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realise how i said ”some” so those men won't complain (like they always do)
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after all these responses, im once again not surprised but disgusted by the male gender.
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Why do SOME men think men and women can't be friends?
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"Like they always do".😆 there's a segment of your gender that do the same thing. Notice I said "segment"😆
Those guys do this because they try to oversimplify male-female interaction. Thier MISTAKE is these men interact with really terrible women. These women have no intention of being friends with men (any worthwhile woman considers thier partner a friend). As a result these men think you have to keep this separation from women. Where anytime you're in thier presence you need keep this masculine persona rather then just being you. Any worthwhile woman is going to get you, and accept all of you, not just what fits some perceived female ideal of what a man is.
The segment of women I mentioned earlier do this stuff to though. They'll proclaim all men are just trying to sleep with you. When in reality these women are actually just only attracted to men that try to sleep with them. Those are the ONLY type of men she engages. So in REALITY, she's creating her own problem.
Why do so many women push for men to be just friends? It doesn't make sense.
You're at place/event X and a guy comes up to you... THAT GUY is not going to the effort so he can be your "friend"... get real.
The one possible exception is if a friend introduces you and you only see one another when that friend assembles everyone. THAT guy is possibly not interested in you, so he's marginally capable of being "just friends". You only see each other at friends parties or public events... that's an acquaintance.
If you've suddenly gotten a guy to hang around and do all the handiwork you need in the house... that's a guy angling for a title bump in your life.
Because in a lot of cases, it ends up more than just friendship , even though that isn’t always the case, but that’s usually what happens if any attraction is involved between them both , this can occur from both sides , A guy or girl that invests a lot of their time into the opposite sex , usually indicates that they want more than just friendship , They will act like they are just your friend until they have an opportunity to make a move on you
, I had girl friends’ that did this to me that eventually confessed their true feelings for me , and I have done this to girls’ as well that I was attracted to to , So if you are already in a relationship with someone , you are best not to really Make close friends’ with the opposite sex , unless you want to add fire into your relationship
It's a choice on whats more important to you
SOME guys learn in life there are more important things than having sex.. like friendship
When a man meets a girl and he is interested in her 98% of the time it's because she is beautiful sexy and he wants in her pants
And after a few failed relationships he realizes there is something deeper call friendship true friendship
He has to make a choice
He either wants her as his friend for life
Or
He wants in her pants they will go with each other but down deep he knows it will never work for a long period of time
He just wanted in her pants she breaks up and that's the end of that..
So guys who say they can't befriends. It's true because they are selfish and are just weak boys
The guy who say yes there are no problems being friends is the guy you want because he's not out looking at every girl like a piece of meet and can be a true friend
Because men are basically biologically programed to want to reproduce. Part of that programming results in them wanted to have sex with just about any attractive woman. Some men are far better at controlling themselves, but the closer they get to a woman, the more they will want sex. That's why.
So you can't even have friends because you can't control yourself? get a grip.
The women are to blame too you know. Outside of rape, men can't have sex without a willing woman. Also, there is SOO much more that women can't control about themselves. Don't even start
sure, but statistically its usually men. but if both want sex whats the problem? i was talking about u by the way not a group of people
1) Sex isn't something friends do. You might not be in a romantic relationship, but to say you are friends is dumb.
2) This question usually refers to a man that is already in a committed relationship. For those men, obviously sex with someone else is wrong
Oh, and I was talking about a group of people, not myself. Am I not allowed to talk for others?
1) Ever heard of ”friends with benefits”?
2) And if those men have sex with their friend, thats their responsebility bc they’re in a relationship.
nah you’re not.
1) Ya, you notice how you have to specify something extra? It's because friends don't have sex with each other. People would be having 10s to 100s to 1000s of sexual partners by the time they hit 30 if that was normal.
2) No argument here, but that has nothing to do with why men think they can't be friends with a woman.
Good thing for me, I don't care what you think I'm allowed to do.
1) whatever u say ig🤦♀️ i mean some people do have that many sexual partners tho…
2) so why do u think men and women can't be friends?
wow ur so edgy
1) Yes, and most of them tend to be in the sex/porn industry in some way or another
2) To bring my statements all together, men will always be interested in women. Because of this, the majority of men will want to have sex with a female friend they get close to. Most men don't have enough control not to have sex if the opportunity arises. Most men think sex is more than friendship, therefore if you've had sex, you are more than friends, thus not friends. It also usually applies to men in relationships, and they are saying "I have to choose not to be friends with you because if I don't, I might cheat on my wife".
3) I actually think they can be. I have the control not to have sex with a woman just because I like her. I also refuse to believe I'm the only male with that much control
You started it.
1) Yeah sure, but some aren't and js wanna have fun🤷♀️
2) why dont women feel the same for men?
so men are basically sex animals that can't control themselves? got it
1) There are quite a few accurate insults for those that "just wanna have fun"
2) I would argue that women have the same problems, they just won't admit it. For a man, cheating is sex. For a woman, cheating is emotional support. I don't mean that a woman having sex with someone else isn't cheating, but men crave sex and is their most common form of betrayal. Where as women crave emotional things, like talking out problems, cuddling, etc. and that is their most common form of betrayal. For some reason, we don't consider the emotional part to be a betrayal, but if you look at marriages that fail when sex isn't involved, you will find that emotional betrayal quite often. Because we don't considering it cheating as often, women are able to ignore that it is true for them too.
3) Actually, yes. Humans are literally an animal. And these days, the intelligence and control that makes us so much different from the other animals seems to be lacking more and more in more and more people.
1) and?
2) i think we’ve lost track from the og question but ok.
1) That those people don't have friends, or at least the ones they stay in contact with aren't friends. The rest obviously aren't.
2) Not really, you asked why women don't think this. Because of those reasons. Basically, women also can't be friends (stay friends and not cheat), but they don't classify it as cheating, so they pretend they can stay friends and not cheat.
1) so being called names means not having friends?
2) yeah sure
1) No, being the kind of person that fits those particular insults means the people they are doing things with aren't actually friends. Friends also actually means something to me. An acquaintance isn't a friend, nor is someone you spent time with for 1 month then never spoke to again
they obviously dont have sex with EVERY friend.
I know. I'm saying if they have sex, they aren't friends.
okay👍🥱
Basically, men lie and other men know this. Other men know they will lie and pretend to be friends just for the off chance they can get a shot.
There is a reason why most cheating stories include " i was told not to worry, they are just friends ".
The ones saying this are the once who would use any chance to have sex.
You can be friends, BUT only when both parties really don't want anything from the other person. I have male friends at work, but like we don't hang out, I call the boyfriends of my girls friends and sometimes we send memes but don't hang out
It's not just men who think this, lots of women think it too. And for the same reasons men think it: because the guy will want sex or a relationship. Even though a great number of women themselves have also fallen for their male friends romantically and even sexually, but they like to pretend that they are outside of this and that it's all just men who want to get physical or get the wrong idea about a friendship.
It’s possible, but only short-term in places like work or school. I used to have a lot of female friends, but close friendships with them don't last long. Once they get into relationships, jealousy starts, and it inevitably ends, turning into a waste of time. It’s not worth the effort, though keeping it casual at work or school is easy enough.
Because some men are always gonna view any relationship with a woman as sexual at some point. And in their defense, it's pretty common for men and women both to catch feelings at some point. That tends to complicate or end the friendship if it ends up being one sided. Maybe impossible is the wrong word but difficult wouldn't be wrong.
Hi please vote for my poll 💛
I value being friends with girls who are not my girlfriend or ones who I have never been sexually involved with. I like to hear their points of view and some fun convo. U are right that some guys just can't handle it. It is their loss. Message me if u want to chat more about it.
whats there to message about?
Just if you want to chat more about it or anything else...
The only women I won't be friends with are ex's.
Being a married man though I don't have close female friends, it's not appropriate. Plus I don't want to broadcast the kind of signal that may produce, nor do I want to give my wife any reason to doubt my fidelity. Plus I will never be alone with anyone of the opposite sex unless my wife is present.
how is it not appropriate to have friends…?
if she thinks you’re cheating either she has issues or you’re an awful husband
this is so sad, can't even have friends because you’re too horny smh…
I'm too horny? That's what you got from that? Fucking moron. Apparently you're either too stupid to understand, or too young to understand appearances in social situations mean everything. It's not about being horny, it's about sending the correct message. People, mostly women gossip when they see things, a man and a woman by them selves in a public setting, sends the wrong message, and people who gossip are going to gossip, and suddenly my family, and friends, and my wife get the wrong idea.. But again you're too naive to understand that.
As to your comment about no friends. Typical female response, you automatically jump to the worst conclusion, i said "CLOSE FEMALE FRIENDS" notice the word "CLOSE"? I do have female friends, none are what I call close friends.
But again you read things that aren't there and put words into my mouth. Again typical female.
Patriarchy and gender roles encourage men who already don’t see women as people to continue doing so and project that image onto others
It's usually because they simply can't, which doesn't say a lot for them.
That doesn't mean millions of others are not friends with women. Most of my friends are males and always have been.
They can't. There will always be interest in the woman by the man. Very dangerous if either is in a relationship.
ehh… did i switch man up with woman there? its def more common the man is in love with the woman and the woman friendzones him
More common for women to file divorces too, but just like your statement, it has nothing to do with this question
because women are more likely to do something about a problem than sweap it under a rug like men do, but thats a whole other conversation for another time.
how has that got nothing to do with this question?💀
The guy said that a man will always have an interest in a woman, which is what the question asked about. He also pointed out that is bad if either party is in a relationship, because that means someone would be cheating. Who is cheating doesn't change whether it's bad or why men think this
okay?
@dudeinohio You have serious maturity issues if you think any of that is actually true.
Been in that situation. Not a maturity issue at all.
The way I understood it from them is if they love you and they find you attractive they don't want to, naturally, just be friends with you.
They can be if neither wants to fuck the other but mostly we would.
why? why can't men just see women as humans and not some sex doll?
Men and women CAN be friends, but the guy will always wonder what she is like in bed. That's how Nature built us guys.
only those who are not capable... are the ones saying this
They see women as only good for sex and romance
Humans tend to make decisions based upon past experiences. I don't mind female friends, but the problem is that most end up liking me at the end.
Since you’re so disgusted by the male gender date women
god i wish i was attracted to them☹️
Most men understand men and women canr be friends. Thats why fat girls have fewer male friends than hot girls.
They can be friends, but without any intentions 🤔 it's very hard...
not really
As you wish, when you become a guy, come and tell me 😏
what? are you seriously attracted to every single woman u see? talk about being desperate…
Nope i'm not and i'm not talking about myself, why are you arguing with me, just make a little experiment and let's if guys would be truly friends with you without any intentions!
i have tons of guy friends who aren't attracted to me, you need to grow a pair dude
As you wish, good luck for you and about growing a pair, well yes i have each is the size of your head!
you wish
My wish was granted since i was born, so don't worry about me!
ur almost 40, maybe consider getting a job?
I have a job that you wish for, so worry about yourself!
why aren't u working then?
Cause it's night here 😄
riiight… go work now
Kiss my a$$ 🤣🤣
Because some men think women are just for relationships or sex, I have several close female friends and been friends for years
People will say that because there's the sexual attraction element.
so they can't control themselves?
I didn’t say that they’d jump each other’s bones. I said that some people believe you can’t be friends with someone you’re sexually attracted to.
i got that, and i asked a followup question lol
So there it is. And at the end of the day if you offered sex to any of your guy friends, they'd take you up on it.
okay so men are basically horny animals?
It's our biological drive to spread our genes.
Womens too, but we dont want to fuck every man ever, do we?
No, because you produce 1 egg a month. I produce millions of sperm a day. Plus there's risks to women having children. you need someone to provide and protect you during your pregnancy.
So? its still our biological drive, we’re just smarter and not disgusting like men.
So you only have one egg a month, and you need protection during pregnancy. So you have to be choosy with your mating partners.
so men just put their dick into anyone not expecting any concequences?
I said what I said. It's biological reality. The consequence is a child.
and men never think about that? only women?
we do. but that's why we have birth control.
u dont tho, WOMEN have birth control bc men are irresponsible as always.
well women are ultimately the ones that get pregnant, are they not?
and men are the ones getting them pregnant and becoming a father, are they not?
Right, but you're the one pregnant at the end of the day.
and? doesn't mean women dont have sexual needs like men do?
we just know the concequences, men never do
Right. But since you need to be protected during pregnancy, it behooves you to make good choices with who you have sex with. To say nothing about the emotional aspects.
so you think an infertile woman has the same sex drive as a man?
probably not because her hormones are likely out of whack.
not always🤷♀️
and what about the ones who just dont care?
what do you mean the ones who just don't care?
the ones who dont care ab getting pregnant, do they have the same needs?
why would a woman not care about getting pregnant?
she wants to be pregnant
Then if you wanted to get pregnant, wouldn't you want your children's father to be a decent man who can provide?
dont ask me, im not one of them🤷♀️
Let's pretend you are. IF you were to get pregnant, wouldn't you want a man who will be a good husband and father?
if i were to be pregnant id kms or abort it.
and not everyone wants that, some want to be a single mother, is it that hard for u to comprehend that maybe not every woman wants a man in their life but still wants a kid?
no you wouldn't
what makes u think that?
I don't believe you're that willing to murder your unborn child.
omfg ur one of those pro life retards🤦♀️
i would 1000% do just that.
Oh, I see. You're still a toddler, mentally. So you're trying to be edgy because you think it's cool.
just say you hate women.
You're the one that wants to murder a girl child in your womb. How's that not hating women?
a girl child? dude what? id abort it if it was a boy too💀 you’re a disgusting human being and i hope you never have kids.
I have two beautiful daughters.
Because physical attraction between men and women is more stronger than friendly feeling
you feel attracted to every woman you’ve ever been friends with?
Because they are ignorant. I get friend-zoned by hot girls all the time.
It's impossible only if there is mutual attraction.
Woman dont have friends. They just have people they use.
Yup I can be friend with girl anytime i have few best friends are female
They definitely cannot be friends
why not?
You know exactly why
i dont, tell me why?
Because sooner or later one of them or both of them develop feelings and or they've had an ulterior motive all along.
Women rarely want to be friends.
They're awkward in dating and befriend someone that they would potentially see themselves in a relationship with. It takes the pressure off of both parties by saying they're friends when really she's evaluating him as a partner.
Men befriend women that they would sleep with. They call them friends just to keep an open connection in hopes that one day somehow they will end up sleeping together
not always, but sometimes yeah, thats when u friendzone and ghost them.
Which proves my point
do you think every single man and woman friendship end up like that?
Every single one that I've ever seen really has ended up that way.
Sometimes it plays out over the course of weeks or months and other times it can take many years.
so it doesn't prove your point.
There is no point to prove on my side.
Your question asked why I think this way and that's exactly what it explained.
If you want to prove a point why don't you ask all the guys you consider friends how many of them would rail you given the opportunity.
Because they're not really your friends... They just want derail you. And when you say no they won't be your "friends" anymore
you literally said ”proves my point”💀
does it shock you that not every man sees women as objects they would have sex with? get help dude.
Because I was proving a point.
You asked a question. I answered.
If you don't feel I've driven my point do as I said in the last response and try it out for yourself
dude🤦♀️
Yep... Try it. Lmk how that goes.
If you think they'll all say no because they respect your friendship you're delusional
already have. none of them did. you’re just disgusting for only seeing women as objects you’d like to fuck.
why can't men just stop?
For the same reason women can't.
This is not a one-sided issue
women aren't the problem here, its obviously men. as you’re literally saying. YOU’RE the problem.
Women are definitely part of the problem.
Look back through all of the responses I've giving you specifically to the part where women befriend men.
For an example take all of your guy friends... However many there are chances are you want to fuck one of them.
majority of women befriend men to simply have friends, men just want sex like animals.
100% disagree. Everything I've witnessed speaks otherwise.
If you stick around on this website long enough you'll see how many women post about falling in love with their best friend.
you believe people on here?
oh please its all for attention🤦♀️🥱
Anyway, you asked a question looking for opinions so I gave you my opinion. I also gave you the test that you can do to see for yourself.
Hope it helps and good luck
ok byebye
Foolish, of course they can
thats what im saying!
Don't give up on all of us
such little hope left
Little understanding