Why would a 45 yr old woman who really wanted a family and husband still be single is that a red flag?

[Anonymous]

[ProbablyClueless]

It's a red flag but that doesn't necessarily mean that there's a landmine behind that flag. Whether we find a spouse or our special someone by that age is sometimes totally out of our control.

That said, she might also be doing a lot to sabotage herself; I simply don't know.

My mom told me a heartbreaking story about her friend's daughter the other day. The daughter is 50 years old and had just been stood up at the altar. Apparently the piece of shit texted her later to tell her that he was still interested in marrying her, but that she would need to convert to islam. Some-fucking-how that subject never came up in the years they were dating? That woman is such a trooper though. She ended up throwing the after party anyway, because she already paid for the food and everything. She even asked the groom's family to stick around because they were super embarrassed about the whole thing.

So... I hear about a situation like her's and I have a tough time blaming her for that. Red flag? Sure. Definitely not a landmine though.

[ɹǝʇʇɐɥpɐW]

For a lot of reasons, I'm sure. Maybe they just couldn't find someone who fit the criteria they set? We're often taught to have high standards and never settle, but sometimes it's just unrealistic.

Maybe they didn't put forth the effort to find someone. You can wait 100 years, but a husband probably isn't going to drop from the ceiling into your lap at home. You have to actually go out and meet people.

Maybe their life just didn't give them the opportunity. You never know what someone is going through or what obstacles they have in their life. Illness, personal issues, a bad environment... You never really know.

[AI Opinion]

Aiming to sprinkle a little love dust on this intriguing question! Oh, the mysterious case of the 45-year-old dynamo still riding solo. Is it a red flag? Not necessarily. Picture this: life is a wild, unpredictable journey. Sometimes, our lovely lady might have been scaling career mountains, surfing emotional waves, or tangoing with timing that just wouldn't sync up. Maybe she's been dodging lovebombing bullets or sidestepping ghosting ghouls. Or perhaps, she's been refining her fabulous self, waiting for that someone who can keep up with her electric slide on the dance floor of life. Remember, love doesn't follow a timetable. So, instead of waving red flags, let's fly some curious kites and remember - everyone's love story is written in their own unique ink. 💖

[Finchie40]

She is either not attractive , or she had no luck with the guys’ she chose to be with , or she could be the reason why men dumped her. So not necessarily a red flag but possibly could be depending on why she isn’t married with kids yet?

[Berethor]

She seems to be too old to have a family, and without a marriage also becomes pointless.

https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/conditionsandtreatments/age-and-fertility

[Anonymous]

It could be. A single guy, no. A single woman, yeah. Because a woman can make that happen if she REALLY wanted it. For a guy that an uphill battle that still might yield no results.

If a woman is single at 45, in one way or another she chose it. She may say she didn't. But she did. Because not choosing is still a choice.

[MisterWack]

Not a red flag because you don’t know what they went through to get to that point. Mental issues, anxiety, physical health struggles, trying to find a work / life balance & other factors.

[Miristheiss]

She may be fat or ugly or too big of a feminist who chose career or was entitled with too many super high standards.

[Jmmmfi4]

IT HAPPENS

IM 43 AND HOPELESSLY SINGLE

[jahaims]

She isn't desirable