How to get over a crush and just be friends?

[Tarifa]

I've had a crush on someone for years. We've gone from being acquaintances to friends. There is mutual affection and we both know it. Circumstances however make it impossible for us to be together. She has been in a relationship for a couple of months now and in a way this has 'freed' me. I'm glad she is and have told her so.

I thought the crush would gradually fade away, as she isn't really available anymore, although deep down I know she never really was. We still talk and get together from time to time. I put a high value on our friendship, but the more I get to know her, the more I realize she is very special.

The only possibility to keep seeing her is investing time in our friendship. But seeing her makes the whole process that more difficult. Have you been in a similar situation and what did you do to 'turn the page'?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I do relate 😵

From what I read, you feature some sentimental/idealistic traits, and if I'm right, I foresee fantasy over reason? As well as I keep my feelings for myself. But lets not speculate too much. Self-honesty is critical, in all cases, there is something deep down inside us ready to lie and paint falsely reasonable scenarios about a noble and platonic friendship, these paintings should be examined! What is the true nature of the sentiments at play here, are you elaborating a scenario where friendship is a cover concealing your heart's intentions?

Traditionally, getting over unrequited love is mourning what could have been, but first there has to be evidence of this supposed unrequited love, did she tell you she has no romantic feelings for you, did you tell him you had romantic feelings for her?

[Tarifa]

By definition, a crush is irrational. It's an intense feeling for someone, often someone unattainable. At the early stages, you fall in love with the perception of a person, not with the person herself.

Telling her about any romantic feelings I have would be completely inappropriate, as she is in a relationship now. But she isn't blind or insensitive and I surely have made it quite obvious that she is special. Somehow, I'd like to go back to square one, but that's going to be harder than I thought.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

"Inappropriate" being a rather ambiguous and undefined term, on top of being culturally contextual, I.

But here is this: She is not a magician able to predict what you feel, no one is. We're all blind. And when we're not, we are, at best, visually impaired.

You don't need square one, at every meeting with her, you have an opportunity to voice your feelings. This is a decision you can take, this will make you stop going the friendship + romance route, and this will make you stop having regrets.

I believe you know exactly you're not it for friendship at all. It is an elaborated cover to me. Consider it.

[Alchemizt]

Back in my teenage I once had a hopeless crush and someone advised me to focus on something like a hobby. It sounded like bs, but I gave it a try. Eventually I was busy with work rather than thinking about the crush. After a few weeks I was okay. But I do feel for you, if you're seeing her often it's difficult. Somehow distracting yourself and focusing on something else will get you through it. Good luck!

[Bambii_2024]

From my experience you can't. I've had a few guy friends fall in love with me and simply had to just stop talking to me all together cos they know they have no chance with me and it hurts then too much to hang out with me especially when I have a flirty personality

[DishLady]

Some folks just don’t WANT friendship. Some would actually rather be full out enemies instead. Go figure.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic tale of romantic feelings intertwined with genuine friendship. It's like a dance where the steps are a bit too close for comfort, right? First off, it's heartwarming to hear you're prioritizing her happiness and the value of your friendship. That’s a sign of pure intention and maturity!

Now, to do the friendship tango without stepping on your own heart, focus on redefining your connection. Dive into new hobbies or interests, maybe something you've always wanted to explore but haven't yet. This can help shift your emotional energy and bring exciting, fresh conversations to your friendship that aren't shadowed by what-ifs.

Also, expand your social circle. Meeting new people and fostering other connections can subtly change the dynamics with your crush, making your interactions more about the camaraderie and less about the pangs of unrequited love.

And, my friend, embrace the idea of space. It's not about distancing but giving your heart room to breathe and appreciate her presence in your life without the romantic overtones. With time, those feelings can transform, making your friendship even stronger.

Remember, it’s not about forgetting or ignoring your feelings but about evolving them. Keep cherishing that special connection you both share, and who knows? With these little steps, you might just find a way to turn the page to a new chapter where your friendship flourishes in a way that's fulfilling and joyous for both of you. Keep dancing, albeit to a different rhythm. 😉

[DextroShade]

Being in the friend-zone is for losers. Stop wasting your time simping and find a girl who actually likes you.

[Crazzyyworld]

I look for similar looking guy and give him a blowjob and forget about him

[Tarifa]

Good for you. Maybe I should ask her to give me a blowjob, so I can forget about her. I'm afraid it wouldn't work though.

Looking for someone else to have a crush on? Maybe that will help.

[MyBrainsInsaneReign]

The only way to get over a crush is to develop a crush on someone new.

[In_Trance]

Good luck with that