Should I be worried about a guy or should I just take it easy?

[Anonymous]

Hello. I'm young and naive, so I want to ask a question here 😂

I started dating a guy for about 5 months, but we have known each other for a long time (3 years). He even wants to marry me soon. Everything is fine between us, but I can’t trust him yet and I’m afraid to marry him. And every time I think a lot, I don’t know what to do, whether to break up or wait until the “shit” comes out on its own))

In short, he's Mexican. And he has a lot of friends and a lot of close girl friends. They are his old friends, if anything. They've been friends for many years. I have nothing against it; friends can be of different genders. They call each other very cute like “bebesin, amor” and so on. So, I don't know, maybe they have that mentality. Everyone there has a lot of friends and they communicate like that?🤷🏼‍♀️

The next thing that worries me is that when I dug through his subscriptions, I saw comments (compliments) under the posts of other girls with hearts and so on (well, up to me, of course). And I thought maybe he was a womanizer. And since he writes like this, he will always do it this way. I told him about this, he replied that it was before me and that’s normal since he was lonely, without a partner. Now he doesn’t write anything to anyone. And they say I judge him, although he did nothing wrong and I rely on the past. But for some reason he keeps girls in his subscriptions.

Now I don't know whether to believe him or not. I'm already tired of thinking. And I don’t want to fool his head with questions every time, otherwise he’ll think that I’m a jealous psychopath😂

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, trust your gut feeling here. Some red flags I'm seeing:

- The overly cutesy way he talks to other girls is obviously disrespectful to you as his girlfriend. "Bebesin, amor" is way over the line.

- Leaving comments on other girls' pics with hearts is flirting, period. I wouldn't buy that he was just "lonely." Flirting is flirting.

- Still keeping these girls in his subscriptions now that he's with you shows he either isn't over them or wants to keep his options open. Not cool.

- Rushing to marriage so soon is also worrying. He might be trying to lock you down before you see more of his true colors.

A good partner won't make you feel jealous or insecure with their friendships or online actions. You deserve better than constantly having to snoop and question what he's up to.

I know it's scary to walk away, but marrying this dude would for sure be a mistake, girl! You're so young - don't settle. Find someone who wants only you and is loving and loyal from the start. You got this!

[andy530]

Sounds like you don’t trust him and that marriage should be off the table until you do trust him. As for if you should break up or not that’s gotta be up to you and what you would feel best about

[DishLady]

Well, to be fair there are super limited liking options on some apps, right?


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And girls usually do the ❤️ because it’s cuter, right?


Don’t take this stuff so seriously, BUT if it bugs you, talk to your man, ok?

[AI Opinion]

Treading the delicate dance of relationship dynamics, are we? 🕺💃 Your situation is like a spicy novel, filled with love, doubt, and a touch of mystery. Let's unwrap this together, shall food for thought.

First up, feeling uneasy about diving headfirst into marriage after just five months of dating is like hesitating before skydiving—it's both normal and prudent. Love is a marathon, not a sprint, and it thrives on trust and understanding.

Regarding his friendships, it's essential to recognize cultural nuances. Terms of endearment like "bebesin" and "amor" can indeed be typical in certain cultures, without implying romantic interest. It's like adding salsa to your tacos; it's just how it's done. 🌮💃

However, your concern over his social media interactions with other women stirs the pot. Communication is the golden key here. It's fabulous that you've already initiated this conversation with him. His explanation makes sense, considering many people spruce up their social media interactions when single. The real question is, has there been a noticeable change since he committed to you? Actions speak louder than heart emojis, after all. ❤️🔍

It's also understandable not to want to come across as a "jealous psychopath." Yet, expressing your feelings and insecurities is not about jealousy; it's about seeking assurance and building a stronger foundation based on trust. It's crucial for your peace of mind and your relationship's health to feel secure and respected.

Ultimately, listen to your heart but also trust your instincts. If red flags are waving, don't ignore them for the sake of romance. A relationship should elevate your spirits, not anchor them in doubt. Take your time to explore these feelings, and remember, communication is your ally. Who knows? With open hearts and minds, you might just waltz into a love story that's truly your own. 💑💖

[Asker]

Thank you so much for such a great answer. I just can’t differentiate intuition from overthinking

[Anonymous]

Trust yourself. He’s weird tbh

[Asker]

Why do you think so?

[Opinion Owner]

Marriages are built on strong foundations. Not with guys who are on every girls comments. That’s not father of your children material