Can you become romantically interested in someone you weren’t interested in at first?

[Anonymous]

If that happened to you: What changed your perception of that person? And when?

[Ευδεμονια]

Honestly speaking, yes! It happened to me, I became interested in a person at my work place while during first months she arrived I have never seen her as a girl.
It happened gradually, since we started talking and having a more near work relationship.
I started appreciating her way to be and her appearance too, while before I have never watched her so well.


So, it can happen to change perspective over people, it’s normal. I think it’s easier with proximity and when there’s at least a friendly relationship.

[avery58]

Most likely no. Although when I was younger I did, since that person lovebombed me with lies. I consider it was more of manipulation and not being mature enough to realize it, more than anything else. So I don't see it as it was true love.

But these days if I don't have an interest in them from the start, I just never will. I'm pretty picky tbh. Plus I learned not to compromise thanks to that past experience.

[jennifer_bloom]

Most guys can increase or decrease my desire for them through their behaviour or disclosure of mind. There are exceptions, where it does not matter who they are, I will never like them. People too old or too young fall into this category.

[Nikki1989]

It can happen.