Have you ever been in love with someone you felt was happier with their ex?

[scooogy]

When you get to know them, they're happy because they're still with their partner, and you begin to fall in love with them. Then for whatever reason they quit with their partner and don't seem as happy as before. Now had you ever wished they'd be as happy as before with their ex instead of trying to replace them?

[Anonymous]

Yep. In my last relationship my ex was still hung up on his ex. He even admitted to me that he won’t be able to love anyone as much as he loved her (the ex). At first we were just friends, but we ended up dating and I forgot that he ever said that about his ex bcs I was so caught up in the moment. It was exhausting, no matter what I did, I could never replace his ex and it became so apparent as our relationship went on… Eventually I got fed up and told him I was done, he wouldn’t let me go bcs only then did he realize that I actually proved him wrong (that he could actually love me more than he loved his ex). It’s been 4 years now and he’s still single, apparently now I’m the ex that he can’t move on from. I think it’s just a cycle with him…

[scooogy]

She seemed happier while she was still with her now ex, and on the other hand after the breakup she began to talk about what made her unhappy about him. Now whenever she gets approached by guys she feels bothered by, I pity this to the point where I feel like it was me having done something wrong. This might sound quite protective here, but on the other hand I saw her unhappy now and then and at some point she told us friends that she tried to process her breakup. It's an up and down cycle with her happiness, and I wish I could break this cycle and pull her away from that repetitive sadness. On the other hand this sounds like catching wind...

[Opinion Owner]

Seems like she’s still processing her breakup. She’s not ready to start dating again yet with a new guy that’s why she acts bothered when a guy approaches her. She’s probably still going back and forth with her emotions which makes sense, it takes time to heal from a break up and the process is not always linear. I can relate bcs I’m also currently processing a heartbreak, some days I’m happy, other days I’m back to feeling depressed. It’s normal, just gotta give her time to heal.

[jahaims]

Nope

[In_Trance]

Nope