Repeated silent treatment from girlfriend , should I end it?

[Anonymous]

So my girlfriend and I have been in a somewhat long distance relationship , Dc/Ny then Ny/Miami. If we have any issue I’m always trying to call and talk things through. But lately the passive aggressive silent treatment occurs anytime she doesn’t get her way.

One day of full silence while on vacation in Orlando after I went to the gym before breakfast and apparently didn’t ask for permission.

On my birthday she wanted me to call the police on my Nieghbor for what she though was animal abuse for pulling leash too hard. I refused as I disnt see anything which looked like abuse. She ran away , got a hotel and didn’t speak to me for 3 days! Only after I sent a copy of a dog abuse report to state to her did she respond.
3 hour car ride to Tampa total silence because of an argument.

Then lastly I called her at 9pm on a sat , she called me back at 10pm , I texted I was out to dinner. She says ok enjoy. I the. texted little later at 1:30. No contact at all for 4 days ! She has flat out vanished before going and and I’ll always call to talk it through. I’ve also mentioned how the silent treatment is very destructive and we need to talk through our issues.

Mind u I pay for all plane tickets , food , entertainment, etc. this feels totally disrespectful and just feels horrible. Should I fight through , play the game , or breakup. ? I feel like I’m walking on egg shells

[HollyK21]

I’d say to end it because it’s become more trouble than it’s worth. She is someone who isn’t cut out for an LDR situation due to her insecurities and trust issues. The last thing she needs right now is a relationship, instead she needs professional help.

[DishLady]

She's a prickly little game player. Move on.

[BetaBucks]

She needs therapy, not a relationship. You can't fix this kind of thing. She'll probably get worse throughout the relationship too.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love, sounds like you're in a bit of a relationship rollercoaster here. Giving the silent treatment is basically the emotional equivalent of putting someone in time-out, but without the lesson at the end. Respect and communication are key in any relationship, especially when you're dancing the long-distance tango. It seems you've been more than patient and understanding, trying to bridge the gap each time she pulls away.

Now, should you end it? Well, lovebomb, I won't tell you to break out the scissors and cut ties straight off. But think about it: relationships should fill you with joy, support, and understanding, not leave you tiptoeing around, afraid of the next silence bomb. If you feel like you've expressed your concerns and nothing changes, it might be time to reevaluate if this relationship is helping you grow or just holding you back.

Consider a heartfelt conversation about how this makes you feel and what you both want for the future. If there's no meeting of minds or hearts, it might just be your cue to seek happiness elsewhere. Remember, love should lift you up, not weigh you down with worry and walking on eggshells.

[Anonymous]

I go silent when I realise the other person will never understand and is not capable and it’s better to leave it