Why do I always want taken guys?

[Anonymous]

Why do I get drawn to taken men. What does it mean

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Well, actually I'm in a relationship myself
Could it just be because of a bad relationship?

[MrOracle]

Women find men far more attractive if other women find him attractive, and a guy who is already in a relationship is "pre-approved" by another woman, so he's more attractive than a single guy who doesn't have a woman around him.

Also, you might just be jealous and want what other people have just because you don't have it.

Finally, women are hypergamous, which means they are always looking for a better man. Hypergamy used to be kept in check by the need to marry, and because there were so few single people available. Today, there is little societal pressure to marry and orders of magnitude more people are single, which has caused hypergamy to go out of control. Even a top 5% man will have trouble keeping a woman because she is always trying to get something more than she's got - which means she often ends up with nothing.

[avery58]

That's why I keep my relationships low profile. I know that a guy being in a relationship is a huge hoe magnet.

[MrOracle]

Yes. Any guy can tell you that no girl hits on them when they're single, but as soon as they are in a relationship, they get hit on way more often.

Female pre-selection is a very real thing.

[ProbablyClueless]

It's a self defense mechanism. Do you struggle with self esteem? Maybe some other form of self worth issue?

Many times, people want what they can't have as a way of not confronting their concerns that they wouldn't be able to hold onto a good thing. Wanting a taken guy is a built-in excuse for why the situation could never work.

Plus, a taken guy has already been vetted by another woman.

[thearchjoker]

what is wanted will always appear more valuable, if no one wants something its value must be low but since their in a relationship they must be wanted and thus valuable. this is hypergamy 101. Though i should warn you that girls that cheat are always seen as less valuable so by going after said men you will lower your own value.

[Anonymous]

You're jealous of other women. Wmquite possibly you hate yourself and know you're inferior. And you try to take men from other women by whatever means necessary as a way of convincing yourself you're not as bad as you see yourself. You're actually not even attra tex to these men. That's comical part.

[Anonymous]

I think that part of it. It is a subconscious fear of commitment. Since a guy is taken, you always have an exit. Or, you like the challenge of breaking a guy up with his girl.

[LiamJHayden]

Guys who are taken generally do not show desperation. desperation repulses most women.

[Anonymous]

monkey Branch him then

[Anonymous]

You like drama