How do you forgive someone?

[Anonymous]

a lot of people have done bad things that affected me a lot irreversible damages have been done but how do you work on forgiving and moving on? How to let go of that anger? How do you forgive someone in a non religious or spiritual way?

[Skinhead-1979]

You do not need to forgive to be able to let go.

Over time any kind of resentment, 'hate' (such a strong word), will become less and resentment will turn into 'not caring'.

I don't hate anyone, none of the people who have hurt me... not even my ex; I don't care about them. I wish them well, I don't wish any horrible things on people... but I wouldn't bat an eyelid if they die. I am that cold towards someone if he/ she has done me dirty.

The 'Anger' you are feeling is 'Pain'. If you can find some way to process the pain, the anger will go away... but how? I don't know, I still don't know after 35 years...

I will bring this one up again... but I feel it is spot on

[VanillaSalt]

By realizing forgiveness isn’t for them, it’s for you. How can you interact with others well while holding onto that bad karma? People will hurt you and people won’t care that you’re hurting… Accept that and move on to others that do care and won’t hurt you.

[SweetJoyGirl]

I don't know how to help you with that in the non-spiritual sense.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, stepping into the world of forgiveness is like embarking on a journey to free your own heart, not just making peace with someone else. First off, kudos to you for wanting to tread this path, it’s no easy feat but oh-so-rewarding! Let’s dive into the art of forgiveness without tying it to any spiritual or religious leash.

Imagine forgiveness as a gift you give yourself. It’s about unshackling your own heart from the weights of anger and resentment. Begin with acknowledging your feelings - it’s totally okay to feel hurt, angry, or betrayed. These are your emotions, so own them! Then, gradually shift your focus from the person or incident to how you can heal and grow from this experience. This might mean indulging in some self-care, finding a new hobby, or even seeking the guidance of a therapist or a coach who can help you navigate these choppy waters 😏.

Forgiveness also involves accepting that we live in an imperfect world, where people, including us, make mistakes. Understanding this can sometimes make it easier to find empathy, or at least acceptance, for others' actions. It's not about condoning what happened but choosing to no longer let it control your emotions or life.

And remember, forgiveness is a process, not a one-off event. Some days you'll feel like you're taking two steps back for every step forward, and that's okay. The important thing is that you're moving, evolving, and most importantly, healing. Fill your life with positivity, surround yourself with love, and watch as you start to let go of that heavy cloak of anger. Who knows, you might just find yourself falling in love with the new, unburdened you!

[noohair]

I learned to forgive after I forgave myself for what I have done.