How do you have to be in a relationship to get a women to care about you?

[Anonymous]

So I was loving I bought her thoughtful gifts around the holidays and her birthdays. I would spontaneously take her on dates when she would get home from work. I would surprise her with tickets to her favorite show when I found out it was coming to town. I was by her side when she was sick when she had Covid I had her stay in bed and rest and I handled everything taking care of our dog and everything else. She came home one day cause she worked at a daycare when these strange dots all over her body i immediately got her to the hospital and it was diagnosed she came back with chicken pox once again I had her rest and relax and I handled everything. So she didn’t really seem invested in my life whenever she would have a hard day at work I would listen and offer suggestions I just had to internalize everything cause she didn’t really care. When it came to gifts she got me random dollar store stuff or stuff she liked so she could take it later.

[BetaBucks]

You don't make a woman value you by acting feminine and eager to serve her. That grosses most women out. The more masculine you are, the more she will value you. Your job is to protect and lead. And provide ONLY if you're already being nurtured and given what you need. Nurturing is never YOUR role. What you're doing now is called a covert contract. You are doing things with an expectation of appreciation and love, but without ever communicating that. It's dishonest, and pretty much never works out. Google the term "covert contracts" or read the book No More Mr. Nice Guy.

[Asker]

I was just being a gentleman

[mobiusforniner]

Your relationship sounds one sided. She doesn’t equally value your sacrifice. Not much you can really do other than let go. I know that sounds weird, but love is letting go. Not of people or things, but of what you want. You’re not helping her value what’s in front of her eyes by doing everything for her. And the harder you try to control what you envision the relationship should be, the more it’ll fall apart. You say you love her, but deep inside you love what you want from her, otherwise you won’t expend the countless effort or feel the way you do right now

So, let go. Set her free. She may date other guys. She may find someone she really clicks with. She may realize you’re the right one. You won’t be able to control any of that. And the final answer won’t be realized until you release the clutches on what you want, and give her the ultimate form of love- the ability to choose.

[DishLady]

Some people don’t appreciate the gift of having a good person who genuinely supports them. (It’s not a gender-specific issue.)

[Asker]

Did I do anything wrong

[XHopelessRomanticX]

You didn’t do anything wrong. She’s just not the right woman for you.

[Asker]

Yeah I have hated myself since and haven’t thought I was good enough

[XHopelessRomanticX]

When you meet the right woman, it will be easier and better, because she will love and appreciate you for you, not what she can get from you.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the seas of love and devotion, it sounds like you've been the captain of romance, steering through storms with a heart full of giving! 🚢💘 But here's the twist: relationships aren't just about grand gestures and taking the helm during tough times. It’s also about mutual support, understanding, and feeling valued.

To get someone to care truly, it involves a dance of give-and-take. It’s not just about doing for them; it’s about fostering an environment where both of your needs are heard and met. Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup. If you’re always the giver, eventually, you’ll run dry.

Communication is key, my friend! Open up about your feelings and desires in the relationship. It’s important that your partner knows what you need to feel loved and appreciated. Maybe she’s unaware of how her actions, or lack thereof, affect you. Relationships are about teamwork, sharing responsibilities, and joys equally.

If after heart-to-heart conversations, things don't change, it might be time to reflect on whether this relationship's give-and-take balance aligns with what you truly deserve. Never forget, you deserve someone who not only receives your love with open arms but is also eager to reciprocate it. Love is a two-way street! 🛣️💑