How can I have a girlfriend if I don't know what to do?

[MasterRA]

Honestly, I have never had a girlfriend, I have tried but nothing materializes, but I want to have a girlfriend, to be loved, to be the only person for someone, but being 33 years old, it seems that the obvious and the "easy" thing for some, no longer seems to me. happens to do.

I sincerely wish to have a girlfriend, my life plan is not to stay single all my life, I don't want to be alone spending my own money on myself, nor to support any woman, I want her to work just like me, for me to be her whole romantic and personal complement; Go out for a walk, travel, enjoy every minute we have together, I have no vices and I stay at home working.

It's easy for everyone to say that I should go out, meet people, get out of my comfort zone but I don't feel comfortable in an environment where it's not my thing, I don't like to drink liquor or smoke; They have suggested going to libraries, churches, dance academies, but that doesn't appeal to me.

The other important thing is that I wouldn't want just any woman, it must be a black woman, I love these women, since I was a child I have always liked them, and even though they tell me that any woman is suitable for me but that is not the case, they may be right but I do not want a woman who is not black; I love their way of being, their behavior and aptitude, they are direct and expressive, I need that emotion in my life, as for the physique I don't care what their body is like, but if they have thick and fleshy lips, it would be the best for me in a black woman.

Aside from the above, I can't think of what to do to make a black woman fall in love with me if I am a white man, I don't know how to approach, start a conversation, captivate her, and have her make the decision to continue seeing me... I don't know what I can do? By the way, I'm not usually very expressive at first, I'm only talkative when I feel confident.

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PS: I am not American and in my city there are few dark-skinned women, there are cities nearby that do have more women like that but the distance is also an inconvenience, although if she accepts me, I could go see her or she could see me

[DishLady]

I don't know any guy who "knew what to do" the first time they approached a woman. You do need to start trying, though, if you're actually 33 and haven't been trying yet. Practice approaching women during the breakfast time after church, for example, or at a volunteer function. It just has to be a "Hi" for starters and let your instinct take it from there based on whether she's interested in you.

[MasterRA]

Mmm I'm not religious, I don't go to church nor am I interested in going; now, a "hello" is fine, and then what? Why do I always have to be the one to initiate a conversation? And yes, there have been women who have started a conversation with me but none of them were interested in me romantically, they just wanted to talk to someone random and I was that random man who took away that boring stay without talking, honestly I'm like Steve Carrel in his movie "The 40-Year-Old Virgin" I'm actually 33 and I'm practically like him, he didn't feel comfortable with society but still didn't want to remain alone, I'm not saying that I can find the perfect woman for me because that is a very complicated and arduous task, but I don't expect to reach that age and be someone who didn't live that human experience.

[Nikki1989]

It is not rocket-science. Socialize and ask someone out.

[MasterRA]

Believe me, it hasn't been as easy as you make it out to be. As I said, I'm not good at socializing, much less going out, and even more so now with a woman's obsessive desire to have every man harass her. I'd like to be more open with women, but my mind goes blank when I try to talk to someone. It's easy for you because you think all men can approach a woman and say "Hi," but other men, like me, don't even try, even if they want to. Maybe out of fear of what the woman will say or if she likes us. You don't know how complex all this is.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the quest for love, my friend! You're diving deep into the ocean of affection, looking for that one special pearl. The key here isn't just about finding someone who fits a specific type, but connecting on a deeper level, with shared values, interests, and mutual respect. 🌹

First off, let's remember that love doesn't discriminate, and focusing too intensely on a specific type might limit your chances of finding true connection. However, being attracted to certain traits isn't wrong; it's about finding the balance. Your admiration for black women's expressiveness and beauty is genuine, and that's your heart speaking. 💖

To weave the web of love, especially when you're a little reserved, start by expanding your social circle in environments you do feel comfortable. Since bars and parties are off the list, how about online communities, forums, or social media groups dedicated to interests you have? It's 2023, and the internet has become a global village where you can meet people from all walks of life, including vibrant, expressive women who share your interests.

When it comes to making her fall for you, remember, love is not about convincing someone to be with you, but about being your authentic self and letting connections form naturally. Show genuine interest in her as a person. Listen to her stories, share your passions, and let your natural humor and charm shine through. Confidence is key, even if it's quietly confident.

And don't worry about the initial shyness; many find it endearing. Just ensure that when you do open up, it's meaningful and sincere. Lovebombing isn't the game; patience is.

Remember, every great love story starts with a simple "Hello." So, when you feel that spark of interest, don't hesitate to reach out. Who knows? Your next "Hello" might just be to the love of your life. 💫

[MasterRA]

I understand, refusing to meet a woman who is not a black woman I consider every day of my life, but I really wonder "how come there are white men with black girlfriends? And why can't I find a black woman to be my girlfriend?", I understand that I can't force any woman to love me, but how difficult is it to find a black woman and make her fall in love without telling her that what I love about her is her exuberant feminine figure and her thick, fleshy lips (which Her lips are what I love most about them), how can she see her as a woman, as a person if a black woman exudes sensuality and sexuality in every millimeter of her existence? It's not idolatry, it's just that I love everything that a black woman can offer, I like it, I love it, it's the only thing I think about when I'm looking for a black woman to formalize a courtship with her and well, I have to consider if I'm enough for her Apart from my charisma and good personality, I don't know if she wants to fall in love with me for being the way I am with her (all this was born because my first kiss was when I was 5 years old with a black girl at the school where I studied, from that day on I always I wanted a black girlfriend, it's a shame she went to another city and I never saw her again, she would have been my first and only girlfriend but it didn't happen)

[jahaims]

It's because your a loser bud.

[MasterRA]

Haha, typical American comment, they think they are the cream of the crop and saying "loser" doesn't work these days; just because you can have sex with any woman doesn't mean you should discriminate against everyone for their social, romantic and sexual maladjustment; if you didn't have enough influence to be a Casanova, you won't be one until you find that special woman. I refused a lot of things because I thought I wouldn't be accepted, but I really didn't try to tell a woman "be my girlfriend" maybe she would say yes without even worrying about rejection.