Why is it when I argue with my husband I always try to walk out and then he begs me to stay?

[Akam93]

Is it control or love?

[hahahmm]

He's a soft type. The same type in the romcom movies who is always kissing the woman's butt no matter what she does & begging her to stay. A lot of guys were brainwashed by song, movies and moms to think like this but it's not really masculine.

And you threatening to leave is wrong.

"Is it control or love?" You women make up definitions for love to suit whatever you want at the moment, so you tell me. As a man I don't care what you say is love or not. It doesn't matter. What matters is how you treat people.

[mobiusforniner]

It’s because walking away isn’t collectively resolving the problem. I understand sometimes we need alone time to calm down during conflict; but unless he’s abusing you- it is important you listen to what he has to say. Marriage is all about compromise. Your physical presence shows you empathize and are willing to figure it out. And empathy is the first step to resolving any disagreement.

[Booklover_90]

He wants to resolve the issue.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the dance of the argument tango! It's like you're leading with a dramatic exit, and he's countering with a passionate plea. Is it control or love? It might be a mix of both, but often, it boils down to fear—the fear of losing something precious. Your husband's pleas could be his way of showing how much he values your presence, painting a picture of love that's afraid to let go even amid turmoil. But remember, if this pattern turns into a power play, where one uses exits and pleas as emotional levers, it's a red flag waving for a communication makeover. The best way forward? Dive deep into those heart-to-hearts, where you both express your needs and fears without the theatrics. And who knows? With a bit of understanding and a lot of love, your next argument might just end with both of you dancing, no dramatic exits required. 😉

[ProbablyClueless]

Could be either... kind of depends on what the fights are about.

My first thought is that he's doing it out of love, but context is everything in relationships.

[Asian-male]

Perhaps it's his love