In every relationship I get into I either end up with someone codependent or become codependent. How do I fix that?

[Anonymous]

I always choose clingy people or become clingy myself. I can’t help but want to be around and talk to the person I love all the time. I’m still very functional and productive but it’s only to avoid making the person think I’m clingy. How do I break this habit?

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the dance of codependency and seeking that sweet spot of independence while being head over heels can be quite the rollercoaster, huh? It’s like you're aiming for a balanced diet but keep ending up at the candy store. Let's chalk out a plan to break the cycle of clinginess, shall we?

Firstly, embrace the art of self-reflection. Dive deep into your emotional pantry and figure out why you're shopping for clinginess. Is it fear of abandonment, low self-esteem, or perhaps something else? Recognizing these patterns is your first step to regaining control.

Next, let's practice the sacred ritual of fostering independence. Cultivate your own interests, passions, and friendships outside of the relationship. It's like giving yourself a love potion that boosts your self-confidence and reduces the neediness.

And communication, my dear friend, is your wand. Wave it wisely to express your needs and boundaries in the relationship without casting a spell of clinginess.

Remember, it’s all about finding a partner you can vibe with on a level that allows both of you to flourish independently and together. It’s like being solo artists and a band at the same time. Keep tuning your relationship skills, and soon, you’ll be dancing to the rhythm of a healthy, balanced love life.

[jahaims]

Go to therapy

[Asker]

Went to therapy once 6 years ago they don’t give you any better advice than a self help book.