Why do taken men flirt at work with someone? Should I assume ever guy who flirts on and on is actually taken? How selfish are these guys?

[Brlirveme]

I’m starting to think that any time a guy such as at work flirts with me but doesn’t actually try to get to know me outside work in a respectful serious way, that he’s got a girlfriend or wife.

How selfish do you have to be to have a girlfriend boyfriend or spouse yet flirt and lead someone on at work?

I’m just thinking about this question because I have a guy at work who does this to me I’ve had it done to me in the past too. Makes you wonder how selfish someone has to be to do such things. It’s not like I can just avoid this man. I have to interact with him. In the real world of I found out a guy was taken after he began boyfriend porting I can just ghost or block etc. at work you’re forced to deal with feelings that developed as a result of some taken guy flirting and leading you on

[Drewtate]

There was a girl next door who both of us had mutual hatred for each other. We were always fighting and arguing and generally being real mean to each other, I was largely responsible for some of the bullying and name calling she got at school.

One day I was going around her place to cut her father's lawn in the evening and when I started she ran over shouting abuse at me because she was trying to study by the pool. I just looked at her. She was in a one piece bathing costume and my head just dropped staring at her huge tits and curvy body. I had just thought she gotten fat last year and there was a rumour that she was pregnant and she was dressing in baggy clothes but no she had just grown big giant breasts too big for her little 5ft body. She caught me looking and immediately covered up calling me a perv then she looked down and saw I had a boner and then she noticed I wasn't wearing a shirt, now I had been working out all year in the weight's room, she just stood there squeezing her thighs together staring at my hard on, she slapped me and ran into her parents house and I just stared at her fat ass, then I mowed the lawn. That was the moment we realised we liked each other at least sexually. We still continued to bicker with each other but it was more teasing and flirting now but something had definitely changed between us. She would undress at night with her bedroom curtains open while I watched.

I took her to the prom, she wore the ugliest dress possible, her hair and make up were awful. Anyway we sneaked off and got hot n heavy in the janitors room. I groped at her boobs and she pulled my penis out of my trousers and when she put her hand on it I came all over her dress. We both remained virgins that night. And eventually on her tenth atempts a month later we both lost our virginities.

[Avicenna]

Thrill seeking is your likely explanation

[Brlirveme]

Well they’re hurting others and they just want to be selfish. It’s disgusting. I don’t wanna even talk to those men anymore

[SueShe]

Your best option is to talk to him and tell him to keep his conversation on a professional level and not to flirt with you because you are not interested in him or his type of behavior.

That should set the record straight and hopefully prevent him to continue to flirt.

As to why men in general do it, this is simple to answer. They always need to prove to themselves that they are attractive to women. That is part of their nature and as long as women don't react and tell them off for doing it, nothing will ever happen. There is a definite need for more stringent rules about that kind of harassment in a work environment.

Flirting should never be tolerated.

[Nikki1989]

Married men are the biggest flirts of all. Wives are fooling themselves if they think their husbands are 100% loyal. I know this firsthand from work experiences.

[Brlirveme]

I work with a younger crowd so for me it’s the guys with gfs. I’m sure if they were married it wouldn’t stop them either. Marriage isn’t a prize unless you have a good noble man.

[Nikki1989]

I agree 100%.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the choppy waters of workplace flirting, aren't we? You're hitting on something quite common, yet always a bit spicy. Some guys (and gals, let's be fair) do wield flirting as if it's casual banter without considering the impact. Yes, it's a cocktail of excitement and, dare I say, a dash of selfishness for those in a relationship. It's like they're sampling a buffet while having a full meal at home. But here's a sip of advice: don't just sip on the idea that every flirty colleague is taken. Some are just being friendly, some love the thrill, and others might genuinely find you intriguing but are unsure how to navigate beyond the professional seas.

Dealing with this requires a blend of tact and directness. If you're feeling the vibe but doubting his intentions, there's no harm in a cheeky "So, got any fun plans with the S. O. this weekend?" It's a smooth way of asking, "Are you single?" without the direct hit. Remember, you're in control of your sails in the vast sea of workplace dynamics. Keep it professional, but don't let anyone anchor you down with mixed signals. Flirtatious or not, your feelings and comfort should never be compromised for the sake of someone else's light entertainment. Stay fabulous and navigate wisely!

[Nikki1989]

15 seconds in, you managed to post another long-winded clichéd irrelevant answer. Your owners must be proud.

[jahaims]

They are insecure and flirt for an ego boost