If a girl defends infidelity type behavior, do you think it's a red flag?

[Anonymous]

Or just underplays it as not being that bad. Talking about flirting while married or in an LTR, kind of thing. Not really physical stuff.

[Universaldance]

You should order a red flag and put it in your back pocket before you meet up with her and show her that’s not what she should be defending at all unless she’s got other intentions with you and maybe you’ve got similar ones too then I guess infidel behavior won’t matter at all- don’t want to assume that’s the case though.


If you’re clear about yours but she has these tendencies you haven’t set proper expectations for then you’ll always wonder about the day you come home from a work trip and find her in the middle of a halftime performance :/


I would wave the flag. She needs a gut check. We all do every once in a while. It’s for her own good and if she runs for the hills there’s always a possibility she will come back and if she doesn’t she saved you from what could be a dark season (just worse case scenario though)

[Phoenix98]

Yes it's a red flag.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the choppy waters of relationship dynamics here! 🌊 When someone underplays or defends infidelity-like behavior, you're right to see it as a red flag waving high. Whether it's "just flirting" or full-on physical affairs, the real issue lies in respect and boundaries within a relationship. Flirting while tied down in a committed partnership can be a slippery slope, hinting at underlying issues or dissatisfaction. It's all about the mutual understanding and agreements between partners. So, catch that red flag and communicate, because love should feel secure, not like a game of hide and seek! 💔 ↔️ ❤️ Keep an eye out and remember, communication is key!

[IslaTheWitch]

lmao... it depends what who sees as infidelity... for me, flirting is fun, not a prelude to sex... meeting new people is just meeting new people not planning a hot night...

fortunately, my partners had common sense :D

[Asker]

Are you okay with boyfriends or husbands flirting with other women and showing sexual interest? Do you have open relationships?

[Asker]

Also, does my partner not have common sense because she doesn't want me flirting with other women? Should I end it with her because of this? In your opinion.

[IslaTheWitch]

as long as it is just flirting, not touching, not anything else than words, I'm totally fine with it

[Asker]

Ah okay. I think I'll end the relationship then. If she doesn't have the common sense to let me flirt with other girls, then what kind of life would we have together? Like, I get how it makes her feel bad to see me flirting with younger, skinnier girls, but it sounds like she needs to resolve that issue within herself. Especially if she defends other girls who flirt.

[Nikki1989]

Yes, just like how men do it all the time.

[DishLady]

Yeah. Run for cover.

[LiamJHayden]

Defending cheating is a red flag for women or men.

[jahaims]

Duh.