Why do some men friendzone women that never even showed romantic interest in them?

[Anonymous]

For instance by being overly aloof or constantly mentioning their girlfriend or implying that your not their type at all. Most of the times this comes from men I was never attracted to and I’m not a flirty person in general so why do they do this?

[noemiii]

Because men associate a woman being friendly with them with them being interested in them far too often. They are just establishing a boundary. You don’t really often see men and women in platonic friendships, let’s be real.

To be honest, even though it can be annoying I have a lot more respect for these types of men because they actually have the decency to let women know they have a partner.

[Asker]

No it’s even the single ones who do this

[noemiii]

Maybe you’re unattractive? No offense or anything. They may not want you to get the wrong idea. Either way, it doesn’t matter to be honest.

[Asker]

Im not unattractive

[noemiii]

Then i dont know girl. I’ve never had a guy do that to me so maybe it’s you

[Anonymous]

I would ignore all that stuff. Most men don't have a clue about what they are doing at the best of times.

[Monalisa77]

Is that so😂can u see my latest qs then let me know what u think 😂

[236color]

They mention their girlfriend as a signal. It means off the market, intending to remain faithful and not whating to give that girlfriend reason to feel insecure. How would you like if your boyfriend was hanging out with a female "friend" when you weren't around?

[Asker]

Single ones do this too. And if you would just say hello to a coworker you don’t expect a response like „I am married“ either

[BourbonAndBacon]

Should they only friendzone you if you show romantic interest?

Men and women can't be friends without romantic interest?

[Asker]

Yes. Why friendzone someone who doesn’t like your ass? That’s like „I have a boyfriend“ If you just say hello to a girl

[BourbonAndBacon]

I have friends with boyfriends. I also have friends with husbands. What's wrong with that?

[Asker]

You don’t get it

[blueonblack22]

The description about guys being “aloof” gave it away there. It sounds to me you expect a certain level of platonic attention and engagement from these guys. You expect them to be friendly and pleasant.

But men don’t seek out women to be friends with. Ugly truth is women are more of a liability to men as friends than an asset. Even if the guy isn’t interested there isn’t much many women can offer in a real friendship.

Now that’s cynical but it’s the cold hard truth. Men can be friendly with women but the vast majority of women will never be the equivalent to another man’s male buddy.

Men only become “friends” with women vía coincidental happenstance (work, school, shared activities). But even then it’s not the same as having male buddies. Reason being there are things men only talk about with other men and women talk among women. But women generally get a lot more out of a “friendship” with a guy (logical advice, a feeling of security in public, etc) than the guy will.

[Asker]

That’s not true. He is platonic friends with many women and usually always likes to meet new people

[blueonblack22]

Most men who are “platonic friends” with many women usually have some sort of agenda behind it. It’s too much work and too much of a time waste otherwise. The guys I see who are like that usually aren’t naturally masculine enough to be attractive to women otherwise. So they play the manipulation game. I bet he bashes on other guys a lot during gossiping seasons huh?

But he also could be playing a “challenge” game on you. Women do like taken and/or unavailable men to a certain extent (despite not wanting to admit it). But he is way over doing it.