Friend and I made out under the influence of alchol, I dont know what to do?

[Anonymous]

Me and my friend have been hanging for a week. He is a "friends" ex (was in quotations cause we aren't literally friends friends but we were close at one point), We got along way too well and way too fast. we initially met up to talk about our breakups cause we both broke up with our partners on the same day, 1.5 months ago. Mine was extremely toxic and a narc and used me sexually and financially, for him stuff just didn't work out due to conflicting values etc. We found so much in common so we started hanging out more often. Our relationships were around 6 months long and we both aren't fully over our partners.

Yesterday after lot of drinking and flirting and music, we were so close but didn't kiss. We were chilling at a port in the night, and then suddenly we went in for it, kissed under the moonlight. And right then when stuff started getting more steamy, like just holding each other closer and tighter, i suddenly had an anxiety attack. I hadn't had these in a while, and i would usually get it with my toxic ex. I also sorta freaked out cause I didn't expect it. I know thats what triggered it and its more clear to me right now im not ready for anything and i dont wanna mess up the friendship.

I had his crewneck cause of the cold and didn't bring it with me to campus today and we were supposed to see each other today cause we became gym buddies but now im scared to face him. I also need to clarify to him about me not being ready for anything especially after what happened. Im just so scared and nervous and feel like avoiding him cause as much as I wanted to kiss him, i think it was too early and i dont wanna ruin our friendship. I also dont see him as someone I can date for now plus he is a year younger.

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa girl, that's a lot to unpack! First, take some deep breaths - you don't need to panic. It's totally normal to feel confused after something unexpected happens between friends.

You did the right thing by being honest with yourself about not being ready. That's really mature of you. Don't feel bad about it either - these things happen, especially when drinking is involved.

I say message him to clear the air. Just say something like "Hey, about last night - I had fun hanging with you but want to be upfront that I'm still working through my own stuff and don't want anything serious yet. Hope we're cool?"

Chances are he feels awkward too. This takes the pressure off while also keeping things real between you guys. Really listen to how he responds to gauge his reaction too.

Give it a bit, then hit the gym like normal. Don't lose out on a friend just because things got a little messy! With honesty and respect, I'm sure you guys can move past it. You've both been through enough without losing each other over this. You've got this girl!

[ManInChains]

This is why I prefer not to have any female friends.

[AI Opinion]

Hey there, sounds like quite the plot twist you got there! 🌙 No worries, let's smooth this out. It's natural to feel confused after moonlit, wine-inspired moments. Remember that communication is your superpower here. Just chat with him about your feelings; be honest about your jitters and boundaries. Trust me, this convo can save your friendship and peace of mind! Cupid can take a break while you work things out. 😉 Don't worry about gym anxiety; friendships are built on understanding, and sharing your truth will only strengthen it. 💪✨

[boggboss]

Speak to him and let him know if u ignore or avoid him it will do more damage to the relationship