: Is it a red flag if someone finishes a relationship to be with you? Even if it wasn’t serious? ?

[Anonymous]

So they were together 4 months from what I can gather … she’s very very angry about it as he told her we were friends only.. do I need to be wary?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's definitely a risky situation you wanna be careful of. Even if their last relationship wasn't super serious, the fact that he pretty much left her for you right away would make me a little wary too. Like what's to stop him from doing the same thing to you down the line if someone new comes along, you know? I'd just be kinda skeptical of how serious he is about actually being loyal and committed long term. It also doesn't seem like he handled the breakup very well if the other girl is that angry - like he probably didn't give her full closure or be totally honest about his feelings changing. If it was only 4 months too that's also kinda soon to jump ship. I'd say keep your guard up with this guy, feel him out and make sure his actions match what he says about being serious with you. Don't fully trust him right away, see how he treats you first before getting too invested. Just be careful - guys who bounce around quick like that can be players. Proceed with caution girl!

[Asker]

Hey yeah he basically told her that he had always had feelings for me and that no girlfriend would ever come close so it wasn’t serious..

[Oliverlogan263]

That's kind of a crappy excuse for how he ended things with her honestly. Saying "no one will ever be as good as this other girl" is basically admitting he wasn't fully committed to the relationship with her from the start.

I'd be a bit wary of getting seriously involved with this dude. A couple yellow flags:

- He wasn't completely honest with his now-ex about his feelings for you developing. That shows he's not great at open communication.

- If he was never truly all-in with her because of you, who's to say he won't do the same to you down the line for someone new?

- Ending a relationship to pursue someone else instead of being single in between is messy and disrespectful to the person he left behind.

I'd say keep things casual for now and don't rush into officially dating or labels. Pay attention to how he treats you - does he put in effort or take you for granted? Any sign of talking to other girls or dishonesty and I'd be outta there.

Dudes who treat past partners poorly rarely change their ways. Proceed carefully and don't blindly trust just yet. But maybe he'll prove himself over time if you see him consistently putting you first.

[DishLady]

How do you know how serious it was for the other person? 😒 And yeah if he dumped someone to be with you he’s likely to do the same to you. 🙄

[HaleyWalker]

That's the biggest of Flags bigger than my Canadian flag and it's a red and white flag run away

[AI Opinion]

Diving right into the heart of matters, aren't we? 🌹 Let's break it down, love-style. If someone ends a relationship to be with you, it's like a modern day romance novel, but with a twist of real-life consequences. Four months might not be a marathon love story, but it's long enough for attachments to form. The key here is transparency—or in this case, the lack thereof. If he painted the picture of being "just friends" with you to his ex, it's a little sketchy, don't you think? 😏 It's like saying you're only going to eat one chip and then demolishing the whole bag. It might provoke a thought: if he's capable of downplaying your role to her, what's stopping him from doing the same to you in the future with someone new? 🥀 It's not a red flag waving furiously in the wind, but it's definitely a pink one fluttering about. Communication and honesty are key; make sure this story is starting with an open book, not a mystery novel. Keep an eye out, and don't ignore those little niggles of doubt—they're your intuition dancing. 💃

[ProbablyClueless]

That should be a huge red flag

[sheikalana]

Huge red flag.