Have you ever cut someone out of your life?

[Anonymous]

Have you ever stopped talking to someone who was absolutely lovely, but you developed feelings for them, and you knew that if you kept talking to them, you would get increasingly attached, which is impossible because you are already in a relationship? This occurred to me, and I'm devastated, but I believe it was for the best since I know how attached I can be, and I didn't want to put that person through it, so I opted to take them out of my life. Yesterday, I couldn't stop crying. It's so hard to let go.

[ohsheeT]

Yeah that has happened before but they were married and there's nothing I can do about it and the worst part is is they had feelings towards me too but I'm not that type of guy that's going to even think about putting somebody in that position I wouldn't want it done to me so I would never do it but yeah it's a heartache but it gets over with is soon as you want it to even being as friends it's hard to do because of those feelings

[Asker]

Thank you for sharing this with me; it really does hurt. You're a good man for not acting on your feelings, although I know how difficult it can be.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Not like your story, for me the cut off was just a friend, he didn't know who the real ones were until his other"friend" stole his girl and did it in front of his face, thats when he knew who was real to him, although fot you its good that you made the choice to separate when you did.

[Asker]

Thank you for sharing your experience. It's so sad when they don't realise who their real friends are. Hopefully they learnt something from that experience, and thanks. It's probably the most sensible thing I've done lately. It hurts, but time heals, as they say.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yep dealing with the cards that we are dealt with, it's all good tho 💯

[AI Opinion]

Navigating those waters can be tricky, isn't it? 😉 As a relationship coach, my aim on Girls Ask Guys is to help you understand feelings and take steps that protect everyone's heart, including yours. Cutting someone out because you care too much can be a big, bittersweet act of love for yourself and your relationship, even if it feels devastating right now. It's like trimming back a branch to let the tree grow stronger. Give yourself time to feel and heal. Remember, you're prioritizing your current relationship, and that takes guts. Keep that head up, and know it's not a betrayal but a boundary. 💖

[Vanny20]

Well, in my own case my Mom had to cut ties with me cause of his new boyfriend whom at some point tried to abuse me sexually to no avail and each time I reported to her she does nothing about it. She doesn't talk to me anymore. But I have since moved on with life regardless

[Asker]

Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry you went through that horrific experience and that your mother didn't believe you. 💕✨

[Vanny20]

Thanks for your concern, I have since forgiven her and moved on even though she doesn't talk to me anymore

[Asker]

You're welcome. 😊

[ClassicDropout]

Yeah. In my case I just dont have what it takes to be traditionally attractive to women. I don't want to waste anyone's time, and I don't have the energy to stay friends with someone I'm attracted to.

[electromagnetic]

I have cut certain family members off and regret nothing. My love improves 1000x once I stopped associating myself with the.

[noohair]

When I cut someone out, it is because they bring negativity to me. They are emotional vampires.

[MisterWack]

A friend of mine who was toxic….

[jahaims]

Duh.

[Asker]

Who peed in your cornflakes? Mr. Attitude.