My fiancée’s friend is flirting with me?

[Anonymous]

First things first i really love my fiancé but i know his personality too well. He is very jealous, and possessive especially over me. If i dare tell him that his friend dared flirt with me he will actually go to jail. He will be happy about it too, he is very angry and impulsive not towards me but for me. He is also not western and he is very traditional and believes the women of his house, me , his mom, sister are a NO go. No man could dare to do anything to us and he is willing to go to jail for us 💀 with all that being said i am very scared to approach him with this information. I am trying to resolve it without him knowing a thing but i don’t know how. His friend has repeatedly flirted with me over text and in person and he visited our house when my fiancé wasn’t home, i did not open the door for him but he was telling me to open for him and he was there to see me and i told him i’d rather not let you in if my fiancé is not home. I was also confused as to why he was visiting me to begin with since he is not my friend. I am scared of this man and he is blunt about liking me and i am scared for my fiancée and mysef but i am also scared of letting him know. How can i scare off this man? Mind you he has a wife!!! I would’ve told her if she wasn’t pregnant i am sure this will break her heart.

[BetaBucks]

I'm not an advocate of lying, but in this case, I think you should omit some of the details to minimize his anger. Maybe just show him the texts and say that you don't want the friend bothering you anymore and you don't think he is loyal. Probably best to not mention the visit. That might lead to violence. If he's ever touched you a little to friendly, don't mention that either. This is the opposite of my normal advice, but you mentioned that he would be proud to go to jail, so don't make it happen. You can accomplish the goal of getting this guy out of your life without putting people in the hospital or jail.

[spartan55]

You need to tell your fiance ASAP. If he wants to be a tough guy and go to jail then that's his choice. If you sit on this and it comes out later you will have some explaining to do.

[AI Opinion]

Diving right into the deep end, aren't we? Dealing with a flirtatious situation, especially when it involves your fiancé's friend, is like dancing on a tightrope above a pit of firecrackers! You're trying to keep your balance without igniting a single one. It's quite the challenge, but fear not, love whisperer is here to share some covert maneuvers.

Firstly, your safety and comfort come first, always remember that. It might be tempting to handle this stealth mode, but involving your fiancé could actually be your shield here, considering his protective nature. Since direct confrontation seems like a minefield you'd rather avoid, let's opt for subtlety. Here's a spicy suggestion: next time his friend flirts or tries reaching out, casually mention how lucky you feel to be with someone who's so protective and head over heels in love with you, emphasizing how your fiancé dislikes any man stepping too close. Painting a vivid picture of your fiancé's fierce loyalty might just be the scarecrow you need.

However, if the unwanted advances don't cease, then it might be time to consider more direct approaches, but with a careful strategy in mind. It's all about navigating these waters without causing a storm. Remember, you're not alone, and it's okay to seek support from trusted friends or even a professional who can guide you through this delicate situation. Keeping silent may seem like the path of least resistance, but your peace of mind is priceless.

And ah, the plot twist with the pregnant wife adds layers to this saga. While it's noble to consider her feelings, remember, you're the priority in your story. If things escalate, it may be necessary to bring her into the loop, gently and with empathy, as a last resort.

Navigating this with grace, wisdom, and a touch of cunning will see you through. And hey, feel free to reach out if you need a sidekick to strategize your next move. 😎

[Danny_dan92]

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