My partner said "you will look more fit if you jog" does that mean I am fat?

[Anonymous]

For reference I am 57 kg and 5'3" , I workout literally every day doing weight training and going for evening walks for half and hour. I have heard people call me "sexy and fit" I'm not what kind of standards my partner has but it just makes me feel bad.

[DishLady]

Way to twist what the person is saying. I don't know why women do this.

FIT is not "Fit vs Fat" ok? You'll just be in better shape. It builds endurance and strength.

[Asker]

He doesn't point out anything good in me though

[DishLady]

So tell him that it BOTHERS YOU that he says things like this.

(I had a boyfriend who would always make observations but not necessarily compliment, and one time he complimented me in front of my son and I felt awkward because of the timing. I had to mention it to him. A reasonable guy will understand and shift a little, ok?)

[Asker]

I have called him out on that a lot of times, but he still does it

[DishLady]

So then perhaps it's a good idea to step away from this guy.

in my opinion I don't really think that suggesting a jog is a bad thing, HOWEVER if it bothers you and it's part of an abusive history between you then just walk away from this guy -- or run... it's faster.

[itsannalee]

In Asia yeah you are fat, because beauty standard in Asia is way more toxic. In asia if you are 5’3” you should be at least 45-50kg. But in America and west are different. U still look ok i guess.

[BetaBucks]

He probably thinks cardio is a good way to lower body fat percentage. Diet is the right way though. Way tf easier too. If that's what you even want.

[Asker]

I'm already actively working out with a combo of cardio and body weight training

[BetaBucks]

Right on. Well, it's still always easiest to reduce calories instead of working out extra hard. If less weight/fat is even what you're going for.

[OlderAndWiser]

Are you bothered by the thought that his statement is true, or simply bothered because he said it.

[Asker]

I'm bothered because I feel I'm not good enough for him. He statement isn't true because I'm not overweight

[Asker]

**his

[OlderAndWiser]

If you accurately repeated his comment, he did not call you overweight.

[Asker]

Well he did pointed out something which I could do too look "more fit" where I felt some sort of expectation from him that I need to look a certain way based on his liking, despite knowing I'm sensitive to such remarks.

[OlderAndWiser]

Does he know that you don't want him expressing his opinions?

[Asker]

Express his opinion in what? That's a general question

[OlderAndWiser]

About your physical appearance.

[Asker]

It depends

[AI Opinion]

Navigating through the maze of relationship communication, huh? 😉 Let's unwrap this with love and understanding. Your partner suggesting a jog might not necessarily scream "You're fat!" but could, in their eyes, be a casual nudge toward a different fitness routine. Remember, attraction and fitness perceptions are as diverse as the colors of the sunset. However, it's essential to tune into how these comments make you feel. A relationship should be your cheerleading squad, not a critique panel. If it stings, it's worth a heart-to-heart chat. Share your feelings, express how you take pride in your current fitness regime, and maybe explore what prompted their suggestion. It's all about feeling fabulous in your skin and ensuring your partner's on the same page, cheering you on! 🌟

[Nikki1989]

It means your partner is a bit of an ass.

[jjj101010]

No it means u will look fitter, not that u don’t look fit now

[Ladsin2]

125lbs at 5'3 says your a healthy weight.