My BD/boyfriend said he wish I was died, wish he never got me pregnant, always choke me in argument. Would you stick around if you was me?

[Ginger1907]

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He say he got anger issues because his brother pass away

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He drink everyday and we pretty much argue everyday

[TommyMountainFigure]

Why? So he can have his wish and have you end up like his brother?

look you feel trapped there, I get that. SO.. I suggest you look online for a support group in your area.. Someone who you can go and physically talk to..

You see to us, those who read your question, we only see the question.. nothing more.. and if you personally read that question without knowing the history.. What advice would YOU give?

That said, I'm guessing you are too scared to leave in case he finds you, or that you think you have nowhere to go,. or even scared to bring up the baby on your own.. All very daunting prospects I grant you.. BUT:-

I am going to ask you a question, something you may not yet have considered, What if after you have the baby he takes out his anger on your child? He only has to do it once and your baby will be dead, he will go to prison and most likely you will die trying to protect your baby.

That is one possible scenario. Another would be for the sake of your baby if nothing else, do what I suggested up there and take your baby away from him.. Protect him or her by making sure that lunatic of a husband goes NOWHERE near.

You cannot undo any mistakes of the past, but you owe it to your child to make sure you make the right choices from now on.. You can do it.. for the sake of your baby.. you have no choice BUT to make the changes in your life..

Good luck and stay strong..

[DannyUk2017]

Would we stick around? Fuck NO!
And i can say that here you have some Mistakes of your own made too... And the Last one is that you Allowed him to get you Pregnant... as the Child will be the "culprint/the escape goat/the black sheep for BOTH of You"... he/she would be at The Center of Your arguments...
You live in a Toxic relationship, and you should have seen lots of Red flags from Him before "pumping his seed in you", he (loved) you 5 minutes and felt in Heaven, and now you feel all Trashed Up, stomped on, Irritated, annoyed, unworthy, etc, etc... So i suggest you to Cut Your Losses, and move on, as this Toxicity will become worse and worse, and would be so much that you could take on...

[dustybiker2]

I doubt she "allowed" someone like this to get her pregnant, people like this rape by force. Wake up.

[DannyUk2017]

Well i haven't been with her to see what she's gone through, i just anssered the feed/post 🤷‍♂️

[strawberrybaby3]

If he’s wishing you dead and choking you during arguments I absolutely promise you that he will kill you one day if you don’t leave. It doesn’t matter what has happened in his life , I don’t care who has died, you do not physically assault your partner and take out your anger on them. I worry because you’re on here asking for advice on whether to leave or not when this should be an obvious answer. Yes it’s easier said than done to just leave but if you don’t, I think you will seriously regret it.

[Lynnzee]

Nooooo. Nothing good will happen in that relationship. Get out of there as soon as you can safely. As much as you may want to be a family the kids don't need to see this type of behavior or hear those words. Give the kids a chance to see what a healthy relationship looks like and know you deserve better and better will come. It make take some time but will be worth it

[AI Opinion]

Sweetheart, you're in a tough spot, and I'm here to help weave through this not-so-lovely love story. The things your BD/boyfriend is saying and doing... they're more than just red flags; they're flashing neon signs screaming "danger ahead." Wishing you were dead, regretting your pregnancy, and getting physical like choking you during arguments are not just unhealthy—they're downright dangerous. This isn't the kind of passion we aim for in relationships; it's abuse, and you deserve so much more.

Falling in love should feel like you've hit the jackpot, not like you're constantly dodging landmines. My advice? It's time to lovebomb yourself by putting your well-being first. Find a safe exit strategy and seek support from friends, family, or professionals who can help you navigate away from this toxic relationship. You're worth more than this, and there's a love story waiting for you that's filled with respect, kindness, and true partnership. Let's turn this page together. 💔➡️❤️

[DishLady]

Are you kidding right now? You can't tell whether or not you should leave?

[Avicenna]

You need to get out of there now and file for a restraining order against him.

[lightbulb27]

he needs find Jesus, and therapy to deal with his inner turmoil and stop taking drug.

That not your fault, and until then, leave because your child doesn't deserve the evil he gives. if he grows up and learns, maybe he can give love and support as he is supposed to.

I wouldn't leave, but give space.

He needs to understand he is important and has value, that he has freedom to make life choices. You want him to make right choice, but it's his decisions.

[Anonymous]

where the hell do these women find these type of men?

I swear these women are all out here with same dude and then feminists want to claim 1 in 4 women get abused and society gets into an uproar, deliberately misinterpret data claiming 1 in 4 men are abusing women when it's likely the same small number of men abusing a large number of women

meanwhile there's plenty of single guys, women wouldn't even look his way lol

[onedarkcloud]

Get yourself out of your relationship if not for your safety but for the safety of your baby! Anyone who hits a woman let alone a pregnant woman is not above hurting a baby for his stupid reasoning. Run fast and far there is no good outcome to your relationship after the child is born. The only outcome is abuse or death to you or your child. Think long think hard is he worth the danger?

[on_my_knees]

Choking and verbal degradation sounds pretty exciting, but is he at least restraining you and spanking you? Are you at least getting sex? My former abuser wouldn't allow me to masturbate and once I did, she called me a nasty pervert.

[Lionman95]

No I would leave and tell him to sort his personal issues. He´s in a crisis with himself and it could be better to avoid him for some time as he might have something to deal with like a lot of stress or mental issues.

[IslaTheWitch]

I would leave him with the first toxic behavior he showed...

[Jessikaah91]

Omg, no! Get the F away from that crazy prick asap. If he wishes he never got you pregnant then he doesn't deserve the kid if he says he wish you died and he hurts you he doesn't deserve you.

[luvstoned4him]

Do you really have to ask this question?

I think you fully know the answer

[HelpfulWoman]

make an ex pronto
you're a dumbass bitch to even need to ask.

[HelpfulWoman]

keep updating with this outs you as a troll lying now. fyi

[exitseven]

Get an attorney and make sure you get as much child support as possible.

[motownplayer2000]

Leave for your own sake. That man will kill you one day soon

[Bklynbadboy12]

HELL NO!!! LEAVE IMMEDIATELY!!! How love have you been with this asshole and why are you still with him

[OddBeMe]

No, I would run and get his ass in jail.

Then learn grammar.

[justabuddy]

I would run. No amount of child support is worth that. No man should lay a hand on you anyways.

[dustybiker2]

I would have already called the police...

[NathanDavis]

how is this even a question... lol

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Nope.

[PeachyPie93]

Abort his kid and move on.

[SweetJoyGirl]

You should leave…

[Ms_Facesitter]

Any sign of abuse, I would have booked it.

[jahaims]

No, I'm not mentally disabled

[noohair]

What? Really? You have to ask?

[bowenw]

Not for a minute.

[bowenw]

Your relationship with him is toxic. Time to move on. Don't get mixed up with another drunk.

[Med_guy1978]

I'd move on asap...