Would you be upset or concerned if someone of the opposite sex was asking your partner to get together with them?

[Finchie40]

Basically they are asking your partner to go out with them just the 2 of them? Or would you be fine about it if your partner just says they are a friend?

[CrazyGirl2]

Oh hell yes I would! No woman gets to go out on what is, for all intent, a date with my fiancé, and since he respects me and our relationship, I know he would never go out with another woman alone, unless it was his sister! I feel the same way, when male friends wanna meet up w/ me for dinner or even just a Saturday lunch, I make sure to speak to my fiancé first, and schedule it to make sure that he can also be there, for the same reason… I respect him, I respect his feelings, and I respect our relationship! I’m not going to disrespect my fiancé or myself, by going out with another man! But I know he would never go out with any of his female classmates, or friends without me being there as well. It’s just a simple act of respect that goes a very long way in a relationship, towards building and maintaining a bond built on mutual respect and trust. But it has to go BOTH ways! I don’t get a pass just because I’m a woman

I hope this helps.
Laura 🤗 🥰

[CrazyGirl2]

Thank you for the MHO @Finchie40. I genuinely appreciate it.
🤗 🥰

[avery58]

I wouldn't be cool with that. Not in a million and 25 years, and I'd ask the skank why she felt the need to ask him to hang out without me. I'd be pretty disappointed if he even considers it and ask him why, sorry I'm just not that kind of "cool girl".

[Finchie40]

You sound like a cool girl to me , because that is the respectful thing to do , When I am in a relationship , I wear my partners’ shoes the same way I hope she wears mine when it comes down to shit like this , sadly I been with girls’ that wanted me to respect them , but they didn’t know how to respect me , when things like this occurred and that’s why they are my exes. My thing is , whatever you don’t want your partner doing to do , needs to be the same boundaries for you as well, not the other way around. That’s pretty much where double standards come into play and ruin relationships.

[avery58]

That's right, 100%

There should be mutual respect

[sirderpsalot123]

Depends. I wouldn't be ok with her agreeing to "get together" with a random guy who approached her at the grocery store. I know what his intentions are and so does she.

I wouldn't care if it was a friend she's known for years. I trust that she would shut down any advances if he were to make any.

[BetaBucks]

See, I appreciate this kind of evaluation. My wife tries to call me out for hanging out with other girls that I've known for years. I know she's touchy because the girls are younger, pretty, and promiscuous, but they're literally just friends. She has no reason to question our friendship as I've done nothing with any of these girls. They're just friends and I love my wife.

[sirderpsalot123]

@BetaBucks you are a better man than me because I also have female friends (granted my two closest female friends are both leabians) and that would piss me off. I don't think I would be able to stay in that relationship.

[Finchie40]

@BetaBucks how would you feel if your wife had male friends that she was going out with without you?

[BetaBucks]

She does. Not in the context of "alone time" though. Public, group settings. That's why the context from the question matters

[BetaBucks]

Depends on the context. I know the difference between a guy trying to smash and a normal interaction. If the guy is trying to smash and my girl is going along with it, she'll be let go.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the seas of relationships means dealing with waves of trust and the occasional storm of jealousy. If another person is inviting your partner for some one-on-one time, it's natural to feel a cocktail of emotions. Trust in your partner is key, but so is maintaining open lines of communication. If your partner is transparent about the outing and reassures you about their relationship with this friend, it might put your worries to rest. However, if you're feeling uneasy, it's a great opportunity to express your feelings. Remember, feelings are like love letters—they're meant to be shared. A little discussion about boundaries never hurt anyone, and it helps keep the relationship shipshape. Keep sailing smoothly together by talking it out!

[Crimsyjo]

I'm a jealous gal. And I like a jealous partner.

So yeah I'd have a problem with it. With her. And with him depending on his reaction.

And I'd expect same in return. Even if "just a friend" you don't invite one half of a couple out if opposite gender. No way!

[Finchie40]

I agree , I feel it’s disrespectful to your partner, if you agree to go without them , especially if it’s someone your partner barely knows much about and even if your partner knows of them , to me that’s still disrespectful for that person to try to have one on one time with your partner without you. . Me personally would decline their offer just for that reason , I tend to always wear my partners’ shoes the same way I expect her to wear mine , it has nothing to do with jealousy and insecurity , it comes down to respect for each other. If you actually love and respect your partner? You would decline their offer because it’s the right thing to do , and say sorry , not going to happen , unless my partner can come with us. People that don’t do that for their partner , should not be in a relationship with anyone because they only care about themselves. They aren’t thinking of how their partner might feel the whole time they are gone together. They can get all mad and say you don’t trust me you are jealous and insecure , you don’t own me , I can do what I want. And all you have to say is , absolutely you can do whatever you want because you are now single. So go have a blast spending one on one time with that person , cuz I am going to go spend one on one time with someone else as well

[Crimsyjo]

Yeah exactly. If you love someone you care about their feelings. It's a fine balance because of course you shouldn't be a doormat to make your partner happy. But in this situation it's common sense, respect and really what reason is there to upset your partner? So not everything is about "you don't own me, fuck you" mentality which is not the attitude for a decent relationship! In a way.. you do totally own eachother! Or be single. End of

[Finchie40]

Yea my ex said those words to me before , that’s why she is my ex

[midnightmoon05]

Not upset…but concern for sure and not feel respected.
it happened… and my gut feeling is always right. So trust that …

she actually said to my hubby now (then boyfriend) that I would take him away from her…

well … who is she that I would take him away from her?
always be smart about some who don’t have kind intentions.
I asked that we all hang out together… she said no. To me … they have devilish mind. Poor quality characters.

[Caroline91]

Probably not. It would depend on the reason and who she is. If it was purely social, she could come visit at our house. My husband and I both have friends of both sexes and in regard to opposite sex friends our agreement is 1) We know who the friend is and meet them 2) With rare exceptions, we do not see those friends just 1 on 1, it's in groups or with spouses.

[rosemilk]

yeah i'd be upset. that's stepping over a boundary that shouldn't even be questioned

[Finchie40]

Exactly , but sadly it happens and people wonder why they end up single again

[PeachyPie93]

Nah I wouldn't trust a "just the 2 of us" chick hanging around with my man. If he wants to keep seeing her I will see myself out and not be back.

[DizzyDesii]

If their intentions are good, the least they could do is invite me and allow me a chance to decline. I trust until I’m given a reason not to. But i almost always never trust a hoe coming for my man. I’ll trust that the guy will behave but those homewrecking thots are unpredictable

[Tim2nice]

I wouldn’t be upset because I’m not insecure. If she happens to fall for someone else and wants to leave me I’d wish her luck and move on. People deserve freedom and happiness.

[BetaBucks]

Exactly. When I spend alone time with girls that are younger and prettier than my wife, she needs to let her insecurities go and just accept that I might accept their advances, but would be honest about it and let her know so she can end the relationship.

[WhitneySnow]

Depends. If I knew them and trusted them I’d be ok with it.

[DrPepper12]

IDGAF that she has male friends. I don't think she has ever really met them for lunch or anything but I still wouldn't care.

[ProbablyClueless]

Not unless I got weird vibes about the situation.

[FunkyMonkee]

No. As long as she's loyal, she can have as many male friends as she wants.

[BetaBucks]

I keep trying to explain this concept to my wife. She trips out about my female friends that I've known for years. And I get that these girls are younger and skinnier and promiscuous, but she should be able to trust me and know that I value her enough to not fuck any of these girls. Even knowing it's an option at pretty much any time. It's one of the few topics I get passionate about, because trust is such an important component of a healthy relationship.

[FunkyMonkee]

@BetaBucks It sure is!! I just wish I could find a GIRL that lived by that rule!!

[BetaBucks]

Seriously. And what they don't understand is that all the guys in their life will fuck them in an instant, so me having girls around that would do the same shouldn't be a problem. It's hypocritical.

[Ladsin2]

Smack him around

[alice55]

Easy if my partner say yes I'm leaving them because that behavior is dis-restful towards me so no i'm not concern by it is it just a matter of respect.

[Anonymous]

Well there'd be a level of curiosity and a discussion...

[dazzafromoz]

Well that's OK I'd help by getting together with their mum or sister.

[sage2021]

ONG YES!! Any way you look at this it's so wrong and going to be hurtful to the innocent person that gets betrayed.

Shame on them!!

[FunkyMonkee]

So, I'm not allowed to have any female friends?

[luvstoned4him]

I will leave that up to my partner. If he does it, we are finished

[beefcakebradybatson]

I'd question him and her to try to uncover their intentions and use my Golden Boy sense to ascertain if something untoward is occurring.

[jahaims]

If you don't trust your partner don't be with them. Pretty simple

[Agape93]

Nope. Asking is whatever. It's a question.

[Mcrichb40]

We’re allowed to have friends a of opposite sex aren’t we?

[BetaBucks]

Yep. I go out with girls all the time and my wife can't do anything about it. She gets insecure because they're younger and good looking, but that's what trust is about. And not being controlling. These girls are just lonely and want to hang out. Nothing weird about it.

[Mcrichb40]

@BetaBucks I was once out with some friend including my best mate and his girlfriend. He went home and I ended up having to walk his drunk girlfriend home seeing her piss on the way and stuff

[BetaBucks]

Lmao seen this kind of shit a million times. Especially the girls I'm friends with. Sloppy ass drunks. Zero shame kinda girls.

[Mcrichb40]

@BetaBucks hshs yeh

[TheLimeNan]

I've gone out with a girl who was in a relationship and we've never had a problem

[BetaBucks]

For real. I hang out with girls all the time and my wife just needs to learn to accept it. Who cares if these girls are sluts that want to fuck me? She should trust me. Just like the guys that want to fuck her. I can't stop them from hanging out, as long as they pretend to just want to be friends.

[RavVid]

NO you are not.

[Dongie]

Hell no.