I’m 23 and me and my fiance just found out I’m pregnant. Worried mom will be mad?

[Anonymous]

I live with my fiance and I unexpectedly became pregnant. I must be about 6 weeks now. We don’t know whether to keep it or not. I haven’t told my mom yet and I’m scared of her reaction. Should I tell her or not?

[Summeroflove]

If you mean keeping it as in adoption then that’s between you but if you mean killing your own child out or being a coward. That’s your baby that you made together, how dare you consider killing it because you’re worried what your mother will think. You’re a grown ass woman and maybe you’re a failure in life if you didn’t even listen to your own morher. Wow, If your mother would be upset with you having a baby outside of wedlock with your own fiancé imagine how she would feel if she knew you killed her grand baby.

You’re adults who consensually had sex with one another. You may place the baby for adoption (I don’t wanna hear how the adoption system is bad, it’s just like advocating for euthanizing foster kids for their own good shut up) or raise the baby.

What you tell your mom is your choice I don’t care what you tell her. I think she at least tried to raise you right but that baby loves you and loves daddy. If you want to be selfish and kill your own child you’ll both live with this the rest of your life and in the afterlife. You’ll never be able to sleep at night. You’ll have nightmares. Unless you’re just a heartless narcissist or even psychopath. You’ll never live it down.

I can understand being scared and that’s fine but don’t be cowards. You made this baby figure it out….. You don’t just get to focus on yourselves anymore. If that’s what you wanted. You should have gotten your tubes tied or for him his tube snipped.

[Anonymous]

Honestly you need to own up to that responsibility. You two most likely didn’t use protection, so that’s on you as far as be responsible. I don’t think an abortion is appropriate. In cases of rape ok I could see that as an option. Also in cases where it means the mother could die I’d be ok w that. But simply for the fact that you two weren’t responsible, no. Especially you. You knew it was a possibility and you let him still have it w out using protection. You’re an adult. According to the law and according to yourself as well since you have a finance. Own up to it.

[Viking_Girl19]

You are already an adult and you got pregnant from your boyfriend. Do not kill the child, marry him and save the pregnancy. There are so many girls and women who dream of giving birth, but cannot...

And yes, be sure to share with your mother, she certainly does not wish you harm. She is also a ball at such an age as you

[PeachyPie93]

You are 23, yet scared what your mom will say because you are pego from your fiance? Better grow the fuck up and make a decision.. only tell her if you are keeping it, if not keep it to yourself.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the high seas of surprise pregnancy news with your mom can feel more daunting than deciding what movie to watch on date night. Take a deep breath and remember, this is your life script, and you're the star alongside your fiancé. Sharing news about a new little co-star can be nerve-racking, but honesty is often the best policy. Your mom's initial reaction might be a Hollywood-worthy plot twist, but give her time. She might just surprise you with a support role that outshines your expectations. And about keeping the baby? Lean in close and listen to your hearts, together. This decision is your shared scene, so make sure it reflects both of your desires and capacities. Whatever you decide, make it about love, the kind that writes the best stories. 🌟

[HawkPerception]

You live with your FIANCEE. He's not just a boyfriend. He's your fiancee. You do NOT live with your mom. What's the big deal?

If you guys are living together fine, I'm sure you can figure out how to handle one more mouth. I don't get why your mom would be upset. You're an adult that's independent.

[lightbulb27]

I'd tell and I'd keep it, but that's me. I don't know your world. I would not terminate a child with a fiance, that sounds so wrong. How you recover from that? no!

What is the root problem here... it isn't pregnant, that is a blessing to reproduce. That's how you got here. Financial, shame, (can't have a white wedding)?

I'd throw the whole wedding in the trash can, go sign papers and get married, commit to love, listen, work together and solve the problems presented... there's always problems. All money saved in wedding goes to childs education, housing, vaca.

[Paradox316]

You're living on your own, and you're marrying him anyway! So why be worried? You're case is one of the best case scenarios as far as surprise pregnancies go. Just plan calmly and think critically whatever you do.

[rosemilk]

your mom has no say in this so who cares what she thinks

[Fireguy17]

Good luck with your decisions.
I'm wondering about the part where you said that you unexpectedly became pregnant.
You had sex, what did you think would happen?
All it takes is 1 strong swimmer and ta da!

[4ngelic]

only tell her if you're planning on going through with the pregnancy and if she's angry about that so what? you're an adult, you can do whatever you want

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Your mom is your least concern in your priority chain, aborting or keeping is the only issue to solve with your guy. Your mom will adapt, she is older than you.

[maddieisfineasf]

you are a grown adult your mother has no right to be mad it is your body not hers. if you want a baby and feel you are ready then have it. it is not your mothers business

[Red_Arrow]

She must know that you live with him, so she expects there is a lot of sex. So why should she be surprised or mad?

[RebelinSteel]

Yes you should tell her, however unexpectedly becoming pregnant only happens when a girl is on birth control.

[DextroShade]

Marriage is for creating families. If your mom has a problem with this then she is fucked in the head. It's not like you are going to be a baby momma, assuming you don't do something stupid like break off the engagement.

[Wiredone]

You're an adult, not a minor. You're living with your fiance. She might be disappointed that you're not married but she'll get over it. Believe me, I know. My wife and I were in your position years ago.

[Anonymous]

Congratulations! If your already 23 you are about as ready as you reasonably could be. Don't expect the world of yourself or him. Your already planning on getting married so this is perfect.

[chrissykerdock]

your 23 it's normal and you have fiance nothing to be afraid of

[supercutebutt]

You have a butt for a reason. Why haven't you been using it?

[jahaims]

You are a grown adult who is getting married and you still worry about what your parents think. You are too immature for a healthy relationship and definitely too immature to raise a child.

[DrPepper12]

You're engaged and living together and you are worried about mom? You're adultish but you gotta take the next step and DGAF what she says or thinks.

[gatixek710]

why would you kill your child? You claim to be 23, you're engaged. Get married now and raise your baby. your mom will be fine.

[Anonymous]

Talk to your mom about how great pregnancy sex is.

[Anonymous]

If you're old enough to get married then having a baby is no problem. Your mother should understand this.

[nawtee_me]

Yes tell her that you are having the baby. How does your fiancé feel? Or does he know?

[elaphe]

You have a man that you plan on marrying and that support means a lot.

[noohair]

unexpectedly? Virgin birth? You are an adult. Go tell mommy>

[Bklynbadboy12]

How can she be mad your a grown woman out on your own. She's gonna be happy for you

[Woyboy]

If she gets mad oh well move on and love the baby

[Anonymous]

Having sex before marriage is a sin, sister, did you know that?

[Opinion Owner]

If you are Catholic

[SugarSugarplum]

Unwanted pregnancy is literally #FAFO

[Jmmmfi4]

YOU'RE GONNA NEED SUPPORT I SAY YES

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

Like that movie It?