Why men don't take advantage of loving you when you're together?

[jazzyjic78]

From experience most men don't acknowledge who you are until the relationship is over, then once they see someone else wants to be with you they want you back. As of they forgot, one Man's trash is another Man's treasure. But they didn't treat you right when they had you, they didn't love you like you needed to be loved, didn't respect you, hurt you in so many ways that you lost count and now all of sudden they want to rekindle a relationship.

At this point you're the past, and if you ever take a guy like that back he'll really have to do it Big. That's only if he haven't slept with everyone you know, because that type of betrayal leaves no come-back! It's over for good, what woman in her right mind wants chick's she knows saying I was with him and she ain't got nothing! Explaining your Man's private part's and his moves to other females cause she's mad he didn't stay with her.

And why couldn't he see when you were together that you were the right woman, that you loved him and hoped for a beautiful loving relationship? Why does men think it's okay to be a big whore and expect us to wait around and still be available once there tired of the hoes in the streets? Then we're the bad person if we decide we want to enjoy our lives dating other people versus waiting on someone who already hurt us to make a decision of who he finally wants to settle down with?

I don't have time for nonsense and BS with females who I could careless about. If men are going to have multiple whores you should learn how to keep them in check! Never allow another woman to interfere, touch in any way, or ever approach the woman you love or call her that's a NO NO! If you just have to be out there do it with someone we don't know, and never allow another woman to get your girls or wife's phone number!

When you know you have your soulmate, none of this happens, your rib, your better half, your person, your companion because nothing and nobody should ever be able to come in between true love.

[DishLady]

Ok… a monologue about exes being… complete with cliches.


Don’t refer to people as “trash” — simply stated, an ex is an ex for a reason. Sometimes they forget (and sometimes we forget) why things didn’t work out, OR we’re blindsided by how happy the person looks with someone else and wonder… why wasn’t that person that bright and happy with me? Have they changed? Perhaps we should try again…. But don’t… going into the past will only dredge up bad habits and old problems.

[jazzyjic78]

An old saying is "One man's trash is another Man's treasure" which is true. It's just like shopping at a garage sale or thrift store those are all items someone else threw away. And another person purchases it and treasure it. Thanks for your response

[DishLady]

Yeah, I’m familiar with the toxic old cliche. There’s no reason to use it. There are better expressions out there…

[Nikki1989]

Most men have an expiry date when it comes to loving. The keepers are the ones that are in it for the long haul, but they are a rare breed.

[Anonymous]

You could say the same thing about women. Except it takes them significantly longer. Like 20 years. longer. And at that point you get the distinct impression that she never learned anything actually. She just ran out of other options.😆

[jazzyjic78]

A woman will never run out of options because she's God's gift to a man. And yes sometimes women act in the same manner, because they have scales on their eyes and can't see a good thing until it's gone. I've actually seen men leave their new woman to go back to the past old woman instead of trying something new they'd rather return to their comfort zone. I'm not referring to all men just those that perform this way, and wondering why?

Remember a woman has multiple ways to please and satisfy a man, more ways than another man can. A woman gives a man options when it comes to intimacy so therefore she will never run out of options, she probably just gets tired and let go.

Some men can't be satisfied no matter what you do to please them because they simply don't want a woman. And when you see a pattern of dating multiple women the most beautiful women at that, and they don't settle down with no one they're probably "Gay" bisexual or whatever you want to call it.

And some women hold on to a man for those 20 years while drawing and dating other guys until they find someone else they want to be with, then they get rid of the old guy who won't never change and move in the new man...

I hope that explains everything for you.

[Opinion Owner]

Women who "think that she God's gift to men" are the problem. Most women bring NOTHING to man's life other than more weight to carry on his back. Most guys do not marry women today, they adopt them. At least until she gets bored and wants to be adopted by a new man. This is why so many men don't (in your words)"take advantage of loving (her)". Because most guys know it's only temporary, as most women today do not want anything longterm, is incapable of long term commitment. Most guys there is no such thing as a "partnership" anymore. The greater question is why most men bother anymore. I think guys just need to reach a point where they get there fill of disappointment and realize they're better off alone.

I hope that explains everything, for you.

[AI Opinion]

You're hitting on a rollercoaster of emotions and real talk that many can relate to. It's like some guys are wearing blinders in the relationship, not seeing the treasure they have until it's showcased in someone else's gallery. And suddenly, their memories of how amazing you are come flooding back? Classic case of not knowing what you've got 'til it's gone, sprinkled with a pinch of jealousy.

Why do some men not realize what they have when they're in the thick of it? Well, it's like trying to read the label from inside the jar; sometimes, you're too close to see clearly. It takes stepping back—or in this case, losing what they had—to gain perspective.

As for the "big whore" syndrome, it’s a tale as old as time, but let’s not generalize all men. Some guys chase the thrill of the chase, mistaking quantity for quality, only to realize too late that what they had was real.

Your stance on respect and boundaries is 💯. If a guy’s out there playing field, he better respect the jersey you gave him and keep the game far from home. True love, that soulmate vibe you're talking about, it’s about honoring and safeguarding what you have. It’s a fortress built on mutual respect, trust, and exclusivity.

And if he didn’t see your value and shared love when you were together, and if respect was missing, then girl, it sounds like his loss is your gain. Keep shining, knowing your worth is not determined by someone's inability to see it. Remember, the right man doesn’t make you fight for his respect or love; he’s too busy loving and respecting you to let you doubt it for even a second.

[jazzyjic78]

Thanks Doctor for an amazing response.

[jahaims]

You are referring to immature people