Why men don't get that wanting you as a friend means that I appreciate you more than a lover?

[Donna33]

There is this guy who hadn't stopped chasing me, until some time ago. Then we had a conversation and he told me that he still wants me and complaining that I included him in the friendzone dispite he had confessed his feelings for me. I told him that if I wanted him as a friend was because I appreciate him more than my lovers and didn't want things to end between us, that I value him as a man, because he is kind and gentle and I don't want to lose that, and that my lovers are guys who I certainly find hot but I don't mind if I lose them from my life. He didn't seem to understand that! He didn't understand that sif things get sexual between us, then our relationship will change and then I will be worried that our relationship will eventually end. I don't mind if I lose my lovers, but I feel pain if I lose my friends

[vaesoly]

In my humble opinion: You always have to deserve the Other.
Friendship is the most beautiful feeling there is.
In Roman philosophy, the highest stage of love between two people was...
friendship.
The questioner is right.
Most people never lose a friend.
Why should sharing between two people be SYSTEMATICALLY "reduced" to an intimate (sexual) activity?
It's a very pleasant harmony, but there are other divisions, other forms of complicity.
Which in no way excludes tenderness, affection, small tender gestures and the attentions that we have towards the Other Person.

[MrCommodore]

Because most guys view being friends as less than being lovers or in a relationship, thus why getting "Friend-zoned" is seen globally by men and women as a negative thing.

[Anonymous]

Wanting someone as a friend means you don’t just see them in the context of forming a relationship. Even if everything about them is perfect. It has nothing to do with appreciating them more than a friend and more to do with hoping to not lose him if y’all don’t work out.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

They want you as more than a friend. What's so hard for people to understand that they don't want a consolation prize?

[Mayo503]

Wow….
I don’t know why….

I’ve never heard of that before…

but thanks

[Cheerfull009]

You have duel standred, you don't want to leave this guy and want keep your lovers also, knowing that this guy want sex means, you bluffing all