Does life feel boring for you?

[Crimsyjo]

Sorry. I'm ill today. Hit with a cold (first time in ages!) And I'm in a contemplating mood.

I've been "having fun" and running around being spontaneous. But I'm feeling at a point where I need to calm it down. Concentrate on some other (very dull) things but damn it I hate when life feels boring! I get worried of getting depressed when I don't have a high to look forward to (I don't do drugs or smoke. Drink a bit. My high tends to come from my promiscuous behaviour).

So... I'm sitting here wondering how do u do it? Just work, chores, tv, eat, sleep day in day out? Urgh! Come on! There's gotta be more!

IM SCARED OF BOREDOM!! Is it just me?

And yes I have "hobbies" like painting and writing. I'm studying degree so keeps me busy. I go social events, go cinema, pubs, walks, gym. Just none of its really "exciting" cos I'm lonely half the time. I like the connections I build with men I'm gonna sleep with. And yes I've had counselling too for this "low self esteem" issue lol.

[Lynx122]

I'm autistic so for me this has never been a big problem. It's more that life can be too intense sometimes. I spent longer in the phase of childlike wonder and discovery than other people because I absorb things less broadly and more focused on one thing but in a lot of detail. So it took me longer to take in everything. And now I still have a lot of things that I'd like to do but I can't because I don't have the capacity. Right now I just moved to a new apartment and I want to settle in, I want to get in shape and work more on my fitness and I want to cook and try out a variety of different foods. And I also wanna keep working on my social life which I've been doing for a little while but now I've moved so it's added some more challenge to it.

All these things are more than enough to keep me occupied. I need to get enough rest so I don't get exhausted. If I do well in these areas I'll be satisfied. Then I'll see about new things to tackle. I feel like I also experience the discomfort more in detail when I try to overexert myself or I party or something so i try to keep things going smoothly and steadily for the most part steady improvements is what I'm going for.

I do like partying sometimes but it needs to be the right environment the right people and I need to be well rested and in the right mood. It can easily just become a burden and something I don't enjoy if it's not right for me.

The fact that I can't take on that much at once ensures that I won't get bored and run out of things I wanna do. So I haven't reached the point yet where I'm bored and I'll do anything to break up the monotony.

But I've met a lot of people like you I always felt a bit bad for them tbh. I do think I might reach that point as well in the future but I hope it stays away as long as possible :)

[Crimsyjo]

That all sounds positive and I totally get it. For 8 years I was not interested in much other than building up myself, my family, my fitness and figuring out my career goals and making a nice home fir myself.
You have a wonderful sense of self-awareness which will hold you in good faith. I'm glad you are happy where you are at right now!!

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Wow, the way you describe your current life doesn't sound autistic at all to me, or if it is then I am also autistic 😅 I understand this is an extremely private question, but I'm intrigued about the relation you have with autism

[Lynx122]

@Maybe_Maybe_not I'm high functioning as they say. But I can't work a normal job. I've tried it was a relitively easy job but it was pure suffering for me. I can appear like other people for 1-2 days but you'd have to follow me around a few weeks to see how much rest I need and how on average I'm a lot less productive. Energy in a human is not like in a phone battery you don't just shut off when you're at 0% You can go over the limit. But if you're constantly at or over the limit you will pay a price. That's why I need to stand up for myself and protect myself. I had one burnout at this job I told you about because I really wanted to "take the chance to prove that I could be part of the workforce and succeed in the future" but I won't make that mistake again. For my whole life I've had my mental health as my first priority but in this situation I neglected myself. There were too many outside expectations and I wanted to prove that I was really doing my best and giving it my all but it was too much. I see that it's not easy to understand the situation from the outside. Most autistic people do their best to fulfill their responsibilities and then try to rest and make sacrifices in their private time to be able to keep functioning. But it's not healthy. You need to have the bravery to say no even if other people don't understand your struggles. It's complicated to explain but if you have any more questions I'll answer.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

@Lynx122 Okay, thank you for elaborating :)
I don't have a specific question in mind, I'll simply go with the general idea you gave me about you live with it. Though, I am familiar with mental health, in general, so I'm talking from a certain stanpoint, let's say that my table wasn't empty from the start :D

[bananathunder]

I hate being bored. Thank God I have two hands and a good internet connection lol

[Crimsyjo]

Haha. You have two hands. I have two hands and like 5 or 6 sex toys. Still doesn't help compared to real thing lol

[bananathunder]

true, but it helps A LOT

[bananathunder]

thanks for the MHO!

[Jrg98]

I think it’s everyone who isn’t well off wealthy, stress and no extra money to do anything the last couple years has dulled my marriage as well. We both want to go out and do things together but we have to sit back and wait for better times!

[Crimsyjo]

Awwww yh that was an issue with my last boyfriend. He wasn't working so although he contributed where he could we didn't have much to go out out with unless I was gonna pay for both of us all the time! That sucked.
But please... you are really lucky to have a partner. You can definitely make life a little interesting at home without spending a fortune!

[Jrg98]

He’s a logger but the way the economy is the timber industry is struggling

[Crimsyjo]

Ooh he sounds very rugged. Lucky woman you!
Do you ever have like "party nights" at home? Music on? Have a dance? Play some games? I love doing that with my partners. Sometimes we both fill a box with some truth or dare questions... very fun! You don't need money for romance or great sex! 😉

[Jrg98]

He’s not the big burly type but he’s rugged alright and we do have fun at home it’s just nice to get out sometimes lol

[Crimsyjo]

Some of that rugged fun out in the forest?

[Jrg98]

We have a couple time 🤣🤣

[Crimsyjo]

Yay. Go girl!!! 😍😍😍

[LazerBean]

Definitely not, I never have time to be bored. Between chores, errands, hobbies, friends, and family, our schedule is always booked

[woahhh152]

I hope you get well soon.

I have hobbies as well and I'm currently getting bored. I'll probably go and watch some movie tomorrow at the cinema. it should make me feel good. I usually go on hikes, sing, photography, listen to music and some other things. I can relate to how you feel

[Crimsyjo]

Hey bless. I'm glad it's not just me. If u google advice all you get is "get hobbies, be more active, increase your social circles" blah blah... or "have a nice hot bath" lol. I bath very regular thank you. Having a bath is not "special" to me 😂 even if I buy bath fizzers lol
Have you seen Deadpools new movie? That's really good. If u like that stuff (I do).

Sounds sappy sorry... but all the things we do are much better shared right? With a partner? I really want a boyfriend! But it's hard.

[woahhh152]

Haha I agree with you. You mean Deadpool and Wolverine? No, I haven't seen that one yet.

Yeah, it's better when you can share things with your partner. And you can have him whenever you want for your desires as well haha

[Crimsyjo]

Haha I know. If he can keep up with me 😄 but I'm happy to solo please myself too lol.

You know I don't even watch tv cos it's not same as when u watch with someone and can comment and talk about it with!!

I spend all my free time here lol.

And yep the deadpool and wolverine movie. I'm a big marvel fan soooo... I go cinema for nearly all there big movies!!

[woahhh152]

That must make it really boring. You definitely miss a guy next to you.

That's cool! I'm not a big Marvel fan but I've watched Endgame and one of the Guardians of the galaxy movie in the cinema

[Crimsyjo]

Yeah.. I am really friendly person when at work and out. But my home is my castle. I only really want "my guy" in my personal space. I was alright long time on my own. Having my last boyfriend for 3 months tho has made it worse. Now I really miss the cuddles and someone to talk to all the time and even just going shopping or planning what's for dinner together was so enjoyable. Plus the sex lol. If really bored I could always play with his willy!! So much fun 😄

[woahhh152]

Why not try to make a guy friend and do all those things with him? He might end up being your man

[Crimsyjo]

I know. I try. But guys tend to think if i say to hanging out with them it means yes to sex. Even when I make it super clear I'm not feeling that with them.
It's really horrible when a guy you don't fancy tries to kiss you! And then gets all depressed when you have to - again - say you are not attracted to them!

[woahhh152]

That's a bummer! I hate when people cross lines 😒

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

IM SCARED OF BOREDOM TOO!!

I'm not kidding, I can prove it, here's a poem, sleeping in my archives:

I do not fear death,
I fear no last black,
No last breath,
What I fear is to fall,
Into the arms of the grey,
What I fear is to join,
Legions of those,
Rusting alive in regrets,
What I fear is to feast,
At the table of missed moments,
What I fear is to behold,
The poisoned hourglass,
Of my own alienation.

[SixFootSexy]

Hedonism has a brick wall you run into called "the law of diminishing returns" where the old stuff just doesn't hit the same way it used to. So you go on a search for meaning and purpose, find God, or end up as hopeless and depressed as a celebrity who "has it all" but still feels empty inside.

[getpucksin]

For me no. I have a real job but I do not have a "real job." I play hockey. I honestly only get bored during the offseason, which is about to end, so I play video games with my friends and go to the gym until hockey is back. I can't be bored if I am looking forward to the next season at all!

[Crimsyjo]

Hahaha yh I get that. Plus u got the girls u chase lol. And a whole big world of opportunities to come. Thinking of travel, work, hockey, and eventually it will hit you to think of the marriage and kids stuff. I think it's once you achieve all that that life can get about WHAT NOW?
I mean I have done SO much. I have travelled very extensively. Done paragliding, white water rafting, horseriding, gone in helicopters, cruises. I've sexually explored pretty majorly as you maybe know (from posts) and have done the marriage and kids stuff. The player stuff. I'm working on my career now. And a degree in philosophy and psychology. ...
It's just... no matter how much you enjoy your present it will one day be past. And no matter how great it was you need more things to enjoy the future. Always. Never ends lol.

[Yannae]

Never, we have climbed on top of the food chain to a point that we don't just have to survive anymore but can choose to do things on the side just for recreation's sake. On top of that we are blessed to live in a time where one little search on google opens up countless doors to endless possibilities. How can we possibly get bored?

[Crimsyjo]

Oh I'm not bored coming on here and on the Internet. I waste far too much time doing so. But is it really joyful? I don't know...

[Yannae]

You could try to do something else you would think could be fun, what would you have to lose? :)

[Crimsyjo]

What else is fun?
What I'd really love is a good group of girl friends like in Sex in the City. But I haven't found any like that to hang out with and have a laugh with!!

[Yannae]

What else is fun? That is for you to search using the internet. It's one click away and only you know what you'd like best. I'm currently helping a friend find a new hobby. Those sex in the city friends are friendships which take time and you need to meet new people first. A new hobby might help you find those people.

[Crimsyjo]

Yeah i have my eue on a hockey club to join. I just gotta finish my current assignment for my degree first!

[Yannae]

Atta girl :D
I have to get out there and discover a new hobby myself. I also like the indoors, but you never know what we're missing out on until we give it a go. I'd rather look back knowing I tried it than living without knowing what it would be like.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

@Yannae
I honestly agree with your statements that life _should not_ be boring, for the aforementioned reasons. But then, those fair statements are bread for a thirsty soul, or water for an hungry soul, you know. I believe Crimsy registers perfectly the opportunities in life, on a rational level, I believe her problem is more on an emotional level, spiritual, in the purest sense, nothing to do with organized religion

[Yannae]

@Maybe_Maybe_not Emotional and spiritual... hm.
Martial arts is a hobby of mine. I did it to not be tired when running in PE xD
But it got me more than just stamina.
More power,
more explosivity,
more flexibility.
Overall more control over my body.
confidence because I was a shy guy.
Inner peace It also allowed me to be myself and have people see me for who I am.
Meditation
Responsibility to look after others who are less experienced.
Discipline
More awareness
Friends, yeah I made a group sex in the city bunch of friends from my club, from training where they train, from an international event we all went to
Friendly rivalry that pushes you both beyond your limits

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

@Yannae OMG I read "I made a group sex" 🤣 that aws very confusing to read that after the serious part on meditation and martials arts hahaha. But yeah, you meant something else lol I get it. Martial arts certainly has something to do with emotion control and spirit, yep

[Yannae]

@Maybe_Maybe_not O yeah sorry XD I didn't phrase it right. She did mention "Sex in the City". She wants her own little crew of friends to hang with and go on adventures with and that's a great goal and something nice to have.

Lmao "And that's... why I do group sex."

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

don't apologize, this was a good laugh, and not a misleading one, it was easy to identify the source of the confusion 😆

[Unit1]

Yes. Without money it can barely be any more boring. So I simply sleep long hours and look for more ways to make money without success.

[Crimsyjo]

Ugh I know. I've looked at money ways enough times. Some very slow ways are... online surveys and the more reputable money-for-games app. But for the time involved it's hardly worth it.
Buying and selling is good (buy from thrift stores to see online). If you can be bothered with the work involved. Buying, displaying, advertising, packaging, posting and dealing with customer feedback and problems.
Breeding such as dogs, cats or other pets... again. Can be time consuming expensive to start and should be done with love not just money making in mind.
Oh well... at least sleep if free. For now. I'm sure someone somewhere will find a way to put a tax on it lol

[Unit1]

Yeah.
Soon breathing fresh air will cost money. For free people be breathing air, that smells like an outhouse. ugh.

My investments (trades) are also crashing and i'm using leverage. I've deposited money this year and last year and it still needs more money from me. 9-5 is a nightmare. Not having a source of income and not even a 9-5 is death.

[RyanR03]

Well we do all have a God-sized hole in us that we try to fill with… fill in blank. It is worth praying , even if you don’t quite believe. Or even if you don’t. Some miraculous things have happened when we surrender. I surrendered alcohol on August 24th 2008 I didn’t beat alcohol or mentally overcome alcohol. I threw up my hands and surrendered and said “it’s bigger than me. God help me if you will”. He did. Just a thought. Thank you for your honesty

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Did you assume the asker is a believer, or close to be a believer, or is it a random "hey Jesus saves lives" speech praying and spraying?

[LoveHotGrillz]

Are you still going to go get railed by another man in front of your boyfriend today? That doesn't sound boring! It's very interesting actually

[Crimsyjo]

Haha I don't have a boyfriend or I defo wouldn't be bored!
Your talking about my toy boy offer lol... I don't know. See. I know I shouldn't. But this boredom makes me wanna just do something. And sex with a hot young guy is very exciting. But... I need to calm down and find joy in other ways lol

[LoveHotGrillz]

Can I ask how do you manage to pull young attractive guys at your age? I hope when I'm 45 I can be hooking up with 20 year old hot girls. That would be a real big achievement

[Crimsyjo]

I've no idea. Really. Was a shock to me too when I came out of my 8 years no-sex cocoon last year.
I guess the more cynical on here wd say why wouldn't they go for anything? If it's free pussy?
I'd kinda agree if not for fact we remain friends and they wanna hook up again. Otherwise I'd say they wd just fuck and move on if they didn't "like" me enough. Maybe I'm wrong tho? I don't know...
I have big boobs. They like those.
And from talking... a lot of guys find girls their age want older men. And older men want younger girls. So there's a nice little gap where older lady and younger guy can fit haha

[mobiusforniner]

Nope. I tend to receive lots of attention so I’m the opposite of your case. I avoid people. I like the solitude of being alone and I have lots of personal hobbies I enjoy that don’t involve people.

[exitseven]

Life is really boring to me. I just retired and my high point of the day is going to the gym and having a hard workout.. I am trying to find stuff to do but nothing really gets me excited.

[Crimsyjo]

Your still so young to retire!
Sounds like a dream too doesn't it? Not to work? When I was a stay at home mum I thought us women were so lucky not having to work full time our whole lives. But it was terrible. I like the social aspect of seeing work colleagues and customers. And despite grumbling about it having a routine and "being busy" helps us enjoy the counterbalance of relaxing and not being busy.
I'd defo say set yourself some goals! And if not a few hours here or there working or volunteering maybe get involved in the community. I bet some cause will grab your attention. Or study, I love studying. Even before my degree I was dabbling with free courses online.
Of course enjoy your freedom too! Life's all about balance! Unless your like me and your main wish is a partner. Cos that's not so easy to just go out and get *sigh*.

[exitseven]

I am going to teach a couple of courses next month.

[rachel776]

my mother is your age, still plays in the same orchestra she did when she was my age, still not bored at all

[EmmaMary]

I can assure you that with having two young children, life is anything but boring.

[Crimsyjo]

Awwwwww... mine are tenns now so I totally get where you are coming from. It's a different stage of life. But eventually as they need you less the big question mark over life can appear!!
I hope you find time for yourself!

[EmmaMary]

This is indeed very true... Thankfully we still have probably a good twenty years or so before they've flown the nest... By which time both my husband and I will have hopefully retired, and realising our dream of further travel adventures. 🤞

Naturally I fully realise that this could for whatever reason all change in an instant, and if so, we will very obviously adapt and overcome these hurdles accordingly.

In closing, may I wish you the very speediest of recoveries back to excellent health. x

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

hahaha

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I do relate, young children fills up for existential satisfaction (and the "not enough time" to reflect upon my existence scenario) !

[EmmaMary]

@Maybe_Maybe_not

What's that supposed to mean?

[Nikki1989]

No, life is a wonderful adventure. I am rarely bored.

[Crimsyjo]

I'd feel like too if I was married like you and if he was open to being fun like me. We could do so many wonderful things!

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

@Crimsyjo
You may want to _not overestimate_ marriage hahaha, being bored together for years is an activity that I master, believe me 😅
Obviously, I don't want to deface marriage at all, just put some relativity into the mix, as my name suggest, marriage can be excellently felt, under the right circumstances

[Crimsyjo]

@Maybe_Maybe_not I was together 12 with my husband. Married I think 7 of those. So I'm not a stranger to married life...

There is plus and minus to both married and single life. Single can certainly hold more adventure. But it is lonely to not hard anyone to share it with. And casual "friends" are not always gonna wanna see you on your low days or stressed days. A partner... well... I am certainly full of good ideas. I am sure if he was willing and adventurous we would not be bored fir long! I can guarantee that!
Now... if I am bored and he isn't and he won't amuse or indulge me... hmm... now that could be a problem lol

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

@Crimsyjo all right, I assumed no marriage experience, my bad lol

[Crimsyjo]

@Maybe_Maybe_not haha I've had quite a experienced and varied life for a 45 year old 😄😄😄

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

@Crimsyjo I'll make sure to remember that lol

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nope life is what you make it. And I'm sure you know how to make it exciting if you don't hit me up and I'll give you a few ideas on how you cam make it exciting

[Crimsyjo]

You know how I make it exciting!!!
But take sex out the equation... what's left lol? I just can't get excited about other things in the same way as fun adventurous hot horny sex lol

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes of course

[Crazzyyworld]

People try to achieve American dream and some make it and many are frustrated and depressed at home doing nothing

[Crimsyjo]

Is the English dream same as American dream I wonder? I think so.
I've had my kids.
All I want now is love and career. Someone to share my life with AND keep it fun and adventurous.

[Anonymous]

I can only imagine how LOOSE it is down there 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢

[Crimsyjo]

Haha it's fine. Imaginations can certainly run wild. I have sex a couple of times a month that's all outside a relationship. Mostly with my small circle of FBs not strangers and I'm assured I am very tight and amazing feeling down there thank you 😉
Hope that put your mind at ease 🙄 LMAO

[bobby_bush_eater]

It does for now, soon I'm moving very far away and everything will be difficult and new.

[Crimsyjo]

Ohhh yeah. Well try to see it as exciting as much as scary. Change is good.

[Still-alive]

I have lots of video games to play and other nerdy hobbies to enjoy so these days no its not boring. sometimes i miss companionship though :o

[gorydetails]

If life seems boring to you, then you're boring.

[Crimsyjo]

Sure ok. If you think so 😄

[gorydetails]

You think so also. You admitted it in your question.

[Jerre]

Life is not boring to me. I keep rather busy, usually with lots of sex

[Crimsyjo]

Yeahhhhh but like I said lol. Take away the sex what else gives you excitement and pleasure?

[Jerre]

Going to the beach, watching my favorite college football game

[eagle1951]

yeah it does, has since my wife died 6 years ago

[LiamJHayden]

Never. I make my own adventures.

[Crimsyjo]

Haha my adventures are not considered "appropriate " by most of society lol

[sara1728]

Same same same haha I would love to talk to you

[Crimsyjo]

Nooooo you can't be bored yet at your age!!!

Well... it's a different kind of bored I'm sure.

And of course you can message me. Us gals gotta stick together 😊

[sara1728]

Can you message me it won’t let me message you

[sara1728]

If that’s ok x

[CubaPirate]

Kinda in a rut tbh

[Crimsyjo]

Oh no *hugs*. How come? DM me if u like?

[Ladsin2]

No, it's routine, but I like routine.

[andy530]

Sometimes yeah

[MK1997]

I am same

[Crimsyjo]

Awww *hugs*