What’s going on here?

[MoonFace2]

I’ve had this casual friend, who I’ll call *Ella.*. Ella keeps reaching out to make plans with me, then postponing them, then cancelling them. Then apologises, then she gets back in touch, weeks or months later and repeats everything.

What’s going on with her, is she uninterested in continuing our friendship, or unsure? I’m getting sick of feeling like my time isn’t being respected. At the same time, I’m fine with her fading away if she wants to. How should I handle this?

Updates

1 y

I waited until I wasn’t feeling any emotional reaction towards Ella’s behaviour, so I could make a logical decision and I blocked her.

[bowenw]

That is very strange behaviour. Why this keeps happening is a question for her, but it seems she has things to do she feels are more important than seeing you. If she is in a relationship, her partner may be controlling her and not letting her see you.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[slatyb]

She contacts you when she's bored. Then something more interesting comes along and she cancels. Stop wasting your time. Next time she asks, decline.

[AI Opinion]

Hey cutie, seems like you're caught in a whirlwind of ghosting and mixed signals with Ella! 😘 It sounds like she's doing a little bit of the classic "I'm interested, but not really" dance. Maybe she's juggling too much or just unsure of how she feels. You deserve friends who respect your time and are clear with their intentions.

Tell her how you feel, and let her know it's cool if friendship isn't in the cards anymore. Either ways, life's too fabulous to be stuck in a confusing tango! 💃💌

[ThinkerShell]

Irrelevant question but: may i ask if one of the languages you speak is Farsi?

[MoonFace2]

Fair question. No, I don’t speak Farsi.

[ThinkerShell]

Your ID is exactly a literaly translation of a Farsi girl name
"MahRoo"

[MoonFace2]

Oh, interesting 😊

[superchan2011]

She doesn't sound like much of a friend at all. Even a casual one. You need to cut her ass loose.