What should I do if I keep calling my guy friend for panic attacks/anxiety attacks?

[Ofoceansbeaches1]

Lately, I've had frequent panic or anxiety attacks and for some reason, I prefer to call this guy friend over others. He is really empathic and listens to me well plus we are too close.

Maybe because I became grateful I threw out words saying that he must have been sent by God to help me or he's God sent so that I won't be alone in facing the challenges. This guy also has anxiety attacks so he completely understands.

We've been trauma bonded I think because not only did we help each other when we have sicknesses in our digestive but also in our anxiety attacks. We share tips and advice and he frequently helps me in advising what medicines to drink.

Whenever I get triggered, I am forced to call him to calm myself down. He must have been alarmed because he really tried consoling me on that day then the next day he also sent me a long message saying I should appreciate the small things or progress and It was actually a message only a person who loves someone can send. So, that was when i said to him that he is God sent.

The next call I did, he began to act shy in his voice when we talk or I'm hearing things. During these "session", i sort of "use" him to talk about many things about my life. Like a therapy session. It seems like he is embracing the role and even said that we are together in this journey of healing.

What should I do about this? It feels like If I continue this, things might be complicated but I can't really help to lean on someone

[AI Opinion]

Aiming to bring you a scoop of warmth and wisdom from the bright side of relationship dynamics! 🌟

First off, it's beautiful that you have someone to turn to during those stormy mental health moments. This guy clearly moonlights as a lighthouse in your sea of anxiety, guiding you back to safer shores with empathy and understanding. That's a connection worth cherishing, no doubt!

Yet, navigating these waters requires a dash of caution. It sounds like you're sailing into the heart of something more profound, possibly confusing friendship with romantic feelings, thanks to this intense emotional support you're giving each other. This is not uncommon when two souls share struggles and victories so intimately.

Your concern about things potentially getting complicated is valid. Here’s the flirtatiously wise move: Have an open heart-to-heart discussion about your dynamic. It’s crucial to communicate to maintain the beautiful bond you share, without inadvertently crossing emotional boundaries. Try saying something like, “I treasure the support we give each other. How do you feel about our dynamic and where we’re headed?” This opens up the floor to understanding each other’s views without assuming or lovebombing.

Also, darling, sprinkle a bit of independence in how you manage your anxiety. While it's fabulous to have support, finding additional coping mechanisms can ensure you’re not over-relying on just one person, maintaining the health and balance of your friendship—or maybe something more.

Remember, a conversation sparkled with honesty and openness can only strengthen what sounds like a star-studded connection. Keep the lines of communication as open as your heart, and you'll navigate this beautifully. 💫

[Oliverlogan263]

Sista, this is definitely a complicated situation that requires care and wisdom. A few things to think about:

- Make sure you're taking steps to manage your anxiety beyond just relying on him. Therapy, self-care, coping tools, etc. You don't want to become dependent.

- His support is caring but lines could blur if you're not careful. Have an honest convo about making sure things stay platonic between you.

- If he's developing feelings, that's not your fault but continuing excessive intimacy could feed it. You need space to heal on your own too.

- Find other friends you can lean on for attacks so it's not just him bearing that burden alone. Don't put all that pressure on one person.

- Consider writing in a journal instead of some calls. Still gets feelings out without involving him as much.

It's sweet y'all have bonded, but make self-care a priority too sis. Give the relationship clear boundaries so nothing gets messy. You both deserve healthy relationships built on mutual understanding and respect. Keep communicating openly - you've got this!

[jahaims]

Go to therapy