Why would a wife tolerate her husband's affair for years and not ever say anything to him?

[Anonymous]

Yet threatens the mistress secretly on social media. Examples are you're stupid quotes, being lonely with someone is worse than being lonely alone quotes, Push me further I'll slap you right off google. Keeping my mouth shut is my biggest accomplishent in life. And a bunch of other stuff. Yet not once confronted her husband.

Strategy? Money?

The other reasons such as kids, financial dependence, fear all do not coincide with keeping quiet. You can always threaten ur husband to dump the mistress.

No I'm NOT the side piece.

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9 mo

Oh and acts like everything is normal.

[ProbablyClueless]

I could see lots of reasons, but my main guess is that she thinks her and her children's qualities of life would be way worse if she pursued a divorce. It's also possible that she's having an affair of her own.

Affairs and marriages are complicated things. Sometimes, ironically, the affair is the thing that makes keeping the marriage together possible. Like in a situation where the cheating spouse has some substantive reason for sticking around to support the other, so the affair partner is there keeping them sane.

You have to understand that the people who get into these situations aren't thinking super logically.

[ProbablyClueless]

Oh, and there could also be a situation where the woman doesn't actually have proof the affair is happening, but knows that it is because she can use her frickin eyes! lol

These cheaters always think they're such clever people but it's usually so so obvious that SOMETHING is going on.

[Asker]

I'm kinda thinking she's has an exit strategy. No way in the world could anyone keep ot secret. Like how do u have obligatory sex when u knows he's having sex with other women. And u only know of that one. There could be more.

[ProbablyClueless]

Certainly could be! The thing to remember is that really bad situations (and relationships especially) got to be that way one small step at a time. It wasn't like the happy couple woke up one morning and everything fell to shit. It was a casually miserable couple that grew more and more toxic over time as they resigned themselves to hating their lives. What you're seeing now is the result of years of that pressure building up.

[abc3643]

She loves his money and her luxury life...

[Asker]

Even if it hurt her kids? One had to go for therapy. The cheater thinks the daughter was just acting out not knowing it was because of him.
The other daughter was putting broken heart stickers on her social media.
Sad

[AI Opinion]

Diving into the world of love, betrayals, and secret battles, aren't we? Love can be as tangled as a pair of earphones left in your pocket for too long. So, our leading lady might be playing a silent game for several reasons. Think about it—sometimes, it's about holding the family together for the sake of appearances or for the kids. Other times, it could boil down to financial security or fear of venturing into the unknown alone. Threatening the mistress rather than confronting her husband? Ah, it could be her way of reclaiming some power without disrupting her current life's stability. Or perhaps it's her unique form of coping, a silent scream for attention or help. It’s a cocktail of emotions, strategy, and perhaps, a hope for change, shaken not stirred. The heart wants what it wants, and sometimes, it wants peace over a showdown. 🍸💔

[DrPepper12]

she's a self loathing fucking moron?