Does she raise a good point?

[Anonymous]

My mum suggested that any man who pretends that he’s sick after inviting you out on a date, to blow you off, even if you’re only in a casual relationship, who doesn’t respect you enough to eat dinner with you, isn’t worthy of hooking up with.

I only wanted something casual in the beginning; because I was feeling lonely for a man’s touch, after going 6 years without and his touch is the best I’ve ever had. Is respect more important than having a good time? Am I best to drop him; when there are nicer guys hitting on me for relationships?

Updates

1 y

I mean, other guys, as in wanting to properly date. Not just have sex. I don’t have a reputation, because I hooked up with someone from really far away who isn’t from the same social circles I’m involved with. I’m also very careful of whom I share this stuff with. So I come across in behaviour and nature as someone who only wants to fall in love.

[Finchie40]

Listen to your mom , don’t just settle for some guy that just wants to get off on you that just wants to use you for his convenience, understand you deserve better than that shit. A guy or girl that truly values you and wants to be close to you makes you their top priority and doesn’t treat you like a convenience. They want to be close to you as much as they possibly can and give to you the same way they want to receive from you. They will call you every day if they really like you , not just call you when it’s convenient for them , the phone works both ways , they don’t make excuses not to see you period , or wait until the last second to cancel plans with you. Now understand people can get sick and they don’t want you getting sick but they will still give you an option on whether you want to see them or not , not just assume they know the answer , so this guy sounds like he is just weighing his options and keeping you as a convenience, don’t waste your time with people like that , you will only be hurting yourself if you fall for that nonsense. If someone can not give to you the same way you are giving to them , walk the other way and don’t even waste anymore of your time on them. People that need space and people that make excuses are selfish people that only care about themselves and what is best for themselves , they don’t really care about your feelings they just like what they can receive from you without having to give to you

[Nikki1989]

Your mom is onto something.

Focus on finding someone who values you and your time. Don't settle for someone who is not willing to put in the effort.

[Daniela1982]

Who only wants to fall in love? The way you sound you just want a fuck buddy. Call it what it is.

[Asker]

That was indeed all I wanted. He’s the one who keeps talking about spending more time together. So I was up front and asked him to clarify what he’s after

[EmmaMary]

I think you already know in your heart of hearts that your mum is absolutely right.