready to move on. Cheaters always cheat but why disrespect &dishonour yourself by cheating just because you got cheated on.

bobalife · Accepted Answer

I am sure some people decided to be petty, but I would much rather just cut ties and leave the relationship immediately to have nothing to do with them again.

HelpfulWoman · Accepted Answer

nope. thats dumb and scummy and proves i deserve bad shit in life. i do not.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the old 'fight fire with fire' approach to dealing with heartbreak! Here to sprinkle a bit of wisdom on this spicy topic. As tempting as it might be to swing back with your own version of love mischief, let me tell you, lovebombing someone else's heart when yours is bruised doesn't fix the crack, it just adds more pieces to pick up later. When you find out your partner is cheating, it's like a red flag parade crashing into your relationship. Instead of joining the parade with your own float, why not take a step back, communicate your feelings, and decide if this is a parade you even want to be in? Remember, two wrongs don't make a right, but a good conversation might just make things a little less wrong. Stay true to you, and keep that love light shining bright, even through the tough times! 😉💔➡️💬💖

OlderAndWiser · Answer

What does revenge accomplish? If it makes you feel better to prove that you can do the same awful things that your partner did, then you are no better than your cheating partner. Revenge never "teaches someone a lesson." It's just an adult temper tantrum. Grow up!

Finchie40 · Answer

No, it would be over completely

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I've done it in the past. At this point, my advice is to just use it as a good reason to leave.

My thinking before I knew better was that I'm going to feel better after some revenge... it doesn't make it feel better. It's better to just leave...

... if you can that is. I'm not going to forget the situation I was in where my choices was basically to destroy her and 2 kids for my own vindication by leaving or stay and make her regret cheating in every way possible (including cheating back, a lot).

If you are cheated on, will you cheat too?

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Nope never. If I found I was cheated on, I'd pick her up by the scruff of the neck and drop her outside the front door. Her belongings would be next and finally a phone call to her family to tell them to come and pick the cheating whore up!

I'd give it about a week to recover, and then go move on.. Job done!

I want to make the point though, I'm pretty good at learning who is likely to cheat and who isn't.. The last time it happened to me was when I was 17.

Anonymous · Answer

Fun fact. I had an ex-wife who left out a minor detail that she was into group sex, even though she knew I was monogamous, as she claimed to be. She would leave periodically after picking fights to go do her thing, me knowing from the alleged fault finding of me, she was at her mothers.. really she had cocks in her. So, third time of a fight she created in her game, I made sure there was a butt naked female in our bed when she returned. The look on her face, priceless. Felt so good. Like redemption. Found out later from a Pic she sent, my gut was right, and justified.

JacobJordan · Answer

Nope but if my SO cheats she better not return home ever because I think the Roman's had it right. In ancient times if a man or woman cheated the other was given a sword and allowed to kill both the cheater and the one they cheated with. Yes it goes both ways. If I cheated I would go out honorably and not run away.

NathanDavis · Answer

my faithfulness and loyalty are of principle... not conditional also, not my usual to do wrong and justify it by the wrong of others...

Berethor · Answer

No it would bring me low and woman's cheating is worse, I would rather shoot her. :)

alfamale123 · Answer

There is always some kind of a reason for cheating. Maybe you are not sexually attractive to him anymore, maybe you dont have sex often enough,... so cheating for revenge is the worse thing you can do. Talk to him about it first but in my experience when someone is thinking about cheating or finds a partner cheating it is the best to end a relationship. It will sooner or later end you will only waste more time.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

No, I wouldn't want to become a cheater and fall down to their level. I'll rather just leave from their life.

Meropatrick · Answer

Life is too short for these silly games and toxic people. My advice for myself is to walk out that door and never look back. Take my dignity and peace of mind away and find a better place and people

Marred0710 · Answer

No two wrongs don't make a right I would like to think that if cheated on I would just end the relationship

MaaikeVG · Answer

No, I'd speak with him. And if it becomes an ongoing issue, I'd end the relationship (well call off the engagement) and start from scratch. And I would hate that. He's very trustworthy though.

ceren27 · Answer

No, I wouldn't want to become a cheater and fall down to their level.  I'll rather just leave from their life.

DishLady · Answer

No. Two wrongs don't make a right. What an asinine concept...

Starrrboy · Answer

I don't really see the point.. they're already doing someone else, so why would they care if you're fully committed to them or not? Doesn't seem like it would affect them much..

sheikalana · Answer

No. I will leave and they'll never hear from me ever again.

DarkLegacy · Answer

Nope because that is just childish, i would just dump her sorry arse.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I have never cheated despite so many opportunities to do so.

jahaims · Answer

What does that accomplish? If someone cheated on me I would cut all contact immediately. They wouldn't even get a response.

soe11 · Answer

No never will be, rather I will leave forever from her or him so anyone.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Hell no, i'm priceless, why would i sin or make myself a piece of garbage like her!

Jennz6 · Answer

Not for revenge but if he’s doing it maybe he’ll let me do it too

LiamS95 · Answer

No that is rather childish I'd simply end the relationship.

grega239 · Answer

An lower myself to their level? As if.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I wouldn't... I don't cheat...

_SilentWolf_ · Answer

No, I won't cheat, it may be dishonorable, I have self-respect above all else.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

No I'd rather just end the relationship.

CaitlinSims25 · Answer

Nope i not cheated on any men that has cheated on me. i just break up with them and kept on rejecting them.

RebeccaSJ · Answer

I would be tempted.

ApplePie409 · Answer

Probably

mayurr · Answer

No. I'll just leave that person.

Libarena · Answer

I know people fairly close to me who have.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

I'd just break up with her

Miah04 · Answer

Nope

eagle1951 · Answer

after leaving them

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Two wrongs don’t make a right.

laly520 · Answer

nope

negrl4a69 · Answer

No I will not

ellefia · Answer

no...

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

No..

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