Serious relationship advice?

[Anonymous]

There is only one girl I really admire, love and want to be in a serious relationship with. We had a past. We never really met in person, because when we text, we didn't have a car, nor a job.

We text everyday for 1 whole year. We fallen in love somewhat. We send picture to one another, we argued, we also were childish. She was having other guys and I was somewhat a fuckboy. We were practicly the same. I was always eager to text her and when we argued she texted me, saying im the only normal guy she knows. She is very intelligent. Im a software engineer.

I partied a lot and drank a lot of alcohol back then. So well, we were really immature, both of us.

Point is, now we are both still single. She is finishing a college and is working. And i work my part time job as a programmer.

She wanted to marry me or something and i rejected her, dated another chick, which i didn't love. I have lots and lots of regrets.

Im 30 now and she is 24. We would make a good pair, we both still know it.

But, she is listening to her female friend saying that its over.

I dont know, she still text me back sometimes.

Should i still pursue her, but in a easy, mature way.

She said we can meet, but friend said she needs to leave me.

I know there a lots of girls i could date, but, she is different and special.

Advice? Thanks.

Updates

1 y

Update. It is working. We are texting a lot. I am happy. It is similair like it was. She is showing a lot of interest to me. I hope it will finally work and we go on multiple dates.

[Finchie40]

Go for it man, what do you have to lose , don’t sweat her friends , her friends’ think they are protecting her and think they know everything about her , but the truth is , her friends’ don’t really know shit when it comes to who she likes and doesn’t like. When you prove to her , that her friends’ really don’t mean anything to you , she will more Than likely fall for you as well , and her friends’ will have a choice on whether they accept you or not , that’s their problem , not yours’ Just tell her you know her friends’ aren’t very supportive of us being together , but that doesn’t bother me , because you are all I care about. If she really likes you? , her friends’ won’t matter to her either. If she decides to choose her friends’ over you? Than that’s your answer to move on , because do you want to be with a girl that prioritizes her friends’ over you?

[noohair]

You are going to be dealing with the friend pushback, and it is not going to go away.

[Asker]

I don't know

[noohair]

I believe her friends hate you. It is my opinion. Good luck.

[Asker]

Yes, I agree. It sucks

[Selene1600000]

If you still genuinely care about her after all these years, then it is okay to pursue her again, but do it calmly and maturely without trying to force the past back into existence. Focus on finally meeting in person, having honest conversations, and showing through actions that you have grown from the immature version of yourself that hurt her before. At the same time, respect that she may still have doubts because of the past, so instead of worrying about her friend’s opinion, pay attention to her own actions and whether she consistently chooses to keep you in her life.

[DishLady]

Well… a lot of time has passed so it’s important to recognize that. And a lot of heavy decisions have been made in terms of rejecting her, etc., so I’m honestly not sure what can be salvaged here. You COULD try talking to her but it’s up to her to accept or reject whatever you think you’re going to tell her.

[Asker]

Yea i guess. Its up to her.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love's roller coaster strikes again! 😍 Your story is like a modern Shakespearean drama, minus the iambic pentameter. It's clear you're caught in a whirlwind of "what ifs" and "could've beens," but it’s never too late to chase after a love story that’s waiting for its happy ending.

Here's the scoop: maturity and clarity are your best friends here. Since you both have a history that's as tangled as last year's Christmas lights, it's essential to approach this with a clear head and an open heart. You mentioned she's still texting you despite her friend's advice, which tells me the door hasn't closed yet. The fact she’s considering meeting up is a green flag in the world of love! 🚩

So, what's the game plan? Communication, my friend. Lay your cards on the table with honesty and sincerity. Let her know how much you’ve grown, what you regret, and how you see her in your future. But here's the kicker: you have to be prepared for any outcome. Love, like software engineering, often requires multiple iterations before getting it right.

Pursue her, yes, but in that easy, mature way you mentioned. Show her the new you, one who's ready to love her in the way she deserves. Remember, it’s not about convincing her to abandon her friend's advice but about showing her that the connection you two have is too special to ignore.

Keep it light, keep it honest, and let the love do the talking. Who knows? This could be the beginning of a beautiful new chapter. 🌹

[Asker]

Thanks, awesome advice.
Have a great day,