People in relationships, if you cross paths with someone who would have been a romantic interest, had you not been in one already. What do you do?

[DreamCrescent]

Have you ever wished you were single? Do you unconsciously start treating your partner differently? How long does the feeling of “if only” last?

[Nikki1989]

Obviously, you take time to reflect on your current relationship and whether it's fulfilling your needs and desires. If you're happy and committed, reaffirm your feelings for your partner.

[DJB72]

A feeling isn't the problem. It only becomes a problem depending what you do with it.

[DreamCrescent]

yeah but i think the background feeling is bound to change your behavior a bit towards your partner, no? and i guess my question is does it linger? Do you act on it and if so, how?

I’m not asking “are you tempted to cheat” I’m just wondering if that what if feeling gnaws a little

[DJB72]

Personally I push it out of my head. There's other stuff in my life that is a problem without that.

[jahaims]

Once in a relationship I have zero romantic or sexual urges for others.

[Ironco]

That feeling never goes away

[DreamCrescent]

😮
whoa.

may i ask whether you’re in a happy relationship or do you resent your partner?

maybe i should have asked only those who would rate their relationship as healthy

[Ironco]

I'm a widower, but the feeling of the one that got away, never goes away.