Why do some men not like having friendships with women?

Question

Are they just... homosocial?

Link0111 · Accepted Answer

I do. Yet friendships is a thing to build over time i think. I would love to have all kinds of relationships with both girls and boys and the other ones if i should be politically and socialy correct for half. To genders for the others. Ok i hope. Hahaha.

I know girls that have only guys as friends.
So sometimes it might be the personalities. But it's probably a social thing to these days. Guys are often more colleagues than real friends i feel. My friends that I feel close to and trust are my childhood friends. And i mostly have friends that are gay boys or girls.
I sadly have an impression on guys that they see as threatening. Im super nice but its a jealousy thing.
Manliness to me is being confident and strong in he's integrity.
Most guys to me seem very insecure about their own identity as a man. Now there are a lot of good, real men out there. I think that shared values is the best way for a friendship and also relationships to one another.. i hope to have as many good friends as possible! Boys and girls for that matter...

Cormac995 · Accepted Answer

Because every time I tried to befriend a woman, they used me then got rid of me as a friend once they found a boyfriend because they didn't need an emotional dumping ground anymore. Like FFS this has happened even when my intentions were fully platonic, and I had no interest in her and she still used me and then ghosted me once she felt better about her pos ex. I was really fucking pissed because I was trying to meet people and make new friends, and I hoped by rekindling my friendship with her I could meet her friends and maybe make friends with them. Instead after a while she just ghosted me and stopped replying to my texts. That's why men can't be friends with woman 90% of the time.

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

In my experience, men can't be friends with chicks their attracted to. Even when they aren't very attracted to a girl, they still find a way to sexualize her in the end. 🙄

I knew this one guy who slept with all kinds of girls he tried to be just friends with. Same with another guy. And another. If they think they have a chance to sleep with you, they will play the friend card.

I've honestly only been able to be friends with gay guys in college and if I recall correctly one was attracted to me and tried me so he wasn't totally gay I guess.

petitedollbabee · Accepted Answer

Because those types of men do not see women as equals, therefore undeserving of male friendship. They see women as something to own, use sexually and control, not show respect & friendship towards.

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

Who knows. Honestly I like having women friends, the majority of my friends are women.

In that aspect thought I would like to have more male friends - but somehow it seems I do something that turns other men off. As of now I am on a good middle ground - the company I invite over to dinner is made almost equally by men and women.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Nice song lol some men are separated from women since school days some men don't want to deal with ambiguity some men are vaguely sexist some men downright hate women some men don't trust women, by default some men only aims at the (small) bang theory some men are leashed by their mate some men don't trust themselves  some men have had bad experiences with such friendship some men don't even see the point some men live in Afghanistan some men live in Afghanistan but in fact it's a western country and no one taught them the difference some men want a Chevy

Finchie40 · Answer

My guess is if he is already in a relationship with a girl , then that’s probably why he won’t be friends’ with other girls’ out of respect for his partner , Now if he is single and doesn’t want to be friends’ with girls’ then he is more than likely a women hater and just despises women all together , or he is a homo lol

Jove79 · Answer

Hmm I think it’s because we don’t have much in common. I work on my cars, and have hobbies that guys like. I can’t get my hands dirty with a woman underneath a car fixing it.. and I wouldn’t want to go to the mall with her to eat and after shop for some bra’s and panties and make up, she would want a female friend with her for that..

Two different types of people.. now I could understand if it’s someone local that you see time to time, and it’s a quick chat here and there and that’s all.. just to catch up about the latest news etc

4ngelic · Answer

there's some guys who dont because they think that friendship between men and women's isn't possible or that it's cheating (if they have a girlfriend/wife). and then there's those who assume women only talk about boys and makeup, and are super boring and make bad friends. these dudes are usually sexist and only talk to women if they want to sleep with them or somehow actually have feelings for them.

matchrestore · Answer

My best friend is a woman. I can't imagine not being friends with women- cutting your potential friendships in half.

Jay-_- · Answer

I just don't, not comfortable, shy, whatever you want to call it I like woman but it's not that "I don't like female friends" it's just women around me are moving a little weird, they either want me or think I want them, I could be friends but I don't really like friends of any gender so it's nothing personal...

Sunrising · Answer

What they say is, wrongly I think, men can't be just friends with females, there's always sex involved. Perhaps it's not the case men don't want friendships with women, society might not be giving them the choice, because of work commitments etc.

Agape93 · Answer

Because they are the ones that don't think they can keep their dicks in their pants.

Anpu23 · Answer

You know that question that goes around about how some women would prefer to be alone in the woods with a bear then a strange guy? The same is true for guys for different reasons, a random woman can destroy your reputation and or career on say so alone. So many guys simply do not take the chance.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Unfortunately many men have experiences where they'll genuinely try to be platonic friends with women that turn out super negatively. The woman might try to get "boyfriend lite" out of him. Many times the woman brings chaos and drama into his social life. The woman creates problems with other women the guy actually wants to date.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

I guess it's the same reason why women wouldn't want to be friends with guys.. Because when you would rather hold somebody's hand or kiss them, instead of just being by them, then naturally being platonic is not gonna be something you wanna do..

AaronKrieger · Answer

As someone who doesn't date or hookup with their friends, here are my reasons
1. They end up liking me at some point which can ruin a friendship (doesn't always happen, but it's happened enough times).

2. Half of the time their partner gets jealous which I get, as a lot of guys do not approach friendships with women like I do.

3. I refuse to be friends girls I like. It feels disingenuous, but I will still be friendly with her if I ever encounter her.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

I don't know lol most women are just bros with boobs

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

It’s a unique kind of misogyny where they only allow their relationships with women (outside of the one with their mother) to be romantic in nature.

Dargil · Answer

Unless you are in a setting of professional colleagues, are in the Marines or for a first responder, It is difficult for men and women to be friends because there will always be some degree of sexual tension. In my view, Labrador retrievers make better friends for men.

Angelo75 · Answer

Cuz sooner or later one of them will fall in love for the other or start having to fight innerly NOT to fall for the other.

And apart from that, sooner or later one of your partners/spouses will start getting jealous/insecure about the friend and you end up in arguments or you end the friendship. Hurting people.

Just talking probabilities here.
Not trying to wake up a discussion.

verknallt · Answer

I can't be friends with attractive women without thinking about sex.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Wait a minute. Why is a cowboy-hatted dude suspected of being gay?

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Women are an annoying to just be friends with. Unless you find the right one that acts like what if the fellows! If she doesn’t then she isn’t worth the time. The zero accountability, the expecting boyfriend treatement even tho you aren’t committed or you aren’t getting anything in return. It’s just not a smart move

Sam1133 · Answer

Lol I have my best friend in opposite gender she is my best friend 🧡

RandomUser1000 · Answer

I'd be fine with being friends with women. I'm not that sexist.

AndrésC64 · Answer

I actually prefer relationships with women. In general, women are meijer communicative and able to understand feelings better and are better listeners.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Some men prefer socializing with other guys, but it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re gay. They might think women have no purpose other than sex and romance and thus avoid socializing with them except for those purposes.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Never heard that term. Homo social. Yeah. Some guys are like that. Clear divisions between woman & "the guys"

smahala1991 · Answer

My best friends have always been women, I just feel more comfortable that way. Some people just don’t believe in equality.

TonyV · Answer

Cause women are too easy to upset is the main reason. They take personal jabs way too serious. It's not fun hanging out with someone that makes you feel like you're always walking on eggshells.

Sal_Monella · Answer

Men make better friends than women. So do Labrador Retrievers. Without sex, there is no reason for that without professional affiliation or being in the Marines or First Responders. There will almost always be sexual tension.

lyrem04 · Answer

I’m one of the girls who don’t like friendships with guys simply cuz either I or they be catching feelings. I have rarely had a friendship with a guy that was purely platonic

Surely · Answer

Don’t really have any ideas. Unless they might have be through a nasty divorce and just plain hate women.

Wiredone · Answer

I think guys just want sex from the woman. I have a few women that I'm friends with and sex with them has never crossed my mind

PaleDale · Answer

Most of my friends are women, but I worry that I tend to get too attached sometimes. I hate being burdensome.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I don't cause most times it just turns into something sexual

RavVid · Answer

Only way to have good conversations. I meet up with some guys weekly and various women will come up to our table and turn the conversation to be about them.

WonderingManII · Answer

A woman's brain doesn't seem to think the same way a guy's brain does. Also there is sexual attraction that often happens to me, and it makes me feel awkward.

LiamS95 · Answer

I have no idea, I love my friendships with women.

Gaylordslav · Answer

if you try to befriend a woman platonically you're gay. Heteros can't be friends with opposing genders due to flirting sexual tension. Just as no hetero would befriend a f a g there is no mixed signals

FunkyMonkee · Answer

They have this screwy idea that having ANYTHING to do with a woman's periods will turn them gay. But, somehow, ONLY hanging out with guys DOESN'T!

nawtee_me · Answer

This is one I do not understand bas well as some girls not wanting to be friends with guys.

Professor-college · Answer

I don't know... I have female friends. Women are usually really good listeners and give good advice

serious · Answer

I don't think that is true at all.

TheWombRaider · Answer

Those are gay guys. No str8 guy wants to be just friends. If they are talking and want to hang out they want to put their cock n u some how. We have plenty of friends we not looking for friends

Shiprex · Answer

Risk of attraction only being one way and not reciprocation of benefits

RingOfFire · Answer

I've never been able to have a friendship with a woman that didn't try to turn into more. It just isn't possible for me and never has been.

chrissykerdock · Answer

because they won't eat pussy

JohnnyB123321 · Answer

I think it’s just what you are used to. I have a good number of female friends and I always have. It’s really normal for me.

alice55 · Answer

That's cause they want to bang them

LiamJHayden · Answer

The simple truth: A lot of guys cannot look at a lady and not think about sex.

msc545 · Answer

WHy would a man want to be friends with with someone who's sure to betray him?

ophstar55 · Answer

Some people don’t believe in friendship between males and females. They think there’s something sexual about those friendships.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why some women not like having friendship with men.

fish5505_87 · Answer

I'm friends with a lot of woman?

jahaims · Answer

Females come with different baggage to deal with.

Trefivsev35783 · Answer

I'll want to fuck her

LunarEclipse433 · Answer

I have no idea where you get your information

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

What could we possibly benefit from that

Smegskull · Answer

They are always asking for things.

FenixG45 · Answer

Beats me!

yotaman99 · Answer

I do

clampfan101 · Answer

I do.

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