Married guy? Crazy age gap?

[Anonymous]

Okay, so this sucks more than anything. The guy I’ve been dating-turns out he is actually married, and he hasn’t talked about separation/divorce with her at all. I am so so so in love with him. I know I sound like a complete idiot, especially with what I have found. I know. A complete, horrible dumbass. I don’t know what to do. Should I tell her? I know that she’ll ruin me as well in the process. I’ve been trying to think of a way. Is it horrible of me to hope that he’s okay? I know it is. Because he deserves it. But I can’t help but think of everything he’s done for me and helped me through. I don’t know. I just don’t know. Please someone help. I can’t talk to my family or my friends about this. He is the only thing I have. The only person I am happy with. And it’s ruined. He’s the only one. I’m 23, he’s 47. I’m so lost. I don’t know. He has done everything to help me, through thick and thin. I don’t know. I feel like I’m blinded, but I just don’t know what to do. He has been my best friend for so long. I have told him everything. Things I have shared with nobody else. Please, please provide some advice. I just feel hopeless and if I lose him, I’ll have nothing. Just me-worthless. He has been absolutely everything to me. My friend, my mentor, my boyfriend-I know it sounds gross to some people, but he is everything to me. Please what can I do? I have told him that I won’t see him anymore because of what I have found out, and he has said that he’s leaving his wife for me. But that’s terrible. At the same time, would he just be stringing me along? Is he just saying that? Please I don’t know. I just need someone’s input. Anything would help. To set my mind straight.

[Finchie40]

Don’t contact him or talk to him until he proves to you that he left his wife for you , if he doesn’t then just move on

[Ironic_Method]

As someone who is married and have had younger partners (except the difference here is my wife is encouraging), I would be very cautious.

Remember that he loved this woman enough to marry her and is now betraying her by being with someone else. What makes you think you would be any different?

Even if someone has good traits, it doesn't mean they make good partners.

[jazzy34]

What a loser. 🙄 (him, not you). You don’t want a man who will leave another woman for you. History usually repeats itself. Therefore, walk away. You’ll be okay. Also, no need to tell the wife. She probably knows about that husband of hers.

[smashleyy]

Men that have affairs almost never leave their wives, if they do is that really the kind of man you want? Lose them how you got them.

[AI Opinion]

Hey beautiful soul! 💔 Sounds like you're caught in quite a whirlwind. The heart can truly be misguided when love's involved. It's not horrible to care for him, but let's talk about those red flags! 🚩 If he's already deceived his wife, there's a chance he might be spinning stories, playing both sides. You've got to prioritize your peace and self-respect. It's crucial to think about whether his unending lovebombing justifies the risk of the drama you're tangled in. You have so much to offer; don't forget your worth. Be the queen who demands loyalty and transparency. Sending hugs and clarity your way! 💖🌟

[Zackareen]

When he's just short of 70 you'll only be only 43. All these wide age gap relationships are doomed from the off.

[Gwendoline]

Walk away, run even.