Would it hurt if your boyfriend wanted you to have an abortion?

[Courtney7u]

Say you got pregnant unplanned and your long term partner wasn't happy about it and said he didn't want it and wanted you to get an abortion. Do you think that's hurtful?

[WonderBell99]

This is why you should have important talks regarding sensitive topics before you get intimate with someone. There is nothing wrong with a little bit of cynicism and assuming the worst case scenario (ie, being prepared in case something does not go according to the plan).

I don’t really want kids, but I wouldn’t abort my baby if I do get pregnant. If we agreed on not wanting a baby at this moment, then no, it would not be hurtful. But if he agreed to help raise the baby, and leaves me or coerces me into aborting the baby, he ain’t getting out of anything. His sorry ass is going to pay the damn child support.

Do people really not talk about this before getting into a relationship?

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Lol no. It's assumed in the beginning of a relationship that the two of you don't want a baby together.
This talk comes months if not years later.
Accidental pregnancies should be dealt with accordingly.
I'm strongly against having kids you're not ready for.
It's a very stupid move for everyone involved

[WanderingLoveWizard]

But people still pop out babies like they're fucking cookies from an oven, and wonder why their lives turn to shit

[WonderBell99]

I don’t share the same opinion as you. I would definitely have the talk with my partner before getting intimate with him, and I think most people should.

While I do agree that accidental pregnancies should be dealt with differently, it is important that you are not completely blindsided by your partner’s opinion on having children. I cannot imagine dating someone who does share similar life goals. I’m pro choice for everyone else. I do agree that you should not have kids if you aren’t ready for it.. but at the same time, the mother has a right to voice out her opinion too. It would be sensible to have a long conversation about it and find a solution together.

However, I’m purely talking about cases where the father assured the mother that he would help raise the baby, but then changes his mind or leaves right before the baby is born. I don’t think that’s right.

[DownInTheDumps]

I had these talks with my ex. It was actually him who at first talked about us having a family and he also knew how much I wanted to be a mum but in the end when I did fall pregnant he wanted nothing to do with me or the baby. My point is you can have these conversations but at any given time one of them could change their mind and not say a word

[ohsheeT]

What's going to hurt worse in the long run

Him saying that he loves you and when that moment comes in to play to prove it to you he runs from it
The truth has now been told

Or

That you now know who your boyfriend really is
And you make a choice that you will carry in your heart every day for the rest of your life.

Knowing he will never know what that will feel like and he soon will forget all about it

Then you have to think. If this man can't be committed when this happens will he ever be. Will he be in your life for ever of next big thing that you both go through. Will he run again.
This is why every girl that has a boyfriend should should understand no condom NO SEX. make that choice and only that choice that way you don't have to make the choice your going to have to make

Your baby or your boyfriend

[DarkWinterNights]

It’s takes two to make a baby. Unless you tricked or forced him, he accepted the risks of there being a pregnancy when he consented. Part of being a responsible adult is taking responsibility for your actions. It sounds like your boyfriend needs to step up.

[DarkWinterNights]

To answer your actual question: yes it would hurt. If the roles were reversed and my girlfriend wanted to abort our baby I would be devastated.

[smashleyy]

Two truths at once. Yes it would hurt but he also has every right to feel that way. One of the reasons you should date someone who’s expectations and morals align with yours and be willing to have tough conversations in the beginning so this sort of thing doesn’t happen.

[Apple1996]

Yeah that'd hurt. I'd keep the baby and leave him

[ThelmaRae]

Number one. I’m waiting until marriage. Hypothetically if I did something with a guy… and I got pregnant. Fuck yeah it would hurt. I’m strongly pro life.


He has a responsibility the same as I do to raise this child we created.

[LazerBean]

Well I wouldn't have sex with and get pregnant by a filthy slut to begin with, but supporting abortion would earn any guy an immediate ghosting in my book.

[Berethor]

Shows that he not really love you if he don't want child from you, abortion is not a good thing.

[Quackthulu2]

Are you kidding? I would immediately cut contact with any guy who wanted me to keep the damn thing.

[roseloyaa]

100% it hurts but he has to communicate his wants and you do too. You got to understand where he's at in this so you know how to move forward

[mommymommymommy]

He has a right to tell you what he wants. Also now in most states, girls can't even do an abortion now, and if trump gets in, will likely be made illegal nationwide. It wouldn't matter

[DarkWinterNights]

IF Trump got in and IF Republicans doubled down and passed legislation through the House and the Senate, it would likely be closely resembling Europes abortion laws. Trump never focused heavily on abortion when in office. He’s made it clear his stance is a classical liberal pro-choice stance. Abortion with limits.

[mommymommymommy]

@DarkWinterNights He overturned roe v. wade, and would likely sign an all out abortion ban. I GUARANTEE IT

[Anonymous]

Absolutely but at the end of the day. I wouldn't have an abortion and I didn't. I chose to go through with the pregnancy

[Wild_princess]

Depends on circumstances... like if you are not financially good or not ready etc

[Anonymous]

Yes it would hurt because he knows I don't believe in having one and we already talked about having children one day.

[Akam93]

Yes. I would raise alone or if I couldnt do it put it in a safe haven baby box.

[CB-Raido-Time]

Tell him to go pound sand and don't listen to him whatever you do.

[Anonymous]

He's entitled to his opinion but ultimately it's your body and your choice.

[Anonymous]

Do you know how many millions of babies have been aborted against the wishes of the father? Forgive me if I am not very sympathetic.

[Anonymous]

It shouldn't hurt. The majority of abortions are done in pill form.

[chicken_nugget24]

You gotta talk about it and decide what you want

[shades777]

Sure your killing his kid, why wouldn't it

[Anonymous]

At the end of the day, it is your choice.

[Unit1]

Vasectomy 😎