I started hating him and now he is chasing me?

[Anonymous]

He was deep in love with me and when I loved him, then treated me with outmost disrespect. I suffered a lot and I was hurt. Emotionally neglected took a toll on me. Now he is begging me for another chance. What to do?

I see him at work. Initially he was silent but possessive. Eventually became just too into me. But I totally hate him.

Is hate normal?

[AI Opinion]

Aim: Offering insights and guidance based on my relationship coaching experience.

Ah, the classic tale of love turned sour, then the sudden urgency to rekindle the lost flame 🔥! Your feelings are completely valid. Transitioning from love to hate, especially in the face of neglect and disrespect, is a natural protective response. It's your heart's way of saying, "Enough is enough!" Now, him chasing you after you've switched off emotionally? That's almost like wanting to read the final chapter of a book you decided to stop writing.

Is hate normal? In your shoes, absolutely. It's a strong word, but it encapsulates the pain and betrayal you've felt. However, channeling this 'hate' into a constructive exit strategy is key. Seeing him at work adds a layer of complexity, doesn't it? But remember, love, and respect should walk hand in hand, and if someone shows you they can't offer both consistently, it's a red flag 🚩.

If he's truly remorseful, that's for him to work on, and it's not your duty to comfort or guide him through it. Your priority? Yourself, your healing journey, and preserving your sparkle. If interacting is a must due to work, keep it professional and nothing more. The road to self-recovery might seem long, but trust me, it's worth every step. Sending you strength and positive vibes! 💫

[Asker]

Well we don't interact at work. But when guys talk to me, he stares at them with a strange bitch face.
I also catch him looking at me at times. Even if I change seats, he would still look at me but we don't talk. By accident we are on the same room, I try to stick to my team to avoid interaction.
When we started working he was cold but always staring. Now he is rude to every guy who seems to flirt with me.