I get proposals but not from the guys I want. Since I want to get married to attract guys should I dress more provocatively such as the cover photo?

[Kelley1]

Usually I'm conservative in my dress but sometimes I dress sexy such as a belly dancer at a Halloween party or the mini-skirt and black stocking at another party.

[SixFootSexy]

I recommend putting your standards in this helpful calculator: https://igotstandardsbro.com/

Then go for an introspective look at how you want each day with this person to look like even if they don't live up to your earning standards for the lifestyle you want. It's smart to look at character to see how he treats his family, wait staff, strangers, etc.

Vet early, vet often, stop vetting when you get a ring and stay with that man forever. The dating market is hell right now, especially if you're a 30+ woman and not a 7+ in looks and no kids.

Check your entitlement, but definitely get the best you can lock down. Pick the highest value one that will commit. Not the "smart, good-looking, multimillionaire family" guy who dumped you; he doesn't need to commit, he's got options lined up around the block and down the corner.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/WJPCbyULrco

[HighValue]

According to that site, I am in the top 2% of men in the USA.
Anyways, do you know where the updated one is that includes things like having a degree, etc?

[RavVid]

Generally we want girls to view relationships as serious matter to marry them. So you are better off to dress well and somewhat modestly rather than in tits out style. Sexy at a Halloween party is fine but not at a family dinner.

The top photos look better but you don't need see through or to maximize exposed skin. Just show some but not all your skin in my view. Dishlady expressed some good thoughts on this a while back.

I think flowing garments would suit your figure well. Short skirts are bit boring now I think. Our granmas wore them.

[FreyaRed]

Meat attracts just parasites. Wear feminine version of clothes your desired group of guys wears as well. However clothes can't compensate huge mentality and personality gaps, you have to study your prey.

[smurfwrangler]

Wear feminine version of clothes your desired group of guys wears as well. This.

[DishLady]

Should you slit it up to get married? No that doesn’t follow any sort of logic. Why would a guy marry a girl who’s advertising herself so crassly? They’ll just think you’re easy, bed you and move on….

[Kelley1]

They can't bed me without a proposal. As a freshman, I made that mistake one time with the big man on campus (smart, good-looking, multimillionaire family). Then he dumped me so I am not going to make that mistake again.

[DextroShade]

Sorry, you don't get to do that unless you are a virgin. Since Chad got your virginity without a ring the next guy isn't going to wait unless he's a loser.

[Kelley1]

@DextroShade I disagree. I get proposals from guys that are not losers. The problem is they are in their upper twenties or older and my dating range is 18 to 23. For example, you may not be a loser but, based on your age, you are excluded.

[DishLady]

@DextroShade don’t get to do what?

[DextroShade]

You don't get to make a man wait until marriage for sex unless you are a virgin. Guys who are worth a damn and have self-respect won't tolerate it, just low-value simps.

[DishLady]

@DextroShade, that’s not true. I was married and that guy waited till we were married. My second guy didn’t get anything till he also indicated he was serious and we were headed toward marriage. No reason good woman should uncross her legs for less.

Perhaps you mean girls who sleep around, but personally, I was taught not to just fling myself at a guy who wasn’t committing to marriage.

[AviatorTom]

If you want sex, dress provocatively like the first pair of photos. If you want to get married... and stay married, dress the way the guy you want would want you to dress. More than likely, that's less provocatively.

[Kelley1]

First, I may need to get their attention, then I'll dress however they like.

[blueonblack22]

Dressing provocatively will most likely attract guys who want one thing and one thing only. Not always but it’s simple biological logic. They see your body and the thought immediately runs across their mind.

Also you risk turning off decent guys because they will see you as attention seeking. They won’t say that out loud (they aren’t allowed to especially nowadays) but they might quietly disqualify you as serious relationship material.

Let’s just all admit that attention feels good particularly if it’s from someone you like. We all like (men need it too but we don’t complain about it because we get judged as lonely/pathetic when we do).

But you can’t magically expect to get attention from where you want it vs where you don’t want it when you dress provocatively.

Even as a man I got attention where I didn’t want it when I wore buttoned down dress shirts when I was younger (I got a very muscular chest/pecs). Attractive women would notice but so would really “big” girls.

It wasn’t the end the world for me but it was annoying (and creepy) sometimes. But I didn’t complain about it. I made a choice to show off my physique back then.

[Surely]

You said in another post. That your “Best if Married by” date was quickly approaching. The eligible young men in the age ranges that you are open to. Especially college guys. Are only interested in partying and loose women. Not even considering settling down with a wife. Unless they become a responsible young man after impregnating a woman instead of being responsible before hand. If I were in your age range. You would attract my attention by dressing conservatively. With just a smidgeon of sexy. Well wishes in your search!🔍

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

"I want to get married to attract guys"
Are we sure it's the right decision here? 🤣

In all seriousness, ok, let's forget your missing comma. Dressing in a special way just to target specific guys for... A marriage? I don't understand your logic at all. You are a person, not a pair of jeans, act like a person please.

[teamvic]

So you want to dress more sexually to attract guys for marriage is that what you're saying?

Sounds like a badd Idea to me, all that'll do is attract guys who only wanna fuck

You'll probably still get some even if you didn't dress like that but you'll definitely get more of the wrong attention, unless you want that.

[Lionman95]

If you want a guy to marry don´t change your dressing style because guys that go for provocatively dressed girls usually don´t look for marriage but sex. I´d rather change the settings you´re going though there is no place you definitely find only guys to marry. Dressing provocatively only gets you the attention of guys that are sexually active and "lust" focused.

[DannyUk2017]

You just answered Your Own Question.. You don't get "attention" from the Guys/Men... YOU WANT! So being "picky" means you only think of your Own Good & Satisfaction and that comes with a Cost! Instead of going "with the flow" you just out there "chasing ghosts", and that won't End Well (the way you wanted)...🤷‍♂️, that sounds like you're looking for "validation" more than a "proper thing"...

[BCA6010]

Generally, dressing "provocative" doesn't attract the type of men you claim to be looking for. Go for classy and/or casual, but not trashy.

[Gauoda_]

@Kelley1 do you have any backless dress like in the first pic? 🌿

[Kelley1]

I don't but I would buy if I believe it would help.

[DextroShade]

If you wear a whore's uniform men will treat you like a whore. If you start dressing provocatively, the men you want will just use you for sex and discard you when it's convenient. You really just need to be honest with yourself about your SMV: you are a 6.5 at best so you won't be getting commitment from guys in the top 20%.

[Iron_Man]

They won’t respect you they’ll just want sex and move on

[Kelley1]

That is the consensus opinion.

[SunnyRS]

Well luv, if you want to get married to the person you want, then why not propose them or ask them out yourself.
Dressing up should come second.
A lot of men find confidence more sexy than the dress.

[shortster]

Do you want to marry an F-boy? Because that is who you will attract by dressing provacatively. I think your best bet is to keep dressing the way you have been and then go where the guys you want hang out.

[Yannae]

The more provocatively you dress, the more guys you'll attract who are looking for sex.

[dustybiker2]

Clothes attract the wrong sort if you are planning for life. Work on maturing and self reflection. Find someone who eventually meets that form.

[Twalli]

The more proactively you'll dress the more attention you'll get. However, the guys you attract may not be the type you want

[Kelly6]

@Kelley1 No,

If there is certaine guys you want to attract, then dress based on what they like.

Other answer is that you can approach them by yourself. Don't waste time on playing this game

[Daniela1982]

The only word that fits with a provocatively dressed woman is HO.

[dudegreat91]

Yes I like your body and face. You should dress more skimply.

[bowenw]

I suggest you dress in whatever you are comfortable wearing. Just be yourself.

[Jennz6]

You might attract the wrong type of guy

[Kelley1]

I can put up with that if it also helps me attract the right kind of guy. Nevertheless, after reading all the posts, the consensus opinion is "Don't."

[Wise4myage]

Dress as provocative as you wish.

[Cheerfull009]

You prefer , guys you want

[ILIVEGODSLIFE]

Nah be you