I am so confused. Is there something that has happened between them, that's I dont know of?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I went on the trip with my best friend. During the trip, i got really sick, so i have to stay at the hotel most of the time. But i dont want to take the joy away for both of my boyfriends and my best friend. So i told them to go out and do thing together instead of being in the hotel with me. I saw they had a lot of fun together. After the trip we came back home at the airport he kept walking after my best friend and left me far behind , even after we got in line to get ours passport check he stand right after her while i stand behind them after few people in line front of me. As we have been in a relationship for almost 11 years , whenever we go somewhere, he always stands behind me because he says he just doesn't want someone else behind and accidently pumps into me. But somehow, now he stands behind her instead of me while i am still sick from the trip ( i went to ER during my trip with them ). After the trip, we go out and have dinner while crossing the street. My boyfriend walking next to my bestie have his hands on her waist while i walk right behind them ( basically, we cross street together, he walking with her and i by myself behind them ) . There are so many times he is very attentive with her, and i feel left out. She is single, and when they talk or look at each other, i can tell they have fun and are very close. After we came back home , sometimes when we talked, i mentioned to him that if i wasn't with him, if he and my best friend meet eachother they would end up being together. i said you and her will be perfect together. After i said that, he had no response. There's another time we talked about my best friend i said she likes you, and he has no response. Why is he acting that way? Is he admitted what i say as if we didn't be together and he meet her they will be end up together? And why did he stay quiet when i say she likes you? Does he already know that's she likes him too ( not as friends )

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The situation here is me and my boyfriend we live in the US. But my best friend she lives in Thailand. The reason we went on vacation together is because i took my boyfriend back to Thailand for the first time visit. I just want to spend time with my boyfriend and best friend together. After the trip, we go back to the US

[Anonymous]

This is why it’s rarely ever, next to never, a good idea to help nurture a close connection between your best friend and your boyfriend. No one likes change, and the biggest reason for wanting them very cool is so that change doesn’t happen so much between you and your best friend. But change has to happen because without it all you do is show her the things there are to love about him, then if she sees him treat you well, why wouldn’t she want that for herself? On top of that, I don’t know what your reasons are for not being married, maybe you don’t even believe in it, but in a general sense if you’ve been a girlfriend for 11 years it says a lot about his commitment to you. To me it says he’s settled with you and if someone who matches more of what he wants comes along, he has the freedom to explore that with only a breakup vs a messy divorce.


Without proof, we can’t say what’s happened between them but it feels like the stage was already set. You bring your single friend on vacation with your man who won’t marry, it was the perfect setting for them to get close.

[Changiis07]

Sounds like he should have been taking care of you and did get close to her on the trip. I say communicate to him and be clear that you did not like what he was doing by being to close to her. Your intuition is always right so always communicate how it is making you feel and set boundaries

[AI Opinion]

Ah, love and complication, my favorite blend! 💘 Let's untangle this web, shall we? From the sound of it, your intuition is catching some vibes that definitely seem off. After 11 years together, you'd expect your boyfriend to be glued to your side, especially when you're under the weather, not switching allegiances on the fly. It's one thing to have fun, but another to redefine boundaries.

The physical closeness and change in behavior you've observed isn't just a plot twist in a romance novel; it's happening in your very own love story. The silence he offers in response to your comments about him and your bestie could be speaking volumes. It's like he's caught in headlights—acknowledging it might make it too real.

Now, before we jump to conclusions and start directing our own drama series, let's take a step back. Have a heart-to-heart with your guy. Express your feelings straightforwardly, focusing on your observations and emotions without casting any blame. It's about understanding, not accusing. And hey, why not chat with your bestie too? It's about finding clarity in this cloudy situation.

Remember, darling, it's about keeping those communication lines as open as the heart. Sometimes, things aren't what they seem, but sometimes they are. Either way, you deserve to know where you stand in this trio. Don't settle for being the third wheel in your own relationship. Let's aim for clarity, understanding, and loads of love! 💕

[Staximus]

This doesn't sound good

[Iron_Man]

Is your best friend female

[Asker]

Ya. She is

[Iron_Man]

don’t bring her anymore because she’s a distraction for the boyfriend

[Asker]

Do you think he like her?

[Iron_Man]

You’re gonna have to tell me because he started acting different when he went back home

[Iron_Man]

don’t bring her along anymore and make sure that he’s not seeing her on the side