Girls, did you ever feel depressed and slightly jealous (of others) when you were single?

[MaaikeVee]

Jealous of close friends and even strangers who had boyfriends, husbands and families of their own?

I was single and independent for about a decade. Don't get me wrong, I felt great and free at times, but a part of me felt lonesome and desperate. Yeah, I enjoyed living in my apartment alone, and traveling the world solo, but inside I was not too well. I observed my colleagues and old friends getting married, my female childhood friends becoming loving mothers and wives.

I even lost hope and sobbed at times. But then this guy came out of nowhere and I will be with him until the day I die. 😊 Life just rebounded.

Have you ever felt that way?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Back before I figured out I was asexual and aromantic, I kept trying to figure out what was “wrong” with me when I couldn’t get comfortable dating someone or finding someone to date. I thought maybe it was that I wasn’t pretty enough so I pounded on the make-up and tried to lose weight. Didn’t work. I thought maybe it’s because I didn’t go out enough so I exhausted myself going to every outing possible in college. Didn’t work. Nothing really clicked until I started on a journey of self-love as a last resort and realized just how much I valued myself on my ability to be like everyone else, which is not really conducive to figuring out who you are.


Eventually, I did figure it out and that the whole time it was because I was just really comfortable alone and all I really wanted was platonic company, not romantic. These days I live with a friend, we say we’re each other’s platonic life partners because we plan to live together happily for as long as we’ll have one another. We’re good together, we support one another, and we’re happy as we both pursue our goals. Everything worked out in the end lol