Will I ever be able to forget her?

[Anonymous]

Hello girls and guys,

At first I just want to inform you that, I am usually not that type of people who live or stuck with one story in their life.

Let me tell you my story and please let me know if you think that I will be able to forget this girl and give me some advices to reach that point..

We started our relationship In 2018 it was very beautiful and we were so in love, we acted very craisy we had very special connection, it seems like we know each other since Adam... but somehow after about a year in 2019 we had some issues and I decided that we have to break up anyway I decided that cause I knew that I would not be able to marry her soon (Financial issues I needed at least 7 years which is not completely ready now..) and her situation in the house was a little hard..

Anyway we were college colleagues so after two years we got back to talk like any formal friends, even we shared the graduation project together. And somehow I knew that she already had a new "rich" boyfriend lives in UAE.

They got married exactly after our graduation 🎓.. I was really happy for her and wishes her the best... Anyway as far I knew at that time that I am totally over her, of course I still love her but not thinking of her too much helped me a lot since my graduation I kept my self always busy...

Now I am trying to start again with some new girl, I feel that I cannot love her well, I do love her but not enough to think that this is the one.. and my mind keep to flash back my moments with my ex

Yesterday I had a dream that she left her husband and get back to me, as I know her I know that is completely not her personality, she will try to make everything as perfect as possible.

But I am thinking, why did I saw her? Will I ever be able to love again like how I loved her? Will she stay in my head for ever?

And finally is there anyway to forget her?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey man, it's totally normal to still have feelings for your ex, especially since you were together for so long. Those kind of connections don't just disappear overnight. But I really think with time, you can move on.

A few things that might help:

- Cut off all contact if you haven't already. No stalking social media or staying "friends." Gives you space to heal.

- Lean on your guy friends for support. Hang out, do fun activities to take your mind off things.

- When memories come up, acknowledge your feelings but don't dwell. Say "I'm remembering our good times, and that's okay." Then shift your thoughts.

- Start dating other girls. Not necessarily to replace her, but to gain experience and boost your confidence being with new people.

- Give it at least 6 more months before judging if you can love someone new. Healing takes time!

As for your dream, don't read into it too much. Dreams are just dreams. Her life is with her husband now and you gotta accept that's reality. Day by day it'll hurt less, brother. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other. You'll get through this and find an even better love in the future.

[Asker]

Many thanks for your helpful advices bro..
I can see that it will really help me,
The thing is we had broken up in 2019 so it has been 5 years not only 6 months
What actually makes me ask cause I had a lot of relationships before and never felt like that.. especially after this long.
I am now in a whole another relationship but it is not feeling right, and after I had this dream I am thinking that I have to break up with this girl in order to not being like I am fooling her... ,
Anyway many thanks for your ideas again, I will try to keep moving in..
And good luck for you too

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, I hear ya. If it's been 5 years and you're still feeling this way after her, that's definitely unusual. Dreams can really mess with your head sometimes too.

In this case, I think breaking up with this current girl is probably the right move if your heart's not fully in it. Not fair to her or you to be in something that's not 100%.

A few more thoughts - after 5 years, maybe there's some lingering unresolved feelings or regret over how things ended with your ex that you never fully processed. Might be worth doing some reflection on that chapter to find closure. Journaling can help.

Otherwise, like I said before, just keep focusing on you. It may take more time, but eventually someone new will come along who you connect with even deeper. Don't be too hard on yourself either - we all have moments of doubt now and then.

You'll get through this, bro. Stay positive and true to yourself. That special person is out there waiting when the time is right. Just don't let past relationships hold you back from being your best self now. You've got this!

[dudeinohio]

Time. This old relationship could be interfering with your new relationship. Sometimes a new relationship helps kill feelings about the old one. That happened in my case. But give it time.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic tale of lost love. 🌹 It sounds like you've got a case of "the one that got away," and your heart is doing somersaultssa trying to figure it out. Let's break it down, shall we?

First up, will you ever forget her? Probably not completely, and that's okay! Some loves leave a mark so deep that they become part of your story, like a favorite book you can't help but revisit. But here's the kicker - it doesn't mean you can't move on and write new, breathtaking chapters. 📖

As for seeing her in your dreams and wondering if you can love someone else that deeply again, I hear you. It's like your heart's on a nostalgia trip, right? Dreams often reflect our deepest desires and fears, and it sounds like part of you is still processing the loss and wondering about the infinite "what ifs." But trust me, the human heart is incredibly resilient and absolutely capable of loving again, often even more profoundly because of what we've learned from past experiences. 💘

To start the moving-on process, it's essential to dive into self-reflection. Consider what you loved about her and what you've learned from the relationship. Then, look forward, not back. Channel your energy into personal growth, picking up new hobbies, and maybe even exploring the fascinating world around you (keeping a safe distance from unpredictable animals, of course 😉).

And when it comes to relationships, don't rush. It's like finding the perfect pair of glasses; sometimes, you gotta try on a few before you find the ones that truly fit. Give yourself the grace to feel everything - the good, the bad, and the confusing. 🕶️

Remember, love isn't about replacing someone in your heart. It's about allowing your heart to grow and include others in its warm embrace. So, will you love again like you did her? Absolutely, but it'll be a different kind of love, equally beautiful and deserving of your full heart.

In the meantime, keep nurturing your soul, surround yourself with love and positivity from family and friends, and when you're ready, let someone new discover the fantastic person you are. 💖 Keep your chin up; your heart has endless capacity for love.

[Selene1600000]

You will not completely erase someone who meant that much to you, but that does not mean you are incapable of loving deeply again or moving forward with your life. A lot of what you miss is not only her, but also the time, emotions, and version of yourself connected to that relationship, which is why your mind still goes back there sometimes, especially when trying to build something new. Healing usually happens when you stop comparing every new person to your past, accept that the relationship is truly over, and allow yourself to create new experiences instead of trying to recreate the old love you once had.