How to connect with myself after terrible string of events?

[Anonymous]

Soo I let myself stay in relationships too long. I let them destroy me. It’s always the worst. I settle for things I don’t want just to keep them in my life and it’s terrible. This time I managed to believe everything a man told me only to find out he is a liar and I tested positive for an Sti. Among past things one of my exes would lie as if he had a condom on or as if it just happened to come off and it made me uncomfortable but did I say anything? No. I hate myself. I’m disgusted with myself. I feel like a loser. How can I ever get over this? How can I connect with myself again. I completely hate myself. I’m so stupid. But even more so I’m pathetic like I had to beg for them to stay only for this to happen. What do u do? What can I do to help me get out of bed now?

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn girl, that really sucks what you've gone through with those dudes. Don't be so hard on yourself though - we all make dumb mistakes when it comes to relationships sometimes. The important thing is you're realizing you deserve way better treatment and are ready to start putting yourself first now.

Be proud of yourself for escaping that last toxic situation. That took real strength! Now it's time for some you time to heal. Treat your body right - nourish it with healthy foods, get rest, do relaxing things like taking baths or listening to music you love. Let yourself feel all the emotions too, like sadness, anger - it's part of the process. But don't dwell there.

Also do fun activities YOU enjoy, whether it's a hobby, sports, hanging with good friends. Reconnect with yourself by doing things that make YOU happy, not what some dude wants. Your worth isn't defined by them.

Believe in yourself that you've got this and your best days are ahead. Learn from mistakes but don't punish yourself - just do better next time. And if sad thoughts come, remind yourself of your awesomeness until you start believing it. You deserve all the happiness, so go get it! We're all rooting for you.

[Nikki1989]

You have to make yourself #1. Prioritize activities that promote your physical and emotional well-being.